j_hunt_12 Posted December 5, 2007 Share Posted December 5, 2007 Ok... So I am currently studying abroad one year. I met this girl the first day I was here. She was my language tutor- doesn't speak english well and I dont speak her language well but somehow we can communicate perfectly...there's not been an strange break in conversation once since we met. We were friends for two months before falling in love and have now been together/dating for two months. Ironically enough she is leaving me to go to the U.S. to study in two weeks. I'm madly in love with her... Our love is completely different... blah blah blah. You know the story. It's very true in our case. Anyways, anyways this is normally when people say there goodbyes and break-up, but we want to stay together. We've done the math, and in the next 1.5 years we can only arrange 3 days together 6 months from now, 1 month together 1 year from now, and then we graduate from college 1.5 years from now and hopefully can get married, even though we both know it's early to talk about it too much (she's 19 I'm 20). That plan is if everything goes right. I'm her first BF, first kiss but you'd never guess by the way she looks or acts; she's suprizingly normal and just cool in general. To be honest I'm not the least bit scared she will leave me. I'm crazy about her and we spend time together about everyday here. I really want to marry her and figure if we can make it through 1.5 years of a distance relationship having been "together" together only 5+ months I would be quite justified to marry her. We're staying together either way, but I wanted to see what people here had to say about it. It seems like it'll never work but I think it will (then again I'm not thinking strait right now). I'm now entirely dedicated and so is she... I'm just curious about our chances really; I've never heard of something like this actually working. P.S. the girls here are different than girls in the U.S., so some rules may not apply...I would explain that in further detail but I'm lazy right now. Ohh yeah, and no one can know here...It's just complicated why. thanks Link to post Share on other sites
catrocks Posted December 6, 2007 Share Posted December 6, 2007 If you're looking for LDR success stories then here's mine Me and my hubby met in Belgium - I was living there and he was stationed close by in the AF. We dated for a year and a half, and then the AF sent him back to the US. This was Feb 2005. We stayed together, seeing each other 2 or 3 times a year for a few weeks at a time, and last summer (2006) we got engaged and started the lovely immigration process. I got my fiancee visa in July this year, moved to the US in August, and we were married in September. We managed 2.5 years long distance, and I'd say if anything, it strengthened us as a couple. We went through some very bad times, but we survived. If you believe that you and your girl are strong and you want to be with her then go for it - if it doesn't work then at least you can say you tried, and if it does then great but the time goes by quickly, and as long as you keep communication open and trust each other, I don't see why it couldn't work. Link to post Share on other sites
chrissy27 Posted December 9, 2007 Share Posted December 9, 2007 hey Well, I am in almost the exact situation...I have been studying abroad for six months and I met my boyfriend here. He lives in another country, and he actually just left two weeks ago. I have never felt such a strong love for a guy, and I am not ready to leave him. It has been hard and I have felt very sad, but honestly if you are both willing then the only thing standing in your way is, well, you. The only thing I can say is don't completely put your life on hold, but enjoy what happens and if you find out this person is the right one for you then don't let her go. You do have to put the effort in staying in touch and being a part of each others lives. I wish the best of luck to both of us Link to post Share on other sites
Author j_hunt_12 Posted December 11, 2007 Author Share Posted December 11, 2007 yeah thanks to both of your for the posts. They've made me feel a lot better about staying together. She's leaving in less than a week.. sucks very much.. BUT now i'm curious about that "lovely immigration process". I know it's way too early, but i'm curious because it's a lot better for relationships if you know you have a chance to get married...duh. I know there is a minimum income requirement, but can i hold off on that or something. I have excellent grades and good past work experience.. not to mention a very prestigious scholarship to study abroad:cool:. I will definitely get an ok job but it will be at least 5 months after graduating probably, add the time it takes to get 4 paycheck stubs, 3-4 months, plus the great new warnings that say it will probably take about 16 MONTHS to get you fiance a visa (is that really ridiculous and unfair or is that just me?). That adds up to TWO YEARS. During which i really will not be able to visit her much considering I will have a new job... not much leave. can I apply before i get a job, if i have college eduction or something? ... OR can I have a sponser (I think I read somewhere)? My father would be more than willing to help me out for the first years I'm trying to enter the real world. OR will it be a perfect world and can I explain my situation and get the visa. Kind of terrified here.. And Crissy best of luck to you too. It helps knowing that someone is in the same situation as me. It's rough.. but yeah I love her more than anything... it has to work. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
catrocks Posted December 12, 2007 Share Posted December 12, 2007 You can have a sponsor - not sure how it works exactly, but I have heard of people doing this and it working out. I would suggest you get a consultation with an immigration lawyer (just to see what your options are and which route you should take - you can file the application yourself, it's just helpful to speak to someone who can point you in the right direction). If you can't find one, there are many online resources, such as visajourney.com, which have guidelines and FAQ sections that might be able to answer your questions. Also check the uscis.gov website - you can download the forms and find out prices etc. Bear in mind that you'll have to pay to file the K1 (can't remember how much that was, maybe around $400), then once you're married you have to pay $1010 to file for adjustment of status. After 2 years you'll have to file to get the conditions removed from her permanent residence (haven't got to that yet), and then after 5 years she can apply for citizenship if she wishes. It's a stressful process. Sounds like you have a very supportive father though, which is great Good luck, I hope you can be with your lady soon. Link to post Share on other sites
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