member from forums-chatted with him, what a cocky big shot"

[joel]

well started goin on this forum and also other forums posting my problems looking for advice. this ranged from having hard time getting a gf, getting a date, strict family parenting, lack of social skills, career and what my folks want me to take.

 

so be it one of the members contacted me and said he could help me, give me ur msn addy-so we chatted for like a yr now. never met this guy in person as he goes to school somewhere else ,but comes to vancouver when hes on semester break.

 

this guys is chinese as so am i. a highlight of what he mentions and states

-he made 16k in 3 months disturbuting and selling voo doo dolls

-owns a friggen company-his exact words."i own a friggen company, how aboout you".

-claims to have had 2 gfs at one time and has to get rid of one since he only like one, told me this like repeately, but with differ girls , him always having 2 or more and he has to get rid of em to get one

-i mention i wanted to do trades (plumbing, auto mech, )he says plumbing ppl and girls would look down on you and u will smell like crap, and he said hes too good to be a auto mech."i'm pro". -are ppl and girls that shallow

-asked him if he could set me up with girls-he has lot of female friends, i sent him a pic of myself-he told me that his female friends all said that i was just avg to below avg in looks and that my 2 yr diploma from college is considered too low edcuation.-yes not good enough to set me up and date- thanks for the compliment hey.

 

-told him the amount i had in the bank-he said for my age i should be having more money- how does age and amount in bank-have anything.

-brags how he makes more money than me hrly and that he also younger too. --wow ur nice guy , good way to put someone down. like i care how much u make

 

this guy is 23 now but previously he told me this and that, talked him on the phone 2x's comes off as bragging about his so called accomplishments if its true i'm not sure, and cocky in the way he talks like he better than u . arrogrant like hes the smart guy now it all

 

he also said i wouldn't be able to find a decent to hot looking gf b/c of my lack of social skills. meaning i don't now how to act in social situations. lol we never even met face to face, but just chat on msn -you tellin me u can tell by reading my postings. kind of ignorant and fast to judge hey

he also said my lack of and hard time finding a gf was b/c i had nothing to offer. and u can tell this by how-we hardly now each other. and before he said it was my looks-i'm ok avg looking ok,

 

thinks just b/c ppl on the forum think more like he does-par to his sid emore -that its right, and less ppl think on my side of thinking thats its wrong -lol. opinions right

 

oh ya i delete and blocked this guy. should have done it earlier the guys seems like a fake at times. he just kind of annoying, harassing, and calls names. for all u now he could be just BSing about his so called status and what he makes.

[Elyssa]

I think his status is all in his head. Owns a company eh? Probably a company comprised of himself and his best buddy working in his parent's basement.

 

He was just getting a kick out of putting you down. You don't need that kind of "help" from that jerk.

 

-E

[Ocean-Blue]

He may be a fake, he may not be. Either way, it shouldn't matter to you. This is some guy you met online. What do you care what he thinks of you? Why would you allow him to diminish your self worth so easily? He is not your family nor is he your friend. He is a nobody simply because you two have not really interacted in a substantial, meaningful way...I really wouldn't care what he says about you.

 

Stop seeking validation from strangers. It does you no good and only perpetuates your apparent low self-esteem. Do yourself a favour and stay away from such people.

[Krondore]

this guys is chinese as so am i. a highlight of what he mentions and states

-he made 16k in 3 months disturbuting and selling voo doo dolls

-owns a friggen company-his exact words."i own a friggen company, how aboout you".

-claims to have had 2 gfs at one time and has to get rid of one since he only like one, told me this like repeately, but with differ girls , him always having 2 or more and he has to get rid of em to get one

-i mention i wanted to do trades (plumbing, auto mech, )he says plumbing ppl and girls would look down on you and u will smell like crap, and he said hes too good to be a auto mech."i'm pro". -are ppl and girls that shallow

-asked him if he could set me up with girls-he has lot of female friends, i sent him a pic of myself-he told me that his female friends all said that i was just avg to below avg in looks and that my 2 yr diploma from college is considered too low edcuation.-yes not good enough to set me up and date- thanks for the compliment hey.

 

 

Mnay young men talk a lot of crap to try and look like woment magnets. youll probably find he has no bussiness, no females to go out with and all or pretty much all that he has said was horses**t

 

If he was so great, and had so many females and such, why was he scoping the net to find guys ?

Wouldnt someone who could ( self proclaimed) accact many people need to be checking the net ? wouldnt they have so much of a life they wouldnt have time for it ?

 

I know and get on with loads of females, none are g/fs though.

 

You best bet is be yourself ...a problem most people make is either trying to be someone their not or looking for a partner thats a pinup model in looks and not what they truely seek.

 

Look inside yourself for your answers , not from fake assh*les

[Sunblast]

I don't know, status is status and money is money, and both command respect. I do alright for myself and often don't care for average people, because my standards are higher. Average people hate it and talk sh-t but above average people understand why that is done.

[Pedigree]

I don't know, status is status and money is money, and both command respect. I do alright for myself and often don't care for average people, because my standards are higher. Average people hate it and talk sh-t but above average people understand why that is done.

 

Well that depends. If someone's worked hard and has earned their success then yes, people would be wrong in being jealous. But when that's mixed with arrogance (your sentence about "Average people" implying said arrogance), of course people are going to hate it. How else are they suppose to react?

[JamesM]

I don't know, status is status and money is money, and both command respect. I do alright for myself and often don't care for average people, because my standards are higher. Average people hate it and talk sh-t but above average people understand why that is done.

 

I disagree. APPARENT status and APPARENT money impress people...until the front is taken away and the true person is revealed.

 

But many times, people who really do have status and money hide it. My former boss years ago co-owns his own company. He is now in his mid 50s. At the time I worked for him, I was in my 20s and operations manager. He was in his mid 30s. I was the one who employed new individuals, but periodically, he liked giving me an opinion on their long term employability. No, he did not have time to do this every time, but if went through the lobby and someone was there, he would stop and say hi. Their reaction was quite revealing.

 

His plan was to walk through the lobby where potential hires sat waiting for an interview. He had two goals for his quick analysis....first impression and initial friendliness. He would stop and say hi and ask how they were doing. Their eyes always told him how friendly they were to other people.

 

Here is the catch...he wore jeans and a polo shirt. He did NOT look like the owner. And this was a multi-million dollar company with over 200 employees in our location at that time...now it is much bigger. There were seven facilities nationwide. He owned a beautiful house that most of us only dream of, and it was paid for. He had other property to hunt on. He owned a number of vehicles. But he never liked to reveal that, nor did he ever brag. So, when people met him, they had no clue. As far as they were concerned, he was just the janitor. There was no apparent status or reason to impress and be friendly. It was amazing how many people were rude and unfriendly...and hence were passed over for employment. I used to love to say..."Did you know you just met the owner of the company?" The reactions were interesting. Quite a few people panicked.

 

So, my guess is that this guy is not as big as he says, but if he is, his actions are very revealing as to what kind of person he is. Some of the richest people are the biggest jerks. And some of the richest people are the most down to earth and friendliest people you'll ever meet. This is also true for the poor ones. Friendliness has nothing to do with wealth or status. You either are or you aren't. Wealth has nothing to do with being above average....some of the wealthiest people inherited everything they own. Most of those who have earned it find it unnecessary to brag about it.

[Sunblast]

Successful men, as attractive women, and very many successful, non-public people in general (those who don't need to look nice because of publicity, stock, etc) seem rude to others because they value their time and they've seen, time and again, the same average, petty, etc, people, and they don't wanna deal with them.

 

I've seen plenty of low self-esteem, needy people and so I act arrogant. The reason for it (that I said people understand why it's done) is that low self-esteem people think I am arrogant and go away and leave me alone. And people with healthy self-esteem talk to me and we make friends.

 

This is something that has to be done, unless you want to have a stable of 50 buddies whose highest ambition is a big-screen tv and a local dive bar.

[desertguy]

I don't like being around needy people either and just don't associate with them, quite simple really, no need to be arrogant. I've known plenty of successful people who are neither arrogant nor pretentious, though it typically is the self made types, I've noticed. Successful people do tend to be confident, but it is quite possible to be confident without being arrogant jerk.

[Krondore]

I don't know, status is status and money is money, and both command respect. I do alright for myself and often don't care for average people, because my standards are higher. Average people hate it and talk sh-t but above average people understand why that is done.

 

 

Respect is something given not demanded.

 

Below average / above average /way above average/ so far above average it makes the rest seem like smouldering ****.

 

 

Money and status are only important to those that hunger for it.

Lucky for people like me not everyone is out for cash alone, some actualy like people with character and a moral backbone, someone able and willing to stand out from the KACHING CHING type of players.

[Krondore]

Successful men, as attractive women, and very many successful, non-public people in general (those who don't need to look nice because of publicity, stock, etc) seem rude to others because they value their time and they've seen, time and again, the same average, petty, etc, people, and they don't wanna deal with them.

 

I've seen plenty of low self-esteem, needy people and so I act arrogant. The reason for it (that I said people understand why it's done) is that low self-esteem people think I am arrogant and go away and leave me alone. And people with healthy self-esteem talk to me and we make friends.

 

This is something that has to be done, unless you want to have a stable of 50 buddies whose highest ambition is a big-screen tv and a local dive bar.

 

 

I know what you mean, trample over those less fortunante , those that truely dont have and will never have the chances some others do....

 

Ive been down real low in life, lived on the streets and been in prisons....ive also been up pretty high in getting £400 a day.

 

But in all those times i never once ( like you ) saw myself as better than others.

Those people you probably snear at or dont even ackwoledge in the streets ( you know those unfortunat people that find them selves homeless) they could have been you, no one can predict their future , any one of us could end up broke and without a home, youd be amazed how quick something like thatcan happen, it only takes a few bad choices.

 

So rather than being the type of person who puts people in mental boxes and judges them from their wealth or lack of it, why not try someone knew and become a part of the human race, maybe with your wealth you could help in small ways to make other peoples lives that little bit better, and who knows one of those people you help could just be seeking that small slim chance and will florish into a person like yourself , only interested in money and power.