Psychology and mindset of an ex

[Rowen]

Does it mean anything if your ex while in LC with you every couple days will admit that they arne't doing well.

 

IE: "ive needed some cheering up these days"

 

"i'm doing........... ok"

 

Or almost apologizing for neglecting you or even breaking up with you?

 

IE:

 

"studying has been over bearing on me.. and stress full. It puts me in weird moods, you know this better than anyone i know"

 

OR she initiates all contact after period of NC and to start conversations says meaningless things like "i saw your photos on facebook"

 

And for the first time since the breakup "it was nice speaking with you"

 

Now.. what is the psychology behind this... the motive? I know it could be anything from.. trying to warm up to me.. almost aplogize for her coldness or maybe it's guilt?

 

I'm glad she started talking to me again for sure, beucase I feel we've made progress as friends at least.......

 

Now the girl I dated, at times she would not admit if something was wrong. Now she has called me one or two times and admitted she misses me. But at times during our relationship I knew something was wrong (later found out, it was health or talked to someone from her past that hurt her) etc.. but she would say "i'm a fighter"

 

She has been through alot, but at times would bottle it up.

 

The psychological mindset and games post breakup are remarkably complex and frusterating.

 

:Note all this contact happend after I stepped back, and one day called her on her bday, she was very receptive to it.

[Yernasia Quorelios]

You're very insightful and are doing exactly the right thing by stepping back and letting her figure it all out without you putting pressure on her but being available to her.

 

She will either come to the conclusion that you are the best thing that ever happened to her or that she needs something else. In the meantime get on with your own life. It's amazing how easy it is to plan for alternative futures simultaneously which is what most dumpers tend to do. Dumpees are initially too emotionally wrought to realise this .

 

Good luck:).

[thelegend]

brother Rowen the worst thing a man could do is try to figure out what a woman is thinking. But i will say this obviously she still has feelings for you. She still wants you. If i were you i would take my time and do my own thing. When they see other women are interested in you your stock doubles almost triples. No woman wants a man that nobody else doesn't want. Reverse the roles instead of you trying to figure out what this and that means have her trying to figure you out. Trust me women love trying to figure us out way more than we could imagine. Let her know you'll live for her but you won't stop living if she's not there.

[My_Other_I]

brother Rowen the worst thing a man could do is try to figure out what a woman is thinking.

 

:lmao::lmao:

Often we can't even figure out what we're thinking!

:lmao::lmao:

[Rowen]

Men are not complicated..... women need to understand this. Instead of trying to use subtle female signs to tell us something, just tell it to our face and wel understand! SO MUCH WOULD BE AVOIDED>

[SYRACUSE03]

Rowen...you must be a f***ing genius! This is the most simple concept but for some reason or another, most women have this philosophy that men are mindreaders. Granted, we should catch some subtle signs but there are many more times for plain old conversation. Instead, they bottle it up and hit you with it when something goes wrong! Here's an example. You get into an argument because you didn't take out the trash. Then it becomes "I don't like your snoring and you didn't cut the grass and you don't pick up after yourself". Many people argue and it's only natural but people should always keep it to the topic at hand. I agree...so much would be avoided.

 

Rowen, this is the time to pounce! You need to be less unavailable to create some more attraction and make her think about what she is missing. Good luck and I hope things work out for you.