beetlebum Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 hello, my ex boyfriend called me last week, i was so surprised as i hadnt heard from him for a year. we broke up messily about 4 years ago and since then he has been living with his girlfriend. when he last spoke to me he told me that he does still think about me an awful lot but he never says anymore than that. last week he said that he wants to come and visit me where im staying... i was shocked as i did not invite him to come. and i dont think his current girlfriend knows that he called me. does this show that he is just after for what he can get from me or maybe he still has some regrets and feelings for me? Link to post Share on other sites
nittygritty Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 hello, my ex boyfriend called me last week, i was so surprised as i hadnt heard from him for a year. we broke up messily about 4 years ago and since then he has been living with his girlfriend. when he last spoke to me he told me that he does still think about me an awful lot but he never says anymore than that. last week he said that he wants to come and visit me where im staying... i was shocked as i did not invite him to come. and i dont think his current girlfriend knows that he called me. does this show that he is just after for what he can get from me or maybe he still has some regrets and feelings for me? It shows that he's a cheater. Link to post Share on other sites
torranceshipman Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 I agree with NittyGritty! My ex recently called me too (but I didnt reply ) then he put the mother of all flirting efforts on me, all of which I knocked back because I was so mad at him for doin it when he had a girlfriend. I had a huge go at him, telling him not to disrespect me and his girlfriend - and finally, he apologised and stopped (but we still email but 100% friends only behaviour!)...I really like the guy still, but he has now had the clear msg that he has to be single before I'd touch him with a bargepole. I think you should do the same thing-show him he needs to respect you! One thing I did was to tell the guy in one line of an email (no extended discussion) that I still liked him but that was never to be mentioned again unless he was single - and that his flirting clearly indicated that he likes me, so what the heck is up with that? He then said straight out that he likes me too. So anyway who knows what the guy will/wont do, but it makes him realise I'm not just an 'option' to him, and I'm also not an option to him - at all - while he has a girlfriend. If you call him out on his intentions, and be friendly but blunt, and he has to tell you exacly why he is acting like this with you - he can't play around with your feelings or leave you wondering anymore. And for goodness sake, if he makes a move on you do NOT on any account let anything happen as it'll only get messier with more heartbreak for you! Link to post Share on other sites
Lee725 Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 does this show that he is just after for what he can get from me or maybe he still has some regrets and feelings for me? Hi beetlebum, in my experience my ex's only come calling when something is wrong in their new relationship. Their partner may make them feel a certain way so they go to the ex for the "ego" fix. I know that this is not the case all the time, but when my ex and his girl are fighting he tries to call me. Last time he did it i gave him a mouthful and told him not to contact me anymore......been there done that, i dont want to give him another chance to hurt me. Link to post Share on other sites
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