being sheltered is it a really that bad

[joel]

yo was wondering why is being sheltered such a bad thing.

 

this girl i knew or hung out with a reason of negative attribute of her ex is that he was too "sheltered". aka meaning he worked from his contruction job and finished and then went home, and the only time he left the house was when he went to see her. how is that exactly a negative or bad thing, i'm sure assuming, but not totally sure he must have went out for grocery shopping, buy clothes at mall, go out to get lunch, went to gym, took karate class..etc . or what not b/c i do that

 

your sheltered, what do you mean. she says "oh you don't go out ," and i was like how can you tell and she was like by talking to you on emails. funny how can she even tell.

 

my answer is what so bad if u mostly a homebody and don't go out a lot. i mean i go out to buy clothes and check out the malls like once a wk or so , once in a while bus to freind house, go to gym , go to library, lessons in drawing, karate at the community centre. she phone me at times like late at night like 12 30 am night time, 130 am saying what i'm doing and i say on the computer or getting ready to sleep-i found that inconsiderate ,but never told her about it . and i say why she would phone like so late and said she got free minutes after 7pm and she doesn't finish work till later

 

i mean this girl would phone me and ask me what i did or usually do after work, and i saw go home-is t hat exactly a bad thing. i mean after a days of work at times i'm tired, so why go out if u don;t have anywhere to even go to. most of the time -thats the case.

 

i mean what do they mean by going out anyways lol haha

 

u think she care more about other stuff like-abusive, takes drugs, sells drugs, steals ur money, freeloader-but being sheltered lol haha ok

[Yosef]

Not being a girl, I can't speak for them, but I think it has something to do with, "not liking boring". They want to do fun things, like partying, watching a movie, going to a play, or something that you two can do together. Being sheltered isn't bad considering yourself, but the other person involved feels like she isn't a part of the other person's life and therefore leaves the relationship and tries to move on.

 

Yeah, I've never liked the "calling late at night when I'm sleeping" fiasco. "What are you doing?" "I WAS sleeping..." Lol, I agree with you a little bit, but you have to tell her that she shouldn't call you so late, or the problem will never be addressed.

 

That's my two cents.