mwbmtp Posted December 1, 2007 Share Posted December 1, 2007 Try to keep this somewhat condensed! My girlfriend soon to be wife! of 3 years in the past 6- 8 months has been hanging out alot with a lesbian coworker. thats fine. my girl had even told me that she knows the lesbian had a bit of a crush on her. oh fine. welll 6 months ago i found out that she had gone back out.. (we dont live together yet) after we had been out.. she told me this story that made sense and fit together it just didnt seem quite right... but i trust her .. no reason not to. since then I had aquired pictures that put her somewhere completly different than where she said she was that night... and 3 other times since... those times she was supposed to be house sitting for a friend (again nothing abnormal) When i asked about the photos (which i came across on one of her friends web page) that is when she said that they were of completly different places. She hasnt seen them and doesnt know that it is very evident where she is (the bar's sign is very visible in them) i had just let on that they were pictures of her and those other people hoping that she would just tell me.. so then she wants some time off...after i approached her about the photos.. granted we have had our ups and downs ... but i feel a great effort was gone to for her to hide these "evenings" from me. any insight would be great! ps do i think she is a lesbin? no... just wondering why she is hiding this from me, Link to post Share on other sites
Bryanp Posted December 1, 2007 Share Posted December 1, 2007 If she is lying to you now about where she was, going out after being with you, asking for time off then you would be out of your mind marrying her. If the roles were reversed do you think she would be putting up with such bull from you? You are engaged and she is already lying to you? The handwriting is on the wall. If she does this now you can guarantee that this will be your future. Don't be an idiot. Drop her and find someone who will respect you and your relationship because it is clear she does not. She is playing you for a fool and I think you know this. I wish you luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Bryanp Posted December 1, 2007 Share Posted December 1, 2007 I fogot to mention that it is much more common today for women to engage in bisexual activities. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mwbmtp Posted December 10, 2008 Author Share Posted December 10, 2008 Well it was all confirmed a few weeks ago... It came that they had been doing all this for over a year and a half and now are a happy couple.... we have been broken up for 4 months or so.... well better now than later! geez... Link to post Share on other sites
Bryanp Posted December 10, 2008 Share Posted December 10, 2008 Consider yourself so very lucky that you did not marry her. She was with you talking about marriage while having a sexual affair with another woman for a year and a half while being with you. She was a liar and a cheat. My friend you have dodged a huge bullet. Most people are not as lucky as you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mwbmtp Posted December 11, 2008 Author Share Posted December 11, 2008 yep... thanks for the support... you are right.. it is amazing the power of denial!! Link to post Share on other sites
Wicked Smile Posted December 12, 2008 Share Posted December 12, 2008 Well it was all confirmed a few weeks ago... It came that they had been doing all this for over a year and a half and now are a happy couple.... we have been broken up for 4 months or so.... well better now than later! geez... I mean I don't know what's worse. Having her cheat with a man or a woman. Eitherway it's bound to hurt. Sometimes a person will cheat just once and are decent enough to learn from it, others will keep on cheating and always have excuses about what they are owed that they didn't get and thus drove them to cheat. Really, It's not you...it's them. They are just cowards too scared to own up and respect you to come clean with a break up. They instead line something up on the side and jump ship. I hope good things come your way. You are actually really lucky that this woman didn't come into your life and completely wreck it with a family on board. Now go hook up with a hottie and create some good memories to flush out all this crap! Link to post Share on other sites
georgejungle Posted December 12, 2008 Share Posted December 12, 2008 too many shady things. I'd break it off, there are PLENTY and i mean PLENTY of other chicks out there. I know you invested three years in this gal, but it's not worth going foward and actually making it LEGAL if she's being shady already. Link to post Share on other sites
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