McGuyver Posted May 31, 2003 Share Posted May 31, 2003 I'm not really sure how much aggressiveness I should display when talking to new women. I actually am pretty competitive and smart, I've had a lot of significant achievements in my life, but I try to tone that down when dealing with women, because it starts to sound over the top. So I've gotten varying results of being considered either a) too nice or b) coming on too strong/being too aggressive. It's all acting to me. I have a wide range so I can pull either off, but I'm going to be judged by the first impression, and I'm not sure what stance to take. What works best? I know women vary, but I've met some that actually want their guy to beat them, which I think is ----ing ludicrous. I would not go that far to prove machismo because I don't want to end up in jail or court. I'm not Richard Simmons either. Guy makes me nervous. And is there any way to pull it off being myself? Honestly that doesn't work in my experience. Link to post Share on other sites
Bill Posted June 1, 2003 Share Posted June 1, 2003 You just need to focus on calming down when going on a date. Try to take things slow, listen more than speak. This should help you overcome the aggressive behavior. Just make sure you not only hear her, but actually listen. Use your creativity to provide insightful feedback to her questions and/or statements. Don't do anything out of the too out of the ordinary in niceness to be considered too nice or too interested. You are always yourself; just use these hints to polish your image. Link to post Share on other sites
yes Posted June 1, 2003 Share Posted June 1, 2003 diff-t women like to be approached differently - the trick is to read her quickly and know what approach to take (i know some guys who're very good at this - just takes practice). some girls need sweet-talk, some want a bit of agressiveness, some want the guy to seem shy, etc... some want to take it slow, some want it as fast as possible... there're many diff-t kinds of women! you gotta learn to deal well with the one you have in front of you, not with a general woman. good luck, -yes Link to post Share on other sites
cozmonort Posted June 4, 2003 Share Posted June 4, 2003 To be honest I find being myself normally works for me Problem is I only seem to attract women already in relationships lately any advice there !!?? -coz Link to post Share on other sites
NEONINK Posted June 11, 2003 Share Posted June 11, 2003 I don't like the aggressive part. I'm not sure asking about 'display of aggressiveness' is the best question here. Unless you are a caveman. Ok, how about assertive. That takes a little of the chill off and backs down a notch or two from aggressive. Everyone likes somebody confident and self-assured. . Link to post Share on other sites
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