simple Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 So yesterday I found out that after 8 years of marriage and three kids my wife is no longer sure she made the right decision marrying me. she's been cyber-stalking an ex boyfriend to whom I always feel compared, and to whom i apparently do not measure up. she says there is no passion in our relationship. she's right about that, though i have tried everything i could possibly do to make it better for her. I have upped the output of housework, taking care of the kids, catering to her needs, making romantic gestures, and for all this i'm still second best. I'm just about ready to tell her to go found out what she needs to from the ex. I can't deal with being just a roomate and friend any more. I want her to get whatever closure she needs so that she can finally fully commit to this relationship and making it the best it could possibly be rather than wasting energy worrying about decisions she made before we even met. Either that or she finds that she does have a future with the ex. If so i'll wish her well because really her happiness is the only thing that matters to me. I never thought it would get to this point but I really just don't know what to do anymore. I look at my kids and wonder if they would be better off with parents who are no longer dead inside even if it means they cannot be together. I don't even feel like going home tonight. I can't face this right now. We have her relatives coming in for the holidays and I don't have the strength to put on the happy face and pretend that everything is ok when I feel like my world is crumbling beneath my feet. I have no friends, no where to go, and almost no hope left. Link to post Share on other sites
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