Phateless Posted November 19, 2007 Share Posted November 19, 2007 I saw the thread "why do people cheat" and it inspired me to create this thread. (seriously, lol) Sooo... what are your biggest and worst rationalizations and self-crippling behaviors? I thought this might be kind of fun, and at the same time help us get this crap out into the open where we can try to shoot it down. Mine is procrastination and my rationalization is that "i'll only open the computer for a MINUTE and then get right to work." we all know that never happens, lol. I'm also chronicly (chronically?) late because I underestimate the time it takes to leave the house and drive somewhere. Stupid, I know. So, LSers, show me what you got! Link to post Share on other sites
heatherd1201 Posted November 19, 2007 Share Posted November 19, 2007 I saw the thread "why do people cheat" and it inspired me to create this thread. (seriously, lol) Sooo... what are your biggest and worst rationalizations and self-crippling behaviors? I thought this might be kind of fun, and at the same time help us get this crap out into the open where we can try to shoot it down. Mine is procrastination and my rationalization is that "i'll only open the computer for a MINUTE and then get right to work." we all know that never happens, lol. I'm also chronicly (chronically?) late because I underestimate the time it takes to leave the house and drive somewhere. Stupid, I know. So, LSers, show me what you got! As far as being late to work - I am the same way. Ive been working here long enough to know that 15 minutes is not enough time and yet i will continue to get ready until quarter to 8 and be late every time..... My self crippling behavior? hm.....i would have to say "the need" to please everyone. I will put everyone I know before me and dont often satisfy my own needs because of it. This is especially harder while planning a wedding. I know that I cant please everyone but Im losing my mind trying to do it anyway! Link to post Share on other sites
dutchie Posted November 19, 2007 Share Posted November 19, 2007 Phateless, I also have a problem with the opening the computer for just a "minute" (like I just did now! I should be studying for an exam I have tonight...)and being late. Above that, my MOST self-crippling behavior is not asking for help. For some reason, I feel it necessary to do EVERYTHING myself and then feel either hostile and resentful or exhausted and stupid for not just asking someone to pitch in or seek help that I need. Sucks. I really hate these things about myself. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Phateless Posted November 19, 2007 Author Share Posted November 19, 2007 Phateless, I also have a problem with the opening the computer for just a "minute" (like I just did now! I should be studying for an exam I have tonight...)and being late. Above that, my MOST self-crippling behavior is not asking for help. For some reason, I feel it necessary to do EVERYTHING myself and then feel either hostile and resentful or exhausted and stupid for not just asking someone to pitch in or seek help that I need. Sucks. I really hate these things about myself. I can relate on some level. So what is the best way for your friends to break through that barrier and help you? Link to post Share on other sites
Yosef Posted November 19, 2007 Share Posted November 19, 2007 My biggest self-crippling behavior... I am WAY too hard on myself. I always feel inadequate, stupid (even despite my straight-A's) and never good enough. Everybody that knows me has said that they've never seen anyone as hard on themselves as I. I expect too much from myself and I am too unhappy with anything I accomplish. I often recieve awards and just throw them aside like junk mail. I have my perfectionistic tendancies. It comes with being very idealistic. Link to post Share on other sites
dutchie Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 I can relate on some level. So what is the best way for your friends to break through that barrier and help you? Friends that know me well usually ask a million times if I want help and sometimes have to kind of snap at me when I refuse help. They have to take over in a way, otherwise I will just continue on micromanaging everything. This is part of the reason I live alone now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Phateless Posted November 20, 2007 Author Share Posted November 20, 2007 Friends that know me well usually ask a million times if I want help and sometimes have to kind of snap at me when I refuse help. They have to take over in a way, otherwise I will just continue on micromanaging everything. This is part of the reason I live alone now. When some of my friends need help, I have to pretend that I'm allowing them to have me come be with them at first, then I just chill and back off once I'm there, and they open up. So I guess when someone needs help, don't be shy about forcing my way in if necessary? I usually try to avoid that. Link to post Share on other sites
dutchie Posted November 21, 2007 Share Posted November 21, 2007 When some of my friends need help, I have to pretend that I'm allowing them to have me come be with them at first, then I just chill and back off once I'm there, and they open up. So I guess when someone needs help, don't be shy about forcing my way in if necessary? I usually try to avoid that. Yeah, being really forward may not be right in every circumstance, but I just happen to be REALLY stubborn. Link to post Share on other sites
dutchie Posted November 21, 2007 Share Posted November 21, 2007 Yeah, being really forward may not be right in every circumstance, but I just happen to be REALLY stubborn. And maybe a bit narcissistic, too. Link to post Share on other sites
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