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I have a post about a "friend" I am pursuing.

For those who have read and responded, thank you, it has been helpful/encouraging so far.

 

For those that haven't read the post, basically, she is a long time friend, I asked her out several months ago. She was dating someone at the time but broke up with him shortly after I asked her out. I am not sure if I actually got an answer.

 

I would like to ask her again, at least to find out where we actually are, IE: friend, or more, possibly more, and I guess I an just looking for advise, opinions, etc.. on the better way to approach the subject.

 

1) Start more or less from scratch, like I haven't asked before..

 

2) Say something like....Remember a few months ago, I asked you about......

 

3) Ask straight out, what's going on with us...

 

4) Next time I ask her to go out for one, ask if she would go out as a date

 

5)..???Other options???

 

The main reason for for not being sure of what/where we are is little things she says or does once in a while, like mentioning her being single one night. But then more recently, has talked about us going on double dates with a friend of mine and his new gf..? :confused:

 

My main concern being, if she does consider us as more or less "dating", I don't want her to think I am a dumba**for not knowing this and also, I don't want to put her on the spot if she is still trying to sort out her feelings.

 

I don't want to loose her as more by not making another move, but also don't want to push her away by making the wrong move.

 

As always, anything that can be offered will be appreciated.

Thanks

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But then more recently, has talked about us going on double dates with a friend of mine and his new gf

 

Well if this is the case, go on the double date and then when you're taking her home, you can bring the subject up.

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Well if this is the case, go on the double date and then when you're taking her home, you can bring the subject up.

 

Thanks Pedigree,

That probably would be a good time to bring it up.

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