sanchez Posted November 26, 2007 Share Posted November 26, 2007 Hi there, just a quick post for your opinions please....Im a 40yr old male, and have been with my partner for just over 12 years, and loving life except for the last 18 months or so...as we seem to have just drifted apart. There has been no infedelity or major reasons for this, but like I say we just seem to have drifted and I just feel like 'its gone'. I dont think I can continue living like this anymore. Now here, for me comes the complex part, as for about the last 6 months or so I think I have gradually fallen for a female friend of mine, and although She hasn't said as much, I have been told by friends and I feel the feelings mutual. We have known each other for about 3 years. At the moment, this relationship is purely plutonic and always has been, but I just feel there is more to it, My friend is 6 years my junior and single... Now the 6 million dollar question...do I make a move and tell my wife that it is over, or just continue to persecute myself about these feelings...as really I dont want to have a major fallout with my wife as I would still consider her a friend, as like I say, we have just drifted apart......and as each day goes past, my feelings grow......and just feel that we could have a great future together..... Your thoughts would be appreciated... ThankYou Link to post Share on other sites
SuperFantastico Posted November 28, 2007 Share Posted November 28, 2007 Tough one. Perhaps you should have a serious sit down with your wife before you decide anything else and try to figure out why things have 'drifted apart'. Maybe you'll be able to rekindle things with your wife. Divorce is a messy business. Perhaps, your wife feels the same way as you though and you can end this peacefully. Then you'll be free to do what you want. My advice, is baby steps. Dont rush things right now. Make small dilliberate steps. Link to post Share on other sites
Lovegod Posted November 28, 2007 Share Posted November 28, 2007 If you're not happy with your relationship with your wife, then you should end it. There's no point in being unhappy with someone when you could be happy without her. Divorce may suck, but it's worth the price of freedom and happiness when you're miserably locked in a cage. Advance on your friend once you've ended things with your wife. Give her as few reasons as possible to give you a nasty divorce. Link to post Share on other sites
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