oh god oh god oh god...I wanna die!!! :(

[RecordProducer]

Record I am not uneducated firstly, I am a good student in college and am getting good grades. I usually get very high marks on my essays and other writing assignments.

I keep stressing that my comment had nothing to do with your writing style. I've seen awful writing skills on LS and I can discern lack of education from lack of peace.

 

And to add..Record...thoughts when just written exactally as they are thought are usually chaotic. When I am upset...i dont think of anything else but that what is upsetting me.

Again, I wasn't commenting your writing, but precisely your THOUGHTS. I imagined you talking and it felt like dizziness. Besides, if you want people to read your posts, honor them with some comprehensive texts, now that we know that you CAN write succinctly.

 

You can't just connect different pieces from different stories in a chaotic way and expect from readers to conjecture what you're trying to say and then help you somehow. I think you were just trying to show us how upset you were by writing things like "i just...i just..." and smiliar, but peole just need to read the meat of the story.

 

ML, he is just an ex who didn't say "bye." And you said you wanted to die. You said all you wanted was for him to be normal. This storm of feelings indicates major lack of emotional stabilty. This is why I suggested that you seek professional help. You are only 18. People at your age or just slightly older already deal with problems that are much bigger than yours. I wonder how you would deal with those and I am afraid that you would fall apart. You need someone to help you build this stability so you can take all the life's slaps. And trust me, there will be many of them.

[vivrantflo]

Kenzie, I was defending the original poster, not responding to her posts by attacking her.. who here has their PhD to tell someone they are manic?... so my own "advice" doesn't apply to me... thank you

[RecordProducer]

Kenzie, I was defending the original poster, not responding to her posts by attacking her.. who here has their PhD to tell someone they are manic?... so my own "advice" doesn't apply to me... thank you

It's true that we are not psychiatrists licensed to diagnose anyone. But neither are most people you and I and she will meet through life. When you allow yourself to lose control over your feelings to the point where you lose control over your actions, and talk too much without making much sense, people are not likely to take you seriously. If you're a loner, you can be who you want to be; but when you want positive feedback from the society (in this case she wants it from a young male student), you need to fit in.

[SunnyLady]

I keep stressing that my comment had nothing to do with your writing style. I've seen awful writing skills on LS and I can discern lack of education from lack of peace.

 

Again, I wasn't commenting your writing, but precisely your THOUGHTS. I imagined you talking and it felt like dizziness. Besides, if you want people to read your posts, honor them with some comprehensive texts, now that we know that you CAN write succinctly.

 

You can't just connect different pieces from different stories in a chaotic way and expect from readers to conjecture what you're trying to say and then help you somehow. I think you were just trying to show us how upset you were by writing things like "i just...i just..." and smiliar, but peole just need to read the meat of the story.

 

 

Its simple, if you are unable to conjecture her thoughts from her posts, simply refrain from replying. Many of the posters on here seem inclined to judgement. I don't think its necessary to point out the flaws in her thoughts and her style of demonstrating her thoughts. Whether or not your criticsms were supposed to be constructive or helpful.

 

ML, he is just an ex who didn't say "bye." And you said you wanted to die. You said all you wanted was for him to be normal. This storm of feelings indicates major lack of emotional stabilty. This is why I suggested that you seek professional help. You are only 18. People at your age or just slightly older already deal with problems that are much bigger than yours. I wonder how you would deal with those and I am afraid that you would fall apart. You need someone to help you build this stability so you can take all the life's slaps. And trust me, there will be many of them.

 

No her statment regarding her wanting to die does not necessarily indicate major emotional stability. It was simply an exaggeration and an effort to express herself albiet not in the most "comprehensive" manner. It reflects her hyperbolic style of writing, nothing more! Have you not heard of instances where people make statements like "oh my goodness, that was so embarrasing i felt like dying?" simply trying to express and describe the degree of shame they felt at that point in time? I don't think i am in dire need of professional help and i know i exaggerate sometimes. I guess saying "im so hungry i could eat a cow" requires a visit to a dietician.

 

The tone has changed, many of you started off with a very critical tone. Someone even made reference to her rambling being a factor for her boyfriend's nonchalant behaviour. That was a very callous statment-i hope this is not your definiton of help! When people suffer from breakups they tend to doubt their self-worth. Don't make it any harder than it is. She has family and friends who love her and tolerate her outbursts and rambles. If you can't do the same then let her be. In a way it seems like she is being bullied. No one would speak to a 40 year old who came on for advice that way.

 

This is her first breakup. With time and experience she will learn how to make concise and conclusive representations of her thoughts. Till then offer her as much support as you can without the unnecessary cricticisms. And leave the literature lessons to her college professor!

[vivrantflo]

My sentiments EXACTLY. Well said SunnyLady

[MrMichael]

That was a very callous statment-i hope this is not your definiton of help! When people suffer from breakups they tend to doubt their self-worth. Don't make it any harder than it is.

 

 

Yeah, what she said!!!...without this site some of us WOULD need to see a doctor, I am quite grateful for the support and advicce I have gotten, and would NEVER rip on someone in here.

[RecordProducer]

I guess saying "im so hungry i could eat a cow" requires a visit to a dietician.

You completely missed my point. If you don't see what I see, let's agree to disagree. At the end of the day, it's her life, not mine or yours. YOU too are allowing yourself to diagnoze this girl as totally healthy. How do you know that she is? If she commits suicide some day (not because she said she wanted to die, but because she is emotionally unstable, which she admitted herself), will YOUtake responsibility for that? No.

 

In a way it seems like she is being bullied.

She wanted help based on her post. We commented the post. Telling someone that it seems like she needs professional help is not bullying. I didn't say ANYTHING that was mean-spirited. I tried to help by telling her how I see things from her posts. Why did you quote ME? Quote the person who said "verbal diarrhea." Get off my case and write your own advice, if you have any, please. Peace!

 

And leave the literature lessons to her college professor!

Again with the literature.

[MacgyverThis]

Hey mylife. I am new here too, I think this is post number 3 for me.

look he is a mean boy, you don't need to go up and say hi to him. if he wanted to talk to you enough, he would have.

The fact that he looked you in the eye ,then walked out shows that

1) he blantantly doesn't care about how you feel

2) he does care but only very little(which is quite usless if you want to maintain a freindship of any sortwith him

3) he is an emotional retard and he will hurt you more than he loves you, All the things that he does to love you will stick out in your mind because they are excessive and over the top, and all the things he does to hurt you will be excessive and over the top cause he doesn't know how to feeel properly.

 

It will hurt a hell of alot everytime you see him but it will hurt less and less.

Just keep strong and do things that you enjoy and fulfill you.

You will get over him and things will be fine

[Mylife]

Ok everyone...listen....

 

Please please please!!!!...don't created disagreements between fellow LS members because of me...please...we are all here to help eachother...not to argue...so please...dont argue because of me ...

 

And honestly, I am even over what happened that day and today I am exactally 8 weeks into the break up with 7 weeks of NC.

 

Record I really appreciate how much you care and yes when i wrote that post and the title I gave it was a little too much. I'll be careful how I post and my choice of words the next time around.

 

I am trying to keep my emotions in place since and have been doing good and soo far since that day haven't cried or felt sad so I have been stable for the most part which is good.

 

To Macgyver...firstly welcome to LS...its an awsome place and i m sure u will love it here...

And yes I do agree with you...if he doesn't care, why should I? He acted really stupid and shouldn't bother of what he does or thinks. Thanks for the support my dear.

 

And too all the rest of you on this thread, I AM OK!......Really. All I want is for you all to just stop all the arguments. Please don't argue, I feel like I am the reason that you are all losing friends that are there to help eachother. Don't let that happen, please. I really really appreciate all...every single one of your concerns towards me. And like record said...its about me here not about any of you. So I know that anything said here is a person's opinion and I try and take it in a good spirit that they are genuinly trying to help me out. I would appreciate if you all took it in the same way too. I am sure that no one here has anything against me because of my age or my writing or my emotional unstability.

 

We are all here to help each other...not to argue over how we are replying to eachother's posts.

 

So please please, for my sake...if you all do genuinely care for me...stop the argument.

 

Thanks a bunch...love u all:)

[Mylife]

Oh and to add...the last thing I want is to regret posting here because of all this that I have caused. Its kind of my last hope to rant instead of bursting into tears and just feeling horrible. So please don't take that away from me by reacting like this to my posts. As in just arguring among each other instead of actually giving me advice and helping me out.

[KenzieAbsolutely]

Kenzie, I was defending the original poster, not responding to her posts by attacking her.. who here has their PhD to tell someone they are manic?... so my own "advice" doesn't apply to me... thank you

 

sure it does. and i never said she was manic, though i think she could do with some help. whether i have or anyone else has a Ph.D or not (which you have no way of ever knowing) does not matter, as we're not allowed to give professional advice here anyhow. so i stick with my original thought, and i think you'll deal with it just fine.

 

good luck, MyLife, whatever path you take.

[suffragette13]

Check it out: if I'm (hypothetically) angry and someone tells me to "get a grip" it would further upset me and exacerbate the situation. That's a customer service RULE. If I am reeling and in pain and someone I do not know personally tells me to "get help... you're incomprehensible and what's going on in your head is a mess..." it would further my pain and despondency.

 

Let's just remember, we are all here because we're going through our own bs and that maybe some delicacy in remarking on the mental health of others should be a rule. Personally, a friendly comment letting me know how therapy has worked for them and the changes it wrought in their life would go a whole lot further than a stranger telling me to seek professional help. Comments like that come across as being cold, derisive and critical that is-- the opposite of warm, supportive and accepting.

 

There are plenty of other places to spar and be abused, **** relationships, roller derbies, I-40... Hang in there ML, you can't complain that no one is talking to you now!