traveler76 Posted December 7, 2007 Share Posted December 7, 2007 My girlfriend and I have been together for 2,5 years. I am 31 and she is 26. We had a great relationship until the past 6 months when she quit her job and started thinking what to do with her life. At the same time I was working really long hours and became very stressed out, sometimes I started arguments for no reason. One day after she come back from a ten days trip with her family, I went to pick her up for dinner and she told me we had to break up. After that we spoke on the phone few times and explain her the situation. Things between us can be easily worked out but she believes that I can not change and that she is tried of trying. We were supposed to see each other next tuesday, we spoke on the phone yesterday and she seemed happy to talk. Ten minutes after she called me back and told me that she was not ready to see me, that it was too soon and needed more time. I think that she has feelings for me but she is doing everything possible to kill them. What should I do? Let her go? If she still have feeling for me, why she wants to move on without giving a chance? She is the love of my life, I don't want to loose her. Link to post Share on other sites
frd150 Posted December 7, 2007 Share Posted December 7, 2007 What should I do? Let her go? If she still have feeling for me, why she wants to move on without giving a chance? She is the love of my life, I don't want to loose her. This I understand. First off do not pressure her,do not plead with her, let her be for now. If you do any of these things your chances will be slimmer than they are now. Sorry, but thats the reality. Do not validate the situation Give her some space and a chance to see how things are without you. If there was no cheating, beating or abuse of any kind and overall your realtionship was good then she will begin to remember and miss all the good the two of you had. In the meantime improve yourself. Its sorta the mantra here but it is a good mantra. Show her you can change,prove her wrong. If you do this you will win either way. There are no guarantes. Link to post Share on other sites
Jasmine8719 Posted December 7, 2007 Share Posted December 7, 2007 Maybe she has realized that you won't change and she doesn't want to deal with that anymore...I think this is a perfect chance to show her that she is the love of you life.. Sweep her off her feet again, make her remember why she loved you. She seems stressed and needs that guiding hand (from you). Tell her that you want to meet up with her and don't make her feel like she has too... but just say "I would really like to see you so we can talk" So when shes ready to see you (and she will be) again show her, do whatever you know that makes her smile and remember why she should give you a second chance...Don't go crazy stalker on me or anything lol...just step back for a minute, breathe, and if it works you know it was mean't to be Good Luck -Jasmine Link to post Share on other sites
Author traveler76 Posted December 7, 2007 Author Share Posted December 7, 2007 What she tells me is that we had a good relationship but we are not going to be together in the future. She says that she can not see me now but when she will be ready we will be friends. "Now that I am not your girlfriend it feels good" Link to post Share on other sites
frd150 Posted December 7, 2007 Share Posted December 7, 2007 What she tells me is that we had a good relationship but we are not going to be together in the future. She says that she can not see me now but when she will be ready we will be friends. "Now that I am not your girlfriend it feels good" I got a similar answer. I pulled back N/C) and about a week later she began to call me again. Trust me ,right now you need to just step aside for a bit. I tried the whole meeting up thing and it didnt work. Its ok if she suggests it but you wanting it will only put pressure on her. I cant believe she told you that...wow. Link to post Share on other sites
thelegend Posted December 8, 2007 Share Posted December 8, 2007 Wow brother that's tough but like frd150 said don't stress it just pull back give it time to heal and see where it goes. My ex said similar things to me. Those things will pass with time. She will miss you if you were good to her and the convo will change you just need to respect her wishes don't call her or text her let her come to you. She knows where you stand so there isn't much more you can do. And Jasmine you are sexy!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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