EMBeee Posted November 28, 2007 Share Posted November 28, 2007 Hello all. I am a single 32 year old woman, who is also a single child. SO being I am somewhat of a loner... I usually go all out when it comes to the holidays. I send pretty much everyone I know a Christmas greeting because I don't have much family to send any to. The thing is, there is a certain someone I would like to send a greeting to because we've woked together in the past, and I have a HUGE crush on this guy. He doesn't know I do (unless my body language gave it away) but I just wanted to send him a simple holiday greeting just to say hello. He transferred to a different office but still drops by once in a while to say hi. I don't have any intentions by sending him the greeting because he is married and I really don't think that he "knows" I have a crush on him. I just wanted to wish him and his family a nice holiday. Because he has shared with me stories of his family and we are like friends - not close friends but closer than just aquaintances. I guess my question is: would it be appropriate to send it to his new office or should I put it in his mailbox that is located at my office? I know this sounds so stupid! LOL! I just wanted to say: "James, how have you been? I just wanted to wish you and your family a very nice holiday! Sincerely, Lisa" I just feel awkward because I feel or think that he "knows" I desire him - but is sending this simple greeting appropriate or not? Thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
collegegirl Posted November 28, 2007 Share Posted November 28, 2007 Sending him a Christmas card. Sending anything more than that is inappropriate. Also if he comes to his old office then putting it in that mailbox close to you is fine. If he never checks that mailbox that it would be perfectly alright to send it to his new office. But remember you can not go any further than the Christmas card and a few "hello how are yous?" He is married and you have a child. Link to post Share on other sites
SuperFantastico Posted November 28, 2007 Share Posted November 28, 2007 HA HA HA. Yes honey, i think its fine to send him a christmas email. Nothing inappropriate to it. Guys are kinda dumb that way anyways. Subtleness is kinda lost on us usually. Now lets be fair, you are doing this because you have a thing for him. Sending him this is like getting to be a bit more intimate with him. heh, but thats ok. No harm no foul. I would say go have a girls night out though. You need to meet some fresh meat as it were. Office places are very conductive to intimacy because you tend to see your co-workers more then you do anyone else. Still there is no chance with this guy(if there were, you would still be the loser in the end.) So yes, send him a christmas email. Then go out with friends and meet some other peeps. Link to post Share on other sites
Author EMBeee Posted November 29, 2007 Author Share Posted November 29, 2007 HA HA HA. Yes honey, i think its fine to send him a christmas email. Nothing inappropriate to it. Guys are kinda dumb that way anyways. Subtleness is kinda lost on us usually. Now lets be fair, you are doing this because you have a thing for him. Sending him this is like getting to be a bit more intimate with him. heh, but thats ok. No harm no foul. I would say go have a girls night out though. You need to meet some fresh meat as it were. Office places are very conductive to intimacy because you tend to see your co-workers more then you do anyone else. Still there is no chance with this guy(if there were, you would still be the loser in the end.) So yes, send him a christmas email. Then go out with friends and meet some other peeps. I know it sounds funny - which it is because I am acting like a teenager again... but what I meant was to send him a Christmas "Card" - an actual card - NOT an email. LOL. I don't know, maybe it is inappropriate because I get the sense that he is showing attraction to me because of the things he does likie he'll touch me and act very friendly towards me and he'll just pop into my office just to say hello, even though he doesn't work in my wing anymore. It seems that he happens to "pop up" in certain places more so than anyone else I see at work. It could be mere coincidence. But I just wanted to send him a Christmas card just to let him know that he thought of during the holidays and that it was great having been able to work with him. Nothing more. Thanks for the comments though! : ) It always helps! Link to post Share on other sites
LoveLace Posted November 29, 2007 Share Posted November 29, 2007 It's not inappropriate to send a XMAS card to a co-worker, but your reasons behind it are kind of inappropriate, since he's married...your using the XMAS thing as an excuse to communicate with him, or get his attention. No big deal to send him a greeting, but you should really find a new crush who's single and someone there is actually a possible future with, it's healthier and more realistic. One rule has always stuck in my head no matter how much I crush on a guy...he's married, so leave it alone...off limits...on to the next prospect. Watch me come back in a few months with a new thread on LS that I'm troubled due to my hot affair with a married guy ha ha Link to post Share on other sites
SuperFantastico Posted December 2, 2007 Share Posted December 2, 2007 Well if you want to cover your butt a bit, send christmas cards to maybe like five or ten more people in the office too. Then no one can say anthing about it. Whether you're intentions are in the grey zone with him, no one can prove it P.S. Lovelace - HA HA HA ya its funny how it totally works that way. Like a rubber band effect or something. Link to post Share on other sites
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