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Hey all, i just stumbled across this website browsing through the web. Hows it goin? haha. Well i got something i need some friendly advice on. All feedback is wanted please. Ok heres the deal...

 

Ok well im a senior in high school. There is this girl, and she blows my mind everytime i see her man. Ive been friends with her for a few weeks. I started to like her and i let her know this.

 

Well she just got out of a relationship and is sending me mixed signals and i dunno what to do. She keeps mentioning her ex bf a lot when we are together but she will kiss me on the cheek and hug me when she leaves, i know its a sign of friendship but just the way it feels, i think it might be something more.

 

The past few days I have been hanging out with her when she didnt have to work. Everyday, i mean every single day, she will send me texts during school if i dont text her, but i never call her. should i be calling her if i want to pursue it?

 

i dunno if i should risk it all and put my emotions on the line if she is mentioning her ex. In the hallways tho, im always the one that has to say hey, she never says hey first. But i complement her sometimes by calling her beautiful and stuff. i dont know what to do. any advice helps, thanks.

 

 

-scotty

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Hey all, i just stumbled across this website browsing through the web. Hows it goin? haha. Well i got something i need some friendly advice on. All feedback is wanted please. Ok heres the deal...

 

Ok well im a senior in high school. There is this girl, and she blows my mind everytime i see her man. Ive been friends with her for a few weeks. I started to like her and i let her know this.

 

Well she just got out of a relationship and is sending me mixed signals and i dunno what to do. She keeps mentioning her ex bf a lot when we are together but she will kiss me on the cheek and hug me when she leaves, i know its a sign of friendship but just the way it feels, i think it might be something more.

 

The past few days I have been hanging out with her when she didnt have to work. Everyday, i mean every single day, she will send me texts during school if i dont text her, but i never call her. should i be calling her if i want to pursue it?

 

i dunno if i should risk it all and put my emotions on the line if she is mentioning her ex. In the hallways tho, im always the one that has to say hey, she never says hey first. But i complement her sometimes by calling her beautiful and stuff. i dont know what to do. any advice helps, thanks.

 

 

-scotty

 

Hmm it sounds like your in the transition into the friends category, but don't worry, you still have time! Since you tell her shes beautiful she most likely realizes that you find her attractive, atleast in some sense. What does she talk to you about her ex? Does she ask for advice from you, or does she just mention him? If she wants to talk to you about him then she most likely views you as a friend she can talk with. If she just mentions him then she may still be sad/angry at him, OR still has feelings for him.

 

The best thing to do would be to make your move before you are sealed into the friend zone. Just ask her out on a casual date, like coffee or lunch or something.

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Ok well i mean when she mentions him she doesnt ask for advice at all. she attempts to make me jealous i think. i dunno really.

 

But i have been out to eat with her before. i just dunno if moving in for the kiss would be too fast right now or if i should wait. she blows off her other friends just to hang with me. she says babe or baby at the end of every text. i dunno.

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Ok well i mean when she mentions him she doesnt ask for advice at all. she attempts to make me jealous i think. i dunno really.

 

But i have been out to eat with her before. i just dunno if moving in for the kiss would be too fast right now or if i should wait. she blows off her other friends just to hang with me. she says babe or baby at the end of every text. i dunno.

 

 

Would you say that she's the flirty type? Does she act that way around other guys, or just you (as far as you can tell, atleast)? She may be waiting for you to make the first move or show signs that you like her.

 

Does she touch/poke/make physical contact with you a lot in normal conversation? And do you do the same? Thats usually a sign someone likes you.

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I don't really touch her and stuff. she isnt really that flirty of a person, from what i have been able to tell from yet. but she does make physical contact tho. i dunno. i told her i like her i try and show it.

 

but would a kiss be too big of a move?

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I don't really touch her and stuff. she isnt really that flirty of a person, from what i have been able to tell from yet. but she does make physical contact tho. i dunno. i told her i like her i try and show it.

 

but would a kiss be too big of a move?

 

 

WIGIRL made some good advice - A kiss might be a bit too far currently, but try holding her hand sometime. If she pulls away then she probably sees you as a friend, if she doesn't then your good to go!

 

Oh and since she makes physical contact with you then thats a good sign!!

 

Good luck man!

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Try asking her to a movie, or maybe out ice-skating... date like activities. Don't rush her, but don't become the "best friend" either. Just do nice things slowly... walks in the park, after a few weeks, maybe flowers. See what she says. She should get that you really want to be with her after a little while... and see where that goes.

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ok. well i hung out with her again today. then after we got done hangin out i was textin with her, couldnt call cause she was with her rents out to eat. I told her in a text on how bad i had wanted to kiss her. she sent me one back she told me that she was flattered. what is that supposed to mean? is she glad i didnt or what?

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well i gave her a necklace yesterday. we had been hanging out for 2 weeks now. i don't think she would come out and tell me she likes me. i am so confused right now. haha.

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You have a shot! Go for it! I don't! I'm screwed! I need help with the girl I like! I'd go for it. Just try it and see what happens.

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