Creeped Out

[Cenerentola]

I live with a guy who has said a few things that have sort of creeped me out and I wanted to get some feedback from everyone.

 

He has a personality that is always smiling. I mean, he literally ALWAYS has a smile on his face. Even when he tells you he was beat up by a group of guys and had his nose broken, he still smiles. I have never seen him talk once without a smile on his face. Not that this is a bad thing, I smile a lot too, but I mean I have literally never seen him without a smile on his face. He always talks very loud and always seems extremely happy and jovial and joking around. Never any other way. I thought that was a little odd at first, because he did not seem to display any other emotions but "happy go lucky" but nothing too odd.

 

Then as I got to know him more, he made a comment when talking about some people that he knew that he did not care about them, that he just wanted someone to hang out with. I remember thinking that was a bit strange, but I shrugged it off.

 

Then he was talking about girls and said he never cares when he breaks up with anyone. He gave an example of a girl he dated over the summer for three months and said how he just wanted someone to have some fun with and he really did not care after that. He said he has always been this way, that he never cares when relationships end or gets upset. He does not understand people who get hurt when a relationship ends. He also said that he wants to get married but really does not care if he is in love with the person, he just wants someone who is "ok."

 

Then he said at another point that he wished we could go back to the times when women were objects and were not allowed to have an opinion. When I said that wasn't nice, he said "well, thats just what would be good for me!"

 

Ok, so all these things were starting to seem strange. He also talks about how his friends are verbally abusive to their girlfriends and that he thinks girls like this.

 

But the thing that really wierded me out was when the other day, I was really sick and talking to him about how I am sick, he said, "hey, I have an idea, why don't we make all our roommates sick so they can suffer."

 

He completely creeped me out. I mean he really scared me.

 

I was just wondering what other people think. I am beginning to think the things he said earlier are signs of someone who just does not care about other people, only wants people around for what he can get out of them (ie entertainment, fun, etc) and could care less what happens to them. I mean, why would he say he does not care about the people he was hanging out with, his girlfriends, etc.?

 

Thanks!

[torranceshipman]

I'm being serious when I say...maybe mention his behaviour to a counsellor or someone at college (I presume you are sharing student apartments or something?). Just say its been playing on your mind a bit, nothings happened, it might be absolutely nothing - but its always worth flagging these things up, and worth having something noted somewhere. Also I'd suggest seeing if you can get a transfer as he'd creep me out big time too. Sociopaths and psychopaths are kinda defined by their lack of ability to empathise with others, plus he sounds like he has problems with respecting women, and his friends sound like they do too! I don't want to make a drama of it, but he seems to have a scary lack of ability to empathise with anyone and that isnt normal.

 

Might be nothing but a lack of social skills on his part - but you can never be too careful and intuition is a powerful thing! (-: