torranceshipman Posted November 26, 2007 Share Posted November 26, 2007 There may be really occasional situations where the girl is really a bit off it, and threatening suicide like the MM likes his OW etc to believe, but no WAY do I buy it in 95% of cases. Its just the MM spinning a ridiculous line. OR gaslighting the poor girl to such a hideous extent that she's been pushed as far as she can go, and she's a complete emotional wreck. If a guy ever claims his partner is threatening suicide or is emotionally a complete crazy mess, consider that it might be because you (or someone else) are having sex with the love of her life-and she is made to feel like she is crazyfor suspecting anything! That'd mess with anyones head. Anyone who pushes a girl that far and then acts like SHE has problems...is truly a worthless piece of crap and you shouldnt mess with damaged goods like that for your own good. And I think that ultimately, if you treat another person like crap, you are a piece of crap yourself. Lol, got that out... I just felt bad for the poor girls in this situation, had to have a rant! Link to post Share on other sites
mopar crazy Posted November 27, 2007 Share Posted November 27, 2007 They are not engaged... but they bought a house last year together.. they've been living together for a year now... but have been dating for 5 years before. Sorry Lizzie, I thought I read in one of your threads he was engaged. Must of read it wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted November 27, 2007 Share Posted November 27, 2007 They are not engaged... but they bought a house last year together.. they've been living together for a year now... but have been dating for 5 years before. If he's so 'trapped' why did he buy a house with her? Most people who aren't into the person they're with would never make such a financial commitment. It's much easier to part when there isn't a mortgage and legal obligations - I'm sure he knew that when he chose to buy a house with her. Link to post Share on other sites
mopar crazy Posted November 27, 2007 Share Posted November 27, 2007 If he's so 'trapped' why did he buy a house with her? Most people who aren't into the person they're with would never make such a financial commitment. It's much easier to part when there isn't a mortgage and legal obligations - I'm sure he knew that when he chose to buy a house with her. Good point nj! Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted November 27, 2007 Share Posted November 27, 2007 Good point nj! It just doesn't match with his story. Why dig himself deeper if he's so desperate to get her away from him? Lies come easily to cheaters. Even though he has no reason to lie to Lizzie because she doesn't care, he will still lie. He can't quite admit he's just a cheating bastard. Link to post Share on other sites
mopar crazy Posted November 27, 2007 Share Posted November 27, 2007 It just doesn't match with his story. Why dig himself deeper if he's so desperate to get her away from him? Lies come easily to cheaters. Even though he has no reason to lie to Lizzie because she doesn't care, he will still lie. He can't quite admit he's just a cheating bastard. Ya know, I think he stretches the truth just a little too much. Maybe things aren't great between him and his GF but I can't see how they are THAT bad if they made such a big financial commitment together. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted November 27, 2007 Share Posted November 27, 2007 he just wants the sex part from lizzie and she isn't seeing it! Link to post Share on other sites
mopar crazy Posted November 27, 2007 Share Posted November 27, 2007 he just wants the sex part from lizzie and she isn't seeing it! Oh she sees it, she just doesn't care. Lizzie likes sex, and she doesn't care if that is all she is good for w/ this guy or any other MM. Link to post Share on other sites
Gwyneth Posted November 27, 2007 Share Posted November 27, 2007 he just wants the sex part from lizzie and she isn't seeing it! Maybe Lizzie just wants the sex from him!!!! Why is it that people think only men can use women for sex??? It works both ways. Link to post Share on other sites
Yamaha Posted November 27, 2007 Share Posted November 27, 2007 How would you have felt if she was more beautiful than yourself, Lizzie? You once said that you were obsessed with your looks so if she was prettier would that shake your confidence? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted November 27, 2007 Author Share Posted November 27, 2007 Oh she sees it, she just doesn't care. Lizzie likes sex, and she doesn't care if that is all she is good for w/ this guy or any other MM. Exactly... I don't want him in my life although he would be the only one in my MMs that I would have in my life... since he works extra long hours... but I know this won't happen. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted November 27, 2007 Author Share Posted November 27, 2007 Maybe Lizzie just wants the sex from him!!!! Why is it that people think only men can use women for sex??? It works both ways. Well said.. this is double standard IMO... I am using them for sex and lot$ more. Link to post Share on other sites
OpenBook Posted November 27, 2007 Share Posted November 27, 2007 "Just wants the sex part" ... "that's all she's good for" ... I think this attitude seriously underestimates how important sex - GOOD sex - is, to a man. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted November 27, 2007 Author Share Posted November 27, 2007 How would you have felt if she was more beautiful than yourself, Lizzie? You once said that you were obsessed with your looks so if she was prettier would that shake your confidence? Not at all... I only saw her back... but I would bet anything that she is prettier than me. She's only 23... I'm 55. He always tells me how beautiful I am ... blablabla... I once asked him if he was telling his gf how beautiful she was... he said he was telling her so I suppose she is good looking. Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted November 27, 2007 Share Posted November 27, 2007 Well said.. this is double standard IMO... I am using them for sex and lot$ more. what a charming statement Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted November 27, 2007 Author Share Posted November 27, 2007 what a charming statement Thank you... Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted November 27, 2007 Share Posted November 27, 2007 lot$ more. I caught that one.. Sorry, couldn't resist.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted November 27, 2007 Author Share Posted November 27, 2007 I caught that one.. Sorry, couldn't resist.. ....... Link to post Share on other sites
Ocean-Blue Posted November 27, 2007 Share Posted November 27, 2007 Harsh. Lizzie, like myself, knows what she is getting herself into. When you go into an affair with a clear visual of the truth, then you are fine. If you go into the affair thinking "Oh, prince charming will leave the witch and come to me," then you are fooled (sometimes). He may be a liar, but let's give him some benefits of the doubt. How utterly nauseating...! I wonder if the wife also receives the benefit of a "clear visual of the truth". I guess she's not fine, huh. Link to post Share on other sites
Gwyneth Posted November 27, 2007 Share Posted November 27, 2007 How utterly nauseating...! I wonder if the wife also receives the benefit of a "clear visual of the truth". I guess she's not fine, huh. Wow, you think You have it all figured out, huh? You must be a BS-its so freakin' obvious. The wives and gf's of these men are Not our problem. The husbands and bf's are not the OM's problem. Period. Link to post Share on other sites
Ocean-Blue Posted November 27, 2007 Share Posted November 27, 2007 Wow, you think You have it all figured out, huh? You must be a BS-its so freakin' obvious. The wives and gf's of these men are Not our problem. The husbands and bf's are not the OM's problem. Period. Actually, I've never been married or cheated on. Funny how you think that it takes being a BS to get indignant when discussing infidelity. What, us unmarried folk are not allowed to engage in discussion regarding cheating? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted November 27, 2007 Author Share Posted November 27, 2007 He checked if my car was in the garage... and rang... He called me last night but I wasn't home.. he just wanted to talk... I was right... he did see me...but couldn't look at me. He said it felt weird... LOL... He spent a few hours this morning... we cuddle in my warm comfy bed... ooohhhh that was nice. I am debating if I should 'dump' him or just hang in there for the great sex... because he is well endowed and is a great lover. I love it when he press my body against his and just barely touch my lips with his lips... breathe.. then kiss me with passion... he has that way of turning me on.. Link to post Share on other sites
Ocean-Blue Posted November 27, 2007 Share Posted November 27, 2007 He checked if my car was in the garage... and rang... He called me last night but I wasn't home.. he just wanted to talk... I was right... he did see me...but couldn't look at me. He said it felt weird... LOL... He spent a few hours this morning... we cuddle in my warm comfy bed... ooohhhh that was nice. I am debating if I should 'dump' him or just hang in there for the great sex... because he is well endowed and is a great lover. I love it when he press my body against his and just barely touch my lips with his lips... breathe.. then kiss me with passion... he has that way of turning me on.. Lizzie, given the chemistry and "affection" you have for this man, I am curious as to how you have not begun to feel deeper emotions for him. Are you telling me that your restraint is such that you see him as nothing more than a disposable lover? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted November 27, 2007 Author Share Posted November 27, 2007 Lizzie, given the chemistry and "affection" you have for this man, I am curious as to how you have not begun to feel deeper emotions for him. Are you telling me that your restraint is such that you see him as nothing more than a disposable lover? He is my favourite... I know I am not 'in love' with him... but I do love him. If he's not around for a few days... I don't 'daydream' about him. I know my feelings are sexual with a deep affection. If he tells me tomorrow that he can't see me anymore... I will feel a little twitch but nothing major... He did tell me about 2 months ago (when he got busted) that it was over, that she knew..blablabla... she knows where I live, she drove by many times... I was sad for a few days... it hurt a little but within a few days I was over him... I just don't know why I'm like that... I don't commit myself 100% probably cause I know they are taken... not sure ...because I could fall head over heels for some of them (some are really good looking) but I don't. In some way, I am glad that I am like that... I don't get hurt... Link to post Share on other sites
Impudent Oyster Posted November 27, 2007 Share Posted November 27, 2007 Wow, you think You have it all figured out, huh? You must be a BS-its so freakin' obvious. The wives and gf's of these men are Not our problem. The husbands and bf's are not the OM's problem. Period. Not much they aren't. Wait until they find out and the MM throws you under the bus, then we'll see if you still feel that the wives and husbands aren't your problem. Link to post Share on other sites
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