my family just stressed me out ..

[cicada]

when i say my family I mean my husband , my teenager and my toddler. that is all i have really. my toddler doesnt stress me out but I worry abouthim so that is stress too right?

 

well to put it short .. my husband is moody and the whole household depends on what mood he is in . My teenager is moody but mostly about food .. that is right food !~ he is overweight and really has a tantrum by nagging me to death about how he wish he had more to eat today and such ~ the fridge is packed , just not with what he likes to eat .. he stresses out the whole family with this non sence and it isnt a joke either! my teen says it is the only thing that makes him happy. so all he does is bitch about it all the time . i worry about my toddler because my teen and husband create such a tense enviroment I sometimes I wish it was only me and my toddler.

 

growing up a single child to a single parent , I always thought that having a family would be great ~ but it seems to be the oposite .. just a total stress fest . I hate it . I am afraid my husband will leave me , I am afraid my bitchy food monster of a teenager will live with me forever and I am afraid that my toddler will be sad . i feel so much pressure and i just want it to stop .

 

my husband is usually really nice to me but my teenager really pushes alot of buttons around here and it is causing alot of strain in the household. I just feel sad all the time .. everything just seems like it is just about to break . I have been feeling this way for quite some time , I talked to my husband about it but he can be stubborn and he will say it is all in my head .. but it isnt really it is not. at least i dont think so anyway . I dont like the way I live . .i feel like i don't want to come home , first thing I come home is my teenager running up to me "IS THERE FOOD !!!?? " then my husband who is quiet but wont really interact with me and i dont really know if everything is ok . just strain and stress. family is happiness? I was much happier alone without a family . but I am the mom here so I have to get a grip here but why does it have to be so difficult . my teenager really doesnt want to just chill when it comes to food and such and my husband is moody . just dont know what to do anymore. I am feeling so alone in a house full of people . just so utterly fed up with the moody people I live with and i feel so much guilt for bringing my toddler into this world . i wish i could just take off somewhere with just me and the toddler. but that is a dream . married but lonely . it sucks .

[White Flower]

I have days like this, too. What I have learned over the years (and forget sometimes) is that you need a regular stream of friends to come over and for you as a family to visit them as well. Fill your home with joy and laughter. We let this go because somehow most of our friends moved away, there were several deaths in the family, and it just became so lonely at home and I have 6 people living here!

 

Another thing is having the regularity of a club or sport. We're now talking about joining a bowling league just to get out of the house and laugh and have fun with others.

 

Get involved with something you believe in like a church or a charity. Altruism can do wonders for the spirit. Send coffee to the troops in Iraq. You have no idea how wonderful it will make you feel to make someone else's day.

 

I had forgotten these things and got caught up in an extramarital affair. It's coming to an end, but MM actually helped me to remember these things about myself. Strange, huh? And I know I will get back to myself and improve after that.

 

Good luck:)

[Rachel_0814p]

Starve the teen and tell the husband to stick it. Then ignore them both and just enjoy your baby so that your baby grows up loved and nurtured.

 

Husband moody? Take the baby and get out of the house for a while. Teen begging for treats? Take the baby and get out of the house for a while.

 

They're old enough to take care of themselves. The baby is your only constant responsibilty right now. Find the relief you deserve, even if it's just via daily trips to the park or mall. Maybe if you're not around all the time, they'll learn to appreciate your presence more and will stop being so miserable to you all the time.