second chances are possible

[confuzd]

To everyone who is going through what is probably the most painful experience in your short time on this earth. The loss of a love one, and im not talking about death Im talking about breaking up, being dumped, cheated on, lied too, hurt, dragged through the mud, and any other colorful analogy you would like to add.

 

Know that there is a light at the end, maybe not for all, and maybe not for most, but if you think that there is one for you then you may be right.

 

We all make mistakes, and most of the time, we dont realize what we have until it is gone, unfortunately when this prinicipal relates to human beings things can become very complicated.

 

If your wife left you, or your husband abandoned you, and you feel that it is worth getting back together, just know that it is possible.

 

It will probably be the hardest, most frustrating, and gut wrenching experience, but if you truly feel it is worth it then it is possible.

 

First thing I recommend is to never lose hope, once hope is lost you have lost.

 

second is never to chase, you will never catch what you blatantly chase. You will pursue, but not in a blatant manner.

 

sometimes it is necessary to totally back off, somes time a little sometimes a lot, but it may be necessary in many situations.

 

Work on bettering yourself, You must make yourself desirable. Do what makes you happy, I know that in these times nothing will make you fully happy, but try. Even if you have to fake it til you make it, please do something that would normally bring you joy.

 

Your ex will not come back to a sorry crying sap, pick yourself up by the bootstraps and move on with your life.

 

beleive me he/she will take notice.

 

always be nice and respectful, even if you want to cuss them out, refrain.

 

detatch, do not get caught up with their actions, they will clearly see the effect they have on you, and will try to control you through their actions.

 

dont beleive what they say, many are confused and will say anything.

 

Be understanding, even if they are speaking chinese (assuming you don't speak chinese) act as if you understand, and agree and support their feelings.

 

and most importantly don't lose hope

 

 

here is my story, http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t123478/

 

good luck.

 

confuzd

[sderenzi]

:love:How terribly boring, their probably cheating on you ehh?