Da_1_n_OnlyN3na Posted November 21, 2007 Share Posted November 21, 2007 ok well me and my boyfriend always have problems because i hate when he smokes weed and he lies to me when he is going to smoke and i hate that shyt..i always told him to stop because i notice that his mood changes and hes different with me..its like hes cheating on me with mary j. grr...what does she have that i dont?... he always says hes going to stop but he doesnt mayb for a while but then he says that he got peered pressured so he ends up doing it again..hahaha please..well i dont understand whats so hard about quitting...my thing is drinking and i know my limits i dont get addicted to it i just like it because it relaxes me and makes me think happier stuff and i can say anything that i want.. it doesnt make me shy.. lol well anyways ive been thinking and i really want to experience what my bf goes through and ive decided to give weed a shot (even though ive tried it before and i just dont see the point of it except make mi fatter)... people usually do the things that they are told NOT to do so, if i just dont tell my boyfriend anything and let him smoke and not get mad if he does it... do you think he will slowly quit since i wont be stopping him or showing that i dont care like i usually do? please give me some advice...thank you! Link to post Share on other sites
littlekitty Posted November 22, 2007 Share Posted November 22, 2007 No, I don't think he'll stop no matter what you do. He has to be in a place to want to stop being a regular user, and he clearly isn't. (Take this from someone who used it for over 15 years and stopped 11 months ago.) You can pressure someone into giving up. Of course he'll say he will, or will even try! He's obviously trying to please you. But you need to accept that it won't happen until he's ready. While MJ isn't addictive in of itself, it is incredibly habit forming, and it is easy to feel reliant on it - even if you actually aren't. So the real question is, can you be with him while he continues this habit? You either need to accept him as is currently, or move on. You can't and won't be able to force him to stop. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Da_1_n_OnlyN3na Posted November 22, 2007 Author Share Posted November 22, 2007 i accept him like he is because i love him but it just makes me mad but im gonna have to deal with it and just hope and wait for him to stop on his own...and i guess he does it also because he gets stressed out just like i like to drink when i am stressed out...i give him to much shyt like i am always tellig him that hes probably cheating on me and he gets mad that i dont trust him as much and he stresses out....i am trying to understand him so i will just let him be and support him... Link to post Share on other sites
littlekitty Posted November 22, 2007 Share Posted November 22, 2007 i guess he does it also because he gets stressed out just like i like to drink when i am stressed out So you both turn to your own substance when stressed? How would you feel if he told you you had to stop drinking as well? I'm not advocating either, just pointing out that you both are using a substance in the same manner. i give him to much shyt like i am always tellig him that hes probably cheating on me and he gets mad that i dont trust him as much and he stresses out....... Sounds like you have a few issues to work on? Perhaps if you work through these, his habit may improve? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Da_1_n_OnlyN3na Posted November 22, 2007 Author Share Posted November 22, 2007 you're right...we went on a break yesterday and he says he needs time for himself for a few days..he says hes going to take this time to change and not be mean to me and i guess i have to work on trusting him more and stop arguing so maybe his habit will slowly fade away....maybe its my fault he smokes and i have to understand him more.. thanx for your advice i really appreciate it i really need al the advice i can get right now Link to post Share on other sites
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