miss wiggles Posted May 28, 2003 Share Posted May 28, 2003 hi, i just found this forum and am hoping to get an unbiased here about this guy i am dating for about two years now. he is a perfectionist and i am not, but at some things i am and he is not. for example we got into this redicilious arguement about mowing the lawn. he said he was going to mow it again on tuesday but had just mowed it on sunday, so i thought that was fairly soon to be mowing again. so i told him that and he replied that he did not do a good job the first time, there were still some patches that needed going over. i told him that they were not noticeable and that he should leave the grass alone because we may end up in another drought and we will need it longer. he did not see it my way of course and we argued about cutting it again, and since it bother himso much he was just going to do it anyway so i am to forget about it. so today mr. perfect sends me over a fax to pull a credit report and did not add the womens social security number, knowing he probably wanted it i left it off anyway. now i know that this is mean, but because this guy acts so perfect and professes never to screw things up that i decided that if indeed he had screwed this up it would serve him right to see his own mistake. so instead he called and was putting the blame on me for not checking with himfirst before i ran the report. so i tried to point out to him that it was his own mistake, and i was very nice about it and directly told him, that he is not going to blame me for his mistake. instead he turned this around and said i should of known better! i wanted to crawl through the telephoneline and strangle him! how arrogant can a guy get anyway? he i s pushing my last button these days and i am ready to run his axx over with the lawn mower. how does one dealwith such an arrogant guy? i have about had it! Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted May 28, 2003 Share Posted May 28, 2003 unfortunately, you can't "fix" other people's annoying tendencies, only help encourage them to improve them or just flat-out ignore them. Or you can become just as obnoxious as they are, and turn it into a game of bull-dozing the person. Though I probably would have just hung up on him the minute he started blaming you for the problem. People walk all over you only if you let them, family (or near-family) members are the worst! Link to post Share on other sites
daisywindmill Posted June 2, 2003 Share Posted June 2, 2003 You could always kill two birds with one stone, ie patio the whole lawn and bury him under it lol Link to post Share on other sites
natura Posted June 2, 2003 Share Posted June 2, 2003 Truthfully, if the guy wants to mow the lawn, let him. Who cares? Unless there are other chores that are being ignored. However, if he gets on your case about doing things "wrong" ie "not his way." Then I would just tell him that you have your own way of doing things, that you may or may not be open to suggestions and that if he doesn't like it, tell him to do it himself. Else leave you alone. It may be good to just compromise and understand that he has his way of doing things and just accept this aspect about him. This sounds like an issue of power or competition. It can also be a sign of other problems in the relationship that is showing itself in other frustrations/interactions. Is that possible? If a relationship requires too much work, it probably isn't worth it. Or if there aren't mostly happy times filled with laugh and love, it probably isn't worth it. Hope this helps. Link to post Share on other sites
Gray Posted June 5, 2003 Share Posted June 5, 2003 omg this is pointless. You got into an argument, get over it. Link to post Share on other sites
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