right or wrong?

[Kyle323]

I"ve been talking with an ex for about a month now. I want another chance with her. She tells me to call her when I'm in town and we'd hang out. I ask if she's single and she tells me that she's dating someone but it's not in the relationship stage yet. I'm not sure what that really means, but I thought maybe she just dating around but then she says that she's exclusive to just this guy but it's still not a relationship. After hearing that I told her it be best just to forget about meeting up unless her situaiton changes. I thought it wasn't fair to meet up when she knows that I have feelings and she's with someone else, was I right? The thing is we havn't meet in person in few years, should I have met with her at least once before doing an all or nothing? Any advice on this situation?

 

thanks Kyle

[BrianG]

I think your right. If you still have feelings for an ex and they are dating someone else its best just to stay away. It will only continuosly hurt you considering you want more then "just friends". I like what you said about if the situation changes, because you know what you want and simply setting boundaries as to what you feel is best for you. It feels like the same exact thing I would do in my situation if it ever comes to that so it sounds right in my opinion

[Kyle323]

After I made the intial decision to break contact, I was feeling a bit unsure, I almost sent her meaningless message, but now a couple of days in, it's certianly the only way to manage this kind of a situation.