Semphirople Posted November 30, 2007 Share Posted November 30, 2007 Ok I better describe the situation in full detail so that it makes sense to everyone. My name is Nick im 24 im a security guard at the front desk of a big company building. Theres this girl that works here that I see a few times a day and out of the other 300 women who I see come in and out, she is PERFECT! My job entails looking REAL clean with a suit and tie and talking to people all day and directing them to different people and offices. (This is for women to judge me) Im a young guy whos pretty well built (5 times day gym), I condition and culture my hair like 2 times a week, wear face lotion and a sight touch of very good cologne, blond hair split in middle down to mid forehead, green eyes, clean shave. I wouldnt say that I cant talk to women cause here at work about every (especially more mature) women come up to me and talk about the oddest things in their lives, and im like (why is she telling me this,LOL) and they keep saying "handsome" and stuff like that so theyre not completely offended by me. ANyways this girl, would come in and most days shes staring at me grinning all the way till she walks to the elevators. Other days shed be like LOUDLY, "Hiii how are YOU!" and this happens when im not looking at her entering. But sometimes when she leaves for home and talking to someone SHES NOT EVEN LOOKING AT ME . I know her friend (they work together and carpool) pretty well and we talk alot sometimes but I cant ever get her to talk too much; heres what happens when she comes up to my front desk: SHE: (puts down her purse on the desk and shuffles in it) "yeah my gloves keep me warm, i dont even have to wear long pants with these gloves" ME: (thinking; whattaheck is she talking about, AAAH my heart is racing I dont know what to say!) "umm all I use is my hat, see most of the heat is in the head" SHE: (smiles the whole time at me) "cant wait for xmas im like a little kid" ME: (uuuuhh whattaheck did i say about the hat uuuuuuuh idiot) "really, wow, thats great uhhh" So I have no idea what is going on with this girl but im hoping some women can shed some light into this signal game if you will. thanks, nick Link to post Share on other sites
JCD Posted December 1, 2007 Share Posted December 1, 2007 Some women just like to flirt or be friendly. I would talk to her as a friend and after getting to know her for couple of days, ask her if she has a boyfriend. If not then ask her out on a date. But don't build your hopes so high that you'll fall in love with her before you get to know more about her. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted December 1, 2007 Share Posted December 1, 2007 Yeah.. She likes you... JCD's advice is right on...Use the friend as the "in" Link to post Share on other sites
Author Semphirople Posted December 3, 2007 Author Share Posted December 3, 2007 thank you guys, any more input from ppl would be helpful heres an update LOL ok i went outside of the bldg to have a smoke and when i got out she was there on phone so she quickly folded her phone and was like "hey you slacker!@" cuz i was out taking a break and she ran up to me and was being all spunky making jokes about this one guy who had his music too loud in the car that drove by and we carried on a pretty fun convo, i though she was really cool as far as personality because before this i didnt talk to her too much and she was just attractive. anyways so were talking about hookahs and such and shes never been to a hookah bar apparently so im like "a friend of ours just opened up this cool place etc" and i actually said somewhere down the line " what are you doing saturday":eek: she was like " a baby brothers bday party" so we joked around for a bit BUT THE QUESTION IS OMG!!!!! it would be so WRONG to ask her out next week when she comes back but i really want TO! Link to post Share on other sites
SusanChess Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 Maybe I missed it, but what does she do for the company/how far up the ladder is she? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Semphirople Posted December 4, 2007 Author Share Posted December 4, 2007 they are a loan servicing agency, shes one of those who's been doing it for a few years unlike most of em who been there a few months Link to post Share on other sites
littlekitty Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 Ask her out. I get the feeling she likes you.....! She's given you an 'in'. Now use it....! Link to post Share on other sites
MrMichael Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 go for it dude, office chicks rule!...is this in Ft Worth by any chance? Link to post Share on other sites
Leia Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 She likes you. I know I would definitely put off a phone call if I saw someone I like slacking off... MrMichael, love your avatar! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Semphirople Posted December 6, 2007 Author Share Posted December 6, 2007 Alright ladies and gentlemen! Sounds like y'all here see her behavior as an 'in' for me ok! ill take it. My ppl in real world are telling me that I should just go ahead and ask as honestly and sincerely as possible without bs, hmm maybe a good idea, its well inteded to the least and I dont want to play around cause nowadays im looking for good honest relationships. Ok next level of advice. If ill strike up a convo with her again and at a certain instance (when situation permits) be like "Would you like to go out with me:love:?" LOL just a straighforward yes or no would do? ORRRRRRR Is this waay too blunt:laugh: ohh and btw mrmichael dude wassup, naw man its actually Highlands ranch is where this is happening, its a frontrange community in denver colorado area Link to post Share on other sites
Leia Posted December 6, 2007 Share Posted December 6, 2007 "Would you like to go out with me:love:?" That should be fine, in my opinion anyway. I hate it when guys beat around the bush or come up with some stupid lines... just be blunt but don't do it to the extend of scaring her away! Link to post Share on other sites
JCD Posted December 6, 2007 Share Posted December 6, 2007 Ask her first if she has a boyfriend. If she doesn't want to date you she will say that she has a boyfriend and that gives her a way out instead of being directly confronted with a loaded question. If she says she doesn't have a boyfriend then ask her if she would like to go out and spend time with you. But like I've said, try not to fall for her this early because rejection will hurt and it will be harder for you two remain friends. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Semphirople Posted December 7, 2007 Author Share Posted December 7, 2007 well a few days passed, im in the process of finding out if she currently has a man, 90% evidence suggests she doesnt. Im going to be starting work for the same company she works for soon instead of being the security (read above) so hopefully that will give more opportunity for conversation. as of this point we havent really had time to talk much at all, either because she so busy and cant even smoke 1 sig LOL or she comes out with her friend whos much more talkative anyways, she still comes up to my desk of and on and smiles a whole lot, hmm this looks like good cosistency at least in that respect Im figuring either going for a packed "inquisitive" conversation which ends with "do you have b/f.......wanna go out?" OR just getting to know her thoroughly throughout a period of a few weeks and maybe round xmas time getting to the dating? What do YOU think! LOL Link to post Share on other sites
Author Semphirople Posted December 11, 2007 Author Share Posted December 11, 2007 Ok on wednesday im comin back to work if shes there im gonna talk to her and unless she gives me some clear signs no to go ahead, im gonna just ask her out lol! ive sorta been pracitcing this lately on random cute women, waitresses n such 5 said they have bfs 1 gave me da number and said yes to a restaurant date frankly if she says no at least i asked, ohh and she doesnt have a bf but she has been with a few guys at the company before so....... could be interesting:D Link to post Share on other sites
Author Semphirople Posted December 27, 2007 Author Share Posted December 27, 2007 Alright heres the scoop, thats for all your help btw from previous stuff. An update as to my affairs, i now work as an assistant manager in the company i did security for (read above) so im "responsible" for a few ppl here so my relationship with everyone is not really the same. Frankly i am kinda changing my perspective of dating too. Before, i was kinda always searching for a girl and alot of them were in my mind "potentials:D" but now its like I just wanna kick back and enjoy my work without worrying about dating and being single too much im wondering what you guys think of this perspective ps i posted a new pic on my avatar Link to post Share on other sites
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