janey82 Posted November 30, 2007 Share Posted November 30, 2007 Hello all i'm new to this site and am shocked to see the amount of people with similar problems! Basically I split up with my boyf of 6 years about 3 months ago, we were living together and I moved in with some new friends but he went home to his mums which is about an hour away. Anyway, we broke up because he always was more interested in everyone else and not me (i'e family and friends) we didn't spend xmases together and things like that. I wanted to make it work but i think he just had enough and didn't want to put the effort in, otherwise we have a great time together and he was a great boyf, just the big things were missing. We had no contact for a while and it was hard but working and i'd moved on to the mad at him stage, but he had a bereavement and called me, i went to the funeral to support him and all that and from this we ended up agreeing to see each other again as we still loved each other and he'd realise what went wrong. That was a few weeks ago and we've seen eachother once since, he rarely calls, or sends messages and sometime ignores mine, i've bought this up a few times and he says he still wants it but to take it slow. I'm confused but i love him and want to make it work but not if he's juts stringing me along, i've not heard from him for 3 days now?!!! What to do?! Should i just move on or try?! Link to post Share on other sites
curiousnycgirl Posted November 30, 2007 Share Posted November 30, 2007 You said he had a bereavement - could he still be dealing with that? If not I suggest you live your life, plan your time, etc. When he calls wanting to see you, if you are free, see him. If not tell him wow I wish I could but I have plans. Do not sit there waiting for him to call. Do not sit there stewing over the fact that he hasn't called. You appear to be ready/want more of a relationship that he is ready for. So if you really want it to be him, you need to give him space and time. Meanwhile while you are living your life, who knows you may stumble across someone else. Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
Author janey82 Posted November 30, 2007 Author Share Posted November 30, 2007 Thanks that's pretty much a perfect reply, I think i need to accept that i am ready for more than him I guess it's just hard to let go. It's almost like I know all this in my head but I can't help but desperately want him to call me and you start to question if you just acting desparate so it's good to hear that i'm not imagining his absence! Link to post Share on other sites
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