Stay friends or confess that I like him!?

[Mandy645]

Hi, Im 17 and he's 18, We used to work together and I liked him alot. I didnt know how to act towards him so i was kinda mean to him, not like MEAN, but we'd laugh about it. He would always flirt with me and Id shut him down. I never knew if he was just picking with me or for real, but I liked it because I liked him. Well.. he quit the job and started working next door at a Texaco station. He works nights and I do too alot of times too, and he called me at work about twice and did the same old same old. And one night one of my managers went to texaco before we closed and came back with a little teddy bear and said it was for me, she said it was from him and i called him at work and asked what for? and he said that he was done harassin me and wanted to be friends.. so i said ok, and he said ok no more bein mean to me right? and i agreed. so he's been comin by and we talk n stuff.. some flirting.. but im not mean. Then one night he offered me a ride home.. so i accepted. Also, he called me at work one night recently.. just to chat. And the other day he called me at home. I couldnt believe it. We talked about 45 min. to an hour and he had to go to work. Yesterday i was at work and he came by and sat w/ me and talked to me for a while and i got off and we said bye. Should I take advantage of this being 'friends' to tell him that i was only mean to him cause i liked him and didnt know how to show it? and when he asks well do you still like me, should i tell the truth and say yes? I dont want to ruin the new friendship we have but I still like him more than friends! Help!

[Tony T]

It doesn't sound like you need to mention anything about being mean in the past. You are well on your way to something nice. Your next step is to invite him out to a movie, concert, picnic, or whatever. You've got to move all this past your work areas and the telephone. If you want to get to know him better and make the relationship special, you've got to start doing more things together. So, next time you see him suggest that the two of you do something together...whatever you like...or one of the things I suggested above.

 

Put the past behind you. It's all over, forget it. Now see where you can take the present.

[Mandy645]

Ok, well see he called me at work one time and invited me to come swimming with some friends of his but I had to work. And yesterday when he came by I made it a point to mention that im off for 2 days, so I guess if he doesnt call to ask to do something Ill have to bring it up next time I talk to him that we should get together sometime.

[Clancy]

Mandy, from what you've said this guy likes you big time. A teddy bear??? That's a pretty cuddly sign that shows he's got some pretty soft, fuzzy feelings for you. And the fact that he sent it over to you rather than give it to you himself shows that he's shy about letting you know how he feels and that's why you're still getting the "friend" message from him.

 

One day or night when you are with him, even with friends around, when you say goodbye run up and give him a quick kiss on the cheek and say see ya later, call me. He'll love it. Maybe he'll take it from there.

[Mandy645]

Ok well.. tonight I called my work and the manager mentioned that he was there.. well I talked to him on the phone and he said he'd tried to call me today but he couldnt get through cause i was on the internet. I was like oh my gosh he actually called me *again!* He invited me to go out with him and a friend tonight but I told him it was a little too late cause I knew my mom wouldnt let me go out. so i asked if he was off friday and he said yeah and i work 8-3 so i told him maybe friday then, and he said he didnt have anything to do, and when we were gettin off he said 'ill get in touch with you then, hopefully' and we said bye there was some flirtin on the phone. So... friday may be a good chance to spice up the 'friendship'... thanks for your *positive* replys.. !!