Need outside comment on argument

[newone]

My spouse and I had a serious argument today (Sunday 25). We would like your opinion on the following event

 

We went shopping to a store. We had gone there yesterday and debated whether to buy a nice porcelain set which was on sale, but decided to wait. There were two sets left yesterday. When we went today, there was one set left and a display of samples. Two other women were browsing the samples and partially obscuring the box. The wife asks the husband to get the box. The husband asks the two other ladies 'can I get the box?', who respond 'No, we are getting it'. The husband retreats.

 

The wife thinks the husband should have gone and just grabbed the one remaining box which is sitting on the shelf. The husband thinks this is too rude and the other two ladies have first refusal on it. This leads to a serious argument, possibly reflecting other tensions. We want your opinion on this argument - is the wife or the husband correct, or are they both wrong?

 

Thanks

[Lizzie60]

Um... I think the wife is right... the husband should have just grabbed the box... they weren't holding it.. so it was still on the shelf.

 

Something similar happened to me once... There was this beautiful pareo on the rack... there was ONLY one... It's always one size fits all...

 

I wanted it sooo bad.. but this lady had it in her hand... then she put it back on the rack... (as if she wanted to think about it)... it was on sale... so I grabbed it right away.

 

She looked at her husband (now she wanted it).. he said to her: Get it off her hands... she didn't want to do anything... and I sure would have fought for it... it was now mine... too bad so sad...

 

I paid for it... and she was asking the clerk to check with other stores if they had it, she would drive anywhere to get one like that.

 

It was awesome... I still have it. I get so many compliments every time I wear it down south.

 

So.. yes in your case, you were right.

[Curmudgeon]

...is the wife or the husband correct, or are they both wrong?

 

...is correct and is obviously better bred and more of a gentleman than the wife is a lady.

 

His approach was polite and considerate. Your's (assuming it really is about the two of you) was boorish and a prime example of how civility in this society has degraded during the past two generation. It's all about "ME" and what "I" want and to hell with the rest of the world.

 

I'll bet you cut in line at the market, park in handicapped spaces and have road rage as well.

 

You did ask, didn't you?

 

Perhaps you can learn from your husband.

[Rachel_0814p]

I assume that the wife is you and the husband is your husband.

 

Unless there's more to the story, I think that you insisting that your husband should have done something that he would not have been comfortable doing is wrong, and is cause for a fight on his end. Hopefully you apologized and have accepted the fact that men are typically not the cut throat shoppers that women are, and that if something like this ever happens again, you'll know to just go for the item yourself instead of expecting him to do it for you.

 

As for not getting the item, I think it was both your faults for waiting on the sale. Next time, just buy it. And if you change your mind, return it or sell it on eBay!

[amaysngrace]

I agree with Rachel. You're both wrong. You should have gotten it yesterday.

[Angelina Nisse]

I think if "the wife" wanted the box, even if the other 2 women were hovering near it; SHE should have went and gotten it, instead of urging "the husband" to do her dirty work!

 

It is wrong, and unloving, for "the wife" to now be arguing with "the husband" because he has some manners and civility.

 

"The wife" owes "the husband" an apology. JMO