Author Lizzie60 Posted November 26, 2007 Author Share Posted November 26, 2007 C-Lion, way harsh No worry... consider the source.. (people gets bitter and jealous when they hurt ) Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted November 26, 2007 Share Posted November 26, 2007 C-Lion, way harsh An apology is decided in order. Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted November 26, 2007 Share Posted November 26, 2007 No worry... consider the source.. (people gets bitter and jealous when they hurt ) Ya know I luvs ya anyway! That was uncalled for Hurt people may get bitter and lash out (jealousy is not a factor) but I should be bigger and better than that. Pax? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted November 26, 2007 Author Share Posted November 26, 2007 Ya know I luvs ya anyway! That was uncalled for Hurt people may get bitter and lash out (jealousy is not a factor) but I should be bigger and better than that. Pax? Since you're getting bigger... oups... better. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted November 26, 2007 Share Posted November 26, 2007 That was uncalled for Hurt people may get bitter and lash out (jealousy is not a factor) but I should be bigger and better than that. You are the best, C. No wonder you're the head of the pride. Link to post Share on other sites
Gwyneth Posted November 26, 2007 Share Posted November 26, 2007 I only have 4 MMs left... I mean I see regularly. I have 'dumped' a few lately... My young lover wishes she was as confident as I was.. He loves my confidence... I am not insecure like she is.. but then I am 32 years older than she is. Oh wow...oh wow...oh WOW. How mahy affairs can one handle at once? I think one is more than enough for me in a lifetime. Wow. Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted November 26, 2007 Share Posted November 26, 2007 Since you're getting bigger... oups... better. Beyond me getting bigger....ummm....better , you didn't deserve that. I'm ashamed of myself. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted November 26, 2007 Author Share Posted November 26, 2007 Oh wow...oh wow...oh WOW. How mahy affairs can one handle at once? I think one is more than enough for me in a lifetime. Wow. LOL... 4 is not a lot .. I had much more at one time... but I'm getting too old for more... and that's besides my regulars for massage... but it's about 50/50 single and married for the massages. Link to post Share on other sites
Gwyneth Posted November 26, 2007 Share Posted November 26, 2007 LOL... 4 is not a lot .. I had much more at one time... but I'm getting too old for more... and that's besides my regulars for massage... but it's about 50/50 single and married for the massages. FOUR IS NOT A LOT???? Wow woman! You have it going on. Well I think four is a lot. Two is a lot. One is enough...and sometimes one is too much. Well more power to you--whatever makes you happy... Link to post Share on other sites
mopar crazy Posted November 26, 2007 Share Posted November 26, 2007 Lizzie, did he come right out and say he liked having sex w/ you more than his GF? I feel sorry for her, not knowing what is going on behind her back between the two of you. Doesn't it make you feel guilty at all? I know when I was the OW (to a man in a CR that lived w/ his fiance) I felt very guilty the first time I seen her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted November 26, 2007 Author Share Posted November 26, 2007 Lizzie, did he come right out and say he liked having sex w/ you more than his GF? I feel sorry for her, not knowing what is going on behind her back between the two of you. Doesn't it make you feel guilty at all? I know when I was the OW (to a man in a CR that lived w/ his fiance) I felt very guilty the first time I seen her. I do feel sorry for her because he has been cheating 5 of the 6 years they've been together... he won't stop and she probably knows it... She prefers to live with him rather than move on... she is extremely insecure and emotionally dependant. That's one thing he doesn't like about her... that 'clinginess'... He told me that our sex is amazing... and it is... it is just soooo insane... He is hot in bed and I do love sex a lot... He also told me she loves sex and has a good sex drive.. but he often turns her down..and prefer to masturbate (he says it goes faster when he's tired).. he works about 70 to 80 hours a week.. it's crazy. We drive each other crazy... and we love it. Link to post Share on other sites
Gwyneth Posted November 26, 2007 Share Posted November 26, 2007 He sounds like my scum bag ex. He began dating this girl right after me and he did nothing but cheat cheat cheat CHEAT on her, and I am pretty sure the girl knew. At first I laughed becuase I thought she deserved it after she had the Nerver to come into my house with him and hang out. UGH. Anyway, They are together four years now and he has slept with more women than you can imagine in those four years. They supposidely recently broke up...yeah yeah, yada yada, I think she took him back. Hey, if you know your partner is cheating on you and you don't care, then that is just more reason for your partner to cheat on you. I'd care--enough to kick the jerk to the curb. I feel bad for the girl now because I'm over him and he's a walking disease and the summiest of the scummy, and I think she can do better. I'm not there yet with the "hemerroid" MM I'm seeing. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted November 26, 2007 Author Share Posted November 26, 2007 He sounds like my scum bag ex. He began dating this girl right after me and he did nothing but cheat cheat cheat CHEAT on her, and I am pretty sure the girl knew. At first I laughed becuase I thought she deserved it after she had the Nerver to come into my house with him and hang out. UGH. Anyway, They are together four years now and he has slept with more women than you can imagine in those four years. They supposidely recently broke up...yeah yeah, yada yada, I think she took him back. Hey, if you know your partner is cheating on you and you don't care, then that is just more reason for your partner to cheat on you. I'd care--enough to kick the jerk to the curb. I feel bad for the girl now because I'm over him and he's a walking disease and the summiest of the scummy, and I think she can do better. I'm not there yet with the "hemerroid" MM I'm seeing. Same here.. I never understood why a woman would put up with so much cheating.. He even slept with HER sister... so you can imagine how dependant on him she is... ewwwwww I wish she would throw him out.. Link to post Share on other sites
noforgiveness Posted November 26, 2007 Share Posted November 26, 2007 Same here.. I never understood why a woman would put up with so much cheating.. He even slept with HER sister... so you can imagine how dependant on him she is... ewwwwww I wish she would throw him out.. Does she know he cheated with her sis? Ewwww you are sleeping with a man who has such low morals he would sleep with his own wifes sister. Think about that. You want her to throw him out BE HONEST about your relationship with him to her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted November 26, 2007 Author Share Posted November 26, 2007 Does she know he cheated with her sis? Ewwww you are sleeping with a man who has such low morals he would sleep with his own wifes sister. Think about that. You want her to throw him out BE HONEST about your relationship with him to her. Of course she found out... I don't know the details though... Morals? What morals? Yes I wish she'd throw him out.. so I can have him more often... Link to post Share on other sites
Gwyneth Posted November 26, 2007 Share Posted November 26, 2007 HER SISTER?!? Wow. Okay, I don't feel bad for this woman. She is obviously using him for whatever reason--and people do this. So, both are just bad as the other. My goodness. Shame on both of them. Link to post Share on other sites
mopar crazy Posted November 26, 2007 Share Posted November 26, 2007 I don't think she is using him, I think she is really insecure like Lizzie says. I wish this woman would have the strength and the courage to leave this jerk! It would be better for all in this situation. He could sleep w/ Lizzie all he wanted, Lizzie wouldn't care if he slept w/ OW, and his GF could start working on her self-esteem and then finding someone who will love and respect her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted November 26, 2007 Author Share Posted November 26, 2007 I don't think she is using him, I think she is really insecure like Lizzie says. I wish this woman would have the strength and the courage to leave this jerk! It would be better for all in this situation. He could sleep w/ Lizzie all he wanted, Lizzie wouldn't care if he slept w/ OW, and his GF could start working on her self-esteem and then finding someone who will love and respect her. Exactly... She's not using him for sure.. he's using her... He just can't leave her because apparently she is suicidal... he told me bits about her behaviour... when she is hurting.... she once (or maybe more than once) hit her head on the wall... like really hard until she bleeds and even then... she won't stop.. this is really weird.. he gets scared when she does that. but I told him he can't be held hostage all his life... He put all her stuff outside on 2 occasions but she takes everything back in.. She just won't leave him. I'm sure she would be much better off without him... but I guess she just can't see her life without him. This is a case of 'woman who loves too much'... Link to post Share on other sites
Gwyneth Posted November 26, 2007 Share Posted November 26, 2007 Oh great...a sociopath. Saw a Lifetime movie about this today. Link to post Share on other sites
mopar crazy Posted November 26, 2007 Share Posted November 26, 2007 Exactly... She's not using him for sure.. he's using her... He just can't leave her because apparently she is suicidal... he told me bits about her behaviour... when she is hurting.... she once (or maybe more than once) hit her head on the wall... like really hard until she bleeds and even then... she won't stop.. this is really weird.. he gets scared when she does that. but I told him he can't be held hostage all his life... He put all her stuff outside on 2 occasions but she takes everything back in.. She just won't leave him. I'm sure she would be much better off without him... but I guess she just can't see her life without him. This is a case of 'woman who loves too much'... Lizzie, my BF from years ago was this way w/ her BF. She was very outgoing but deep down I think she had her own self-esteem issues. He tried leaving her once and she overdosed on a bottle of pain relievers. A mutual friend of ours rushed her to the hospital. He wouldn't leave her b/c he was scared she would commit suicide again. He did end up M her and then they D less than a year later. I kept telling him he can't M her just b/c she threatens suicide. Is there anyway this guy can call some suicidal support line to get her help? I agree, he can't be held hostage b/c he is afraid she'll commit suicide. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted November 26, 2007 Author Share Posted November 26, 2007 Lizzie, my BF from years ago was this way w/ her BF. She was very outgoing but deep down I think she had her own self-esteem issues. He tried leaving her once and she overdosed on a bottle of pain relievers. A mutual friend of ours rushed her to the hospital. He wouldn't leave her b/c he was scared she would commit suicide again. He did end up M her and then they D less than a year later. I kept telling him he can't M her just b/c she threatens suicide. Is there anyway this guy can call some suicidal support line to get her help? I agree, he can't be held hostage b/c he is afraid she'll commit suicide. I've told him he can't live like that.. but I know he doesn't like to talk about that... I think he feels extremely guilty after his adventure with her sister... he is ashamed and I think he feels he already hurt her so much that he can't hurt her anymore... He's 25...she's 23... They bought a house together one year ago. She wants kids with him.. OMG .. but he told me he's not ready... Another thing that annoys him is that she makes about 1/4 of what he makes annually... so he's stuck with most of the bills and the mortgage.. she doesn't pay much because she doesn't make much. He told me he doesn't see himself with her all his life but I really don't think he will dump her... it would have to be her..and I don't think that will happen... We know (him and I) that it's impossible to have our A in the open, even if he was single... there is a huge age gap..and his parents would never accept that, especially his dad... and he's very close to them. Link to post Share on other sites
mopar crazy Posted November 26, 2007 Share Posted November 26, 2007 I've told him he can't live like that.. but I know he doesn't like to talk about that... I think he feels extremely guilty after his adventure with her sister... he is ashamed and I think he feels he already hurt her so much that he can't hurt her anymore... He's 25...she's 23... They bought a house together one year ago. She wants kids with him.. OMG .. but he told me he's not ready... Another thing that annoys him is that she makes about 1/4 of what he makes annually... so he's stuck with most of the bills and the mortgage.. she doesn't pay much because she doesn't make much. He told me he doesn't see himself with her all his life but I really don't think he will dump her... it would have to be her..and I don't think that will happen... We know (him and I) that it's impossible to have our A in the open, even if he was single... there is a huge age gap..and his parents would never accept that, especially his dad... and he's very close to them. This is a Soap Opera! WOW! I don't know what else to say b/c I really do feel for this woman. She is really sick. I don't agree w/ your A w/ him but no wonder he seeks out your companionship. Besides thinking it's ok sleeping w/ MM you have your head on straight. I guess all they both can do is live one day at a time. Must suck to live like that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted November 26, 2007 Author Share Posted November 26, 2007 This is a Soap Opera! WOW! I don't know what else to say b/c I really do feel for this woman. She is really sick. I don't agree w/ your A w/ him but no wonder he seeks out your companionship. Besides thinking it's ok sleeping w/ MM you have your head on straight. I guess all they both can do is live one day at a time. Must suck to live like that. I don't know how 'miserable' he really is.. maybe it's not that bad... I don't know.. I keep telling him he should let her go but she doesn't want to go... he's stuck with her... Maybe I should tell him I don't want to see him anymore until he leaves her... Link to post Share on other sites
mopar crazy Posted November 26, 2007 Share Posted November 26, 2007 I don't know how 'miserable' he really is.. maybe it's not that bad... I don't know.. I keep telling him he should let her go but she doesn't want to go... he's stuck with her... Maybe I should tell him I don't want to see him anymore until he leaves her... Ok, do you feel like he talks about her a lot when you two are together? Do you feel like that is all he does...vent to you about her? I don't know if I could handle that, even if it is just about the sex. If I was screwing some guy and he was constantly bitching and moaning about his GF I woudn't want to be around him. When I was the OW he never talked about his GF, maybe once or twice. One time I brought her up, the other time he did and this was over the course of about 2 years. If he would of talked about her all the time I would of ended the A a lot sooner. Link to post Share on other sites
noforgiveness Posted November 26, 2007 Share Posted November 26, 2007 Exactly... She's not using him for sure.. he's using her... He just can't leave her because apparently she is suicidal... he told me bits about her behaviour... when she is hurting.... she once (or maybe more than once) hit her head on the wall... like really hard until she bleeds and even then... she won't stop.. this is really weird.. he gets scared when she does that. but I told him he can't be held hostage all his life... He put all her stuff outside on 2 occasions but she takes everything back in.. She just won't leave him. I'm sure she would be much better off without him... but I guess she just can't see her life without him. This is a case of 'woman who loves too much'... LOL yep he's being held hostage that's why they were happily walking hand in hand. Married men lie about their primary relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
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