Patty Posted May 31, 2003 Share Posted May 31, 2003 Last night my guy came to visit me.And I backed away cause the odor was driving me crazy.He had not used deodarant cause I could smell it.He wondered why I was backing away and I told him I wasnt. He has a beard now but Im not that crazy about it.I think he looked alot better without it.A mustache is ok long as it is neat.I just dont like those hairs in my way when Im kissing.Its very distracting. But when he wants me to kiss him,I sometimes, back away cause after he has eaten anything with garlic or onion,it just turns me off. I bought him an "Old Spice" set for Christmas that came with a bar of soap and aftershave.He really liked it. I could be a little picky but I like my men,to shave and have a nice fragrance on.A big plus is also a guy that takes the time to look nice.Im not saying that he never dresses nice.Just my opinion. I usually buy him clothes that I think look nice on him. Whats a good perfume,I can get him to put on? Patty Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted May 31, 2003 Share Posted May 31, 2003 Perfume is for women. However, you can get him a good men's cologne fairly inexpensively at any drug or department store. Anything at all will be better than smelling his stinky butt. Whatever you do, don't get one of those colognes that smells like Lemon Pledge. It sounds like your guy has a real problem with personal hygiene. You ought to come right out and tell him his deodarent is not lasting long enough and he needs to use a better one. That ought to be enough of a hint. You might want to buy him some Right Guard or other spray or rub on deodarent to give him a head start. While you're at it, get him a bar of good soap and encourage him to take a shower. If I'm dating somebody and they consistently have bad breath, I don't last long with them. Bad breath is the biggest turn off of anything. Don't tolerate poor hygiene in any guy. Set them straight real fast. What's the point in dating somebody if you can't get near them and you'd rather kiss the dog than them. Personally, I think if you have to encourage a guy to take a shower, use deodarent and keep his breath fresh...you've got a kid on your hands who needs to be raised. Link to post Share on other sites
EnigmaXOXO Posted May 31, 2003 Share Posted May 31, 2003 If he's not good at subtle hints, then maybe the next time he comes over you should meet him on the porch with the garden hose! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Patty Posted May 31, 2003 Author Share Posted May 31, 2003 Thanks for your wonderful advice and ideas.I will try to look for Right Guard next time Im out shopping. Patty Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted May 31, 2003 Share Posted May 31, 2003 I like the garden hose idea myself. Maybe some Comet Cleanser and a wash cloth would be helpful as well. If he totally refuses to clean up before he comes to your house, tell him to spray himself thoroughly with Lysol Disinfectant prior to his visits. He could keep some in his car. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Patty Posted June 1, 2003 Author Share Posted June 1, 2003 The garden hose and lysol sounds like a funny idea.When he gets a car Ill make sure he keeps it in there. He smokes too which I forgot to mention in my last post.When he has no money for ciggaretts then he stops for awhile.Im very pleased that he has at least tried.He seems to try even more when people dont pressure him.So I try not to pressure him for that.Only I might say something like,"I care about you and hope you can give it up someday",but I wont be like" stop smoking" "you have to give it up" I try not too be demanding and I think its the reason why he likes me. Patty Link to post Share on other sites
cindy0039 Posted June 1, 2003 Share Posted June 1, 2003 Buy some breath mints and gum and next time he comes over pop one in your mouth and then say, "Here, want one?" Maybe that will help with the breath issue. Tell him you miss his handsome SMOOTH face. Maybe that will encourage him to shave the beard. Link to post Share on other sites
Just A Girl2 Posted June 1, 2003 Share Posted June 1, 2003 The answer is not breath mints or cologne. These will only slightly mask the real problem; the problem is that he's not big into personal hygiene. What kind of guy would go see his gal with bad breath and body odor? Yuck. He should be having a shower before he comes to see you, if he's that sweaty or funky. And he should already know enough to be wearing deodorant. And if he's eaten onions or garlic, he should be smart enough to know to brush his teeth before getting together with you, especially before something as intimate as kissing you. And in my opinion, a beard is nothing more than a disgusting food/germ collector. Unless a guy is really meticulous about personal hygiene, that can't help but get all kinds of funk in their facial hair....food, grease, perspiration, etc. You need to tell him that he needs to learn the difference between Hygiene and Eugene (joke).......and that you've noticed him slipping in this area......and you're becoming turned off, and you feel that you put effort into being clean/smelling nice for him; taking care of your appearance/breath, etc...so you need the same from him. Buying him nice smelling cologne isn't going to take away the underarm funk, or skanky breath. You need to be blunt and honest here and tell him what you've told us here. Link to post Share on other sites
Kat Posted June 1, 2003 Share Posted June 1, 2003 I thought he was your fiance? If I couldn't bring up these kind of issues with my b/f I don't see how you can take it to a stage of going to get married. Link to post Share on other sites
jenny79 Posted July 18, 2003 Share Posted July 18, 2003 There are some herbal capsules that actually help control body odor and in some cases get rid of it completely. It has worked pretty well for me. -Jenny Link to post Share on other sites
Leikela Posted July 18, 2003 Share Posted July 18, 2003 Like most everyone stated in response to your post, cologne will only cover it up. Discuss personal hygiene with him. Once he gets his act together with that and you like cologne on a guy, I would recommend Aqua Di Gio. It smells SOOOO good. I love it when my boyfriend puts that one on. Yum.... Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted July 18, 2003 Share Posted July 18, 2003 I tell my husband "Phew! You Stink - go shower" When we were dating I used to tell him "Phew! You Stink - Go Shower before you come near me, and brush your teeth too" I think my husband has abnormally large sweat glands - he's always sweated a lot. You can do it jokingly - but you do need to let him know that it's his odor you find offensive - not his heart! Link to post Share on other sites
independent Posted July 20, 2003 Share Posted July 20, 2003 go to the shower with him and do the scrubbing (he might even think that you're dying to be intimate with him) then put toothpaste on his toothbrush and brush your teeth with him...so he'll get used to doing that whenever he visits you. remember, do thsi in a way liek you're inviting him for a "hot" shower together then go straight to teh sink and let him brush his teeth too. do this regularly so he'll get a hook on it. (man! isn't it like training a canine?) Link to post Share on other sites
meandonlyme Posted October 29, 2003 Share Posted October 29, 2003 Have you heard what you have been saying about this guy? I don't mean to be mean but... you want to be with a guy that doesn't bath enough, stinks, doesn't care if it bothers you, smokes and doesn't care if it bothers you, doesn't have a car...likes you because you don't tell him your honest feelings??? Respectfully, I think you need to work on your self esteem so that you feel you are deserving of a partner that respects you and cares about your feelings and thoughts. Link to post Share on other sites
meandmealone Posted October 29, 2003 Share Posted October 29, 2003 ...and he at times doesn't have enough money for cigarettes, so I suppose he doesn't keep a job. You deserve better. Link to post Share on other sites
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