CaliGuy Posted December 16, 2007 Share Posted December 16, 2007 thank you for the posts: When i say these people were my BEST friends, I truly mean it. I literally hung out with them daily. Stayed over their houses all the time. Really close. Its only been a few hours after hearing about this but i still cant even get mad at them. No hate at all... Why? You will over time. And you'll get VERY angry about this. But before you go any further, you need to remember a few things. Chiefly, did she think about you while she was having sex with that guy? And if he is truly your friend he would NEVER have done this to you. It was ongoing, not an accident. Not a drunken stupor idiotic thing. This was a lengthy, ongoing affair. And you will never be able to trust either of them again. Ever. Without trust there can be no relationship. I just got a call from her right now. She's an absolute wreck... My heart truly bleeds for her. She should have considered the consequences of her actions. Her actions are not that of someone who loves you at all. I really feel for her though. I mean, in terms of being friends we've been so close. Apparently not that close. Cheating on you is NOT treating you like a friend. It's the absolute WORST thing you can do to someone you suppsively love. And also i'm transferring from this college to a brand new school this next semester... So the whole friend thing...I dunno. My advice to you is to never speak to her or the friend again. Get the gym and work out as often as possible. Get to a counselor, not because I think you need it but a neutral party is always good to talk to. Invest yourself in new hobbies and school and focus on improving yourself wherever you can. The more time you WASTE (and I MEAN waste) on the past, what has happened, what you could have done differently, etc, the longer it will take for you to heal. You didn't cause this nor did you deserve it. Whatever pain she is feeling she flat out deserves and I for one can not sympathize with her at all. You make that bed, you sleep in it. As for your friend, well, he truly is NOT your friend. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted December 16, 2007 Share Posted December 16, 2007 and my guy "friend" refused to do anything when i heard over the phone that she did. Said it wasn't his problem. Again, this guy is no friend. To you or to her. Link to post Share on other sites
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