writeon Posted December 10, 2007 Share Posted December 10, 2007 As a person who suffers from depression, you really have no idea what is happening with his wife. No matter what you heard on the phone it is still a snippet of what there life is like. And you have no idea whether or not he contributes to the depression that she has. Mr. Messy Pants, knew what buttons to push and he did. It only drove me deeper into depression, which made me angrier and out of control, which made him push more buttons. It is a cycle that only ends when a therapist is brought in, not another woman. True. Embra... maybe his wife is depressed in part because her husband says he's "single" in "online networking sites" until he finds a women naive enough (sorry, no offense) to believe his "woe is me" stories and make him "feel better" by having an affair with him. How is that supposed to help her depression? Do you really think you are the first other woman he has "found" online this way? Regardless I think he should be putting all of his effort/ energy into helping his wife with her problem, NOT into another woman or online networking sites. You sound very smart, and you yourself said that this situation is "not you." I think you can do WAY better than this pathetic excuse of a husband and father. There are much better men out there, who wouldn't subject you or their wives to this kind of treatment. I agree that your question "why does he stay for the kids?" is misplaced... I think you should be asking "why do I let a man with a wife and kids use me?" I'm sorry if I sound harsh, I'm just hoping that everyone here has helped open your eyes a bit to this man's REAL agenda. Link to post Share on other sites
Impudent Oyster Posted December 10, 2007 Share Posted December 10, 2007 I can tell that he is neglected in his relationship. Not just physically but emotionally as well. I heard him on the phone with her - as soon as he said "hello?" she started yelling about an empty box that hadn't been moved out of the garage. This is just one of many things I have observed, and we have only been seeing each other two weeks. Wait...his wife started yelling to her husband who couldn't help her with a small favor while HE is OUT with the other woman he's sleeping with behind her back and we're supposed to feel sorry for HIM? That's funny. Really, that's hilarious. Link to post Share on other sites
Impudent Oyster Posted December 10, 2007 Share Posted December 10, 2007 I asked him about this. He said she just lays there. Which, yeah, is a common complaint from married men from what I understand. Boring sex. Oh buh-rother, is there a line in the cheaters handbook that this guy hasn't used? Let's see, depressed wife? Check. Wife neglects him?Check Sex is boring? Check Wife will take him to the cleaners if they divorce? Check. Staying just for the kids? Check. Nope, I think he covered it all. He actually managed to use every excuse in the book. I think he's done this before. Link to post Share on other sites
smileysmile Posted December 25, 2007 Share Posted December 25, 2007 lol I love this site. I LOVE the fact some posters give it straight. Good honest advice. I get annoyed at men and women who fall for the crap men MM/MW give. If they are M LEAVE well alone. Why are so many women on here so naive? They are in denial. M/M who put themselves SINGLE in any chat site and they reveal there M make me sick! Keep up all the good advice posters for 2008..you know who you Link to post Share on other sites
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