I can't stand it any more!!!!!

[sobroken]

I am hoping someone here can help me out! Almost two years ago I meet someone who would forever change my life, at that time I had no clue how he would forever change me. Our first date was an amazing concert and I met his father the very next night, long story short, what I felt for him scared me to death and I began to distant myself... During this time he began to date another girl briefly. Over the next couple months both of our families went through some very trying times (he found out the former girl was pregnant) that brought us closer again, and finally I was able to give my heart to him even though I knew he was expecting a child with his ex I didn't care. I knew I loved him. So of course what comes up most come down. 2 weeks before I was suppose to leave for europe on business she walks in our house and tells him that he shall not be part of the baby's life while I was around. (even longer story) bottom line I left I didn't have the heart to make him choose and I didn't think I was worth the fight and the court dates that he would have to go through for the child so once again I left, he understood. A year later my heart still aches I still cry my self to sleep. I see him everyother day some days he can't look at me other days we act like the best of friends. we both have dated other people since that day and he even has came close to an enagement. I guess my question is deep down I know he is the one for me. Our families see it and ask us all the time why we don't work on it. How do you know when to let go or to hold on. ???????

[CD111]

Wow, I will have to say you did that I think you did right thing by leaving the situation when his ex freaked out about the baby and you. I would have left also. At that point, he was dealing with a unplanned baby, his ex and all her emotional issues about the baby. As for now, why don't you feel out the situation with him and his ex. Maybe she has probably settled down a bit. If the situation is calmer then tell him how you feel and ask him what he feels. At least his way he will know how you feel still and maybe it will be easier to move on to whatever. Good Luck

[wolverine778]

Please fight for this man!! Have you taken the time on any of these encounters through out the day to talk with him. To tell him exactly how you feel. If you want this guy you must fight for him and get what you want. Do not let love pass you by if its right there. I can say in my life that there have only been one women that has made me feel the way you feel about this guy. Not to long ago i made a mistake that has messed things up. But it wasn't until a couple weeks ago that i realized that i need to fight for what i want and repair the damage i have caused. I know what its like to go crazy and feel desperation on how to handle the situation. If you talk to him and tell him exactly how you feel then you will at least know if its even possible.