ilovehoney2005 Posted December 14, 2007 Share Posted December 14, 2007 Hello Everyone, I have known my boyfriend for 10 years and we have ben dating for 5 years and he not only my boyfriend but my best friend. We were also High School Sweet hearts. Currently my boyfriends' work (Construction) has him working in Texas and we live in Florida and he has been gone for 7 weeks now. It has been really hard for me not to see him everyday and I know it has ben hard for him too. Here's my probelm. For the past 2 or 3 weeks now he hasn't been calling me as much as he did in the begining like for the first 4 weeks. He used to call me almost everyday if not every other day. Now he might call me on a Monday if I'm lucky. He has just been giving me excuses why he hasn't and why he can't call me for these past 2 weeks. He did tell me that since he's coming home next week (For Christmas) that he doesn't plan on calling me since he'll be home for Christmas and that it will make me want him more. I really don't like to stay out of touch for days on end, I miss and love him so much. I tried explaing that to him and he threatend to hang up on me so I just left it at that. What should I do? What can I say? Should I be mad at him if he doesn't call until he gets home? Any help or ideas will be grealty appreciated. :oThanks, Melissa Link to post Share on other sites
Nevermind Posted December 14, 2007 Share Posted December 14, 2007 Well it's normal that communication goes down a little, especially when you are away from each other for a rel. short amount of time. So not calling every day doesn't have to be something to worry about. Not calling at all, however, especially after you told him you don't like that, is another story. Are his excuses "real" or do you find he is just avoiding you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author ilovehoney2005 Posted December 14, 2007 Author Share Posted December 14, 2007 Well it's normal that communication goes down a little, especially when you are away from each other for a rel. short amount of time. So not calling every day doesn't have to be something to worry about. Not calling at all, however, especially after you told him you don't like that, is another story. Are his excuses "real" or do you find he is just avoiding you? I believe his excuses are real but on the other hand I don't, and I don't think he's trying to avoid me. I also think he is really home sick too. I had some of my girlfriends over last night and we decided to call him (since he hasn't called me all week) and we were having a good time and once he heard all of us laughing and having fun I could tell in his voice that he was really home sick and dissapointed he wasn't there too...so I dunno. I just really need help on what I should do. Everything was going good until these past couple of weeks. I did break down crying last friday because I miss him so much and he had changed the day he was suppose to be coming home. Sorry about the long response just trying to give a little insight on whats going on. Link to post Share on other sites
Nevermind Posted December 15, 2007 Share Posted December 15, 2007 Mh. Maybe...it's just a thought from a stranger, and you know him best, but could he want to stop the calls because he misses you too much? Maybe he just doesn't want to appear "weak" and cry on the phone? (Guys are stupid, sometimes) Does he have internet. Maybe write him an e-mail once in a while, just telling what you did and how glad you are that he is coming back. And after christmas, talk again. And ask him in the face. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
truckdriving Posted December 15, 2007 Share Posted December 15, 2007 Nevermind hit it right on the head. I was away from my fiance for a month at a time and I found that if we talked every night I would end up feeling even more lonely than before. When he is home during Christmas tell him what you are feeling and try to work something out Link to post Share on other sites
Author ilovehoney2005 Posted December 18, 2007 Author Share Posted December 18, 2007 Mh. Maybe...it's just a thought from a stranger, and you know him best, but could he want to stop the calls because he misses you too much? Maybe he just doesn't want to appear "weak" and cry on the phone? (Guys are stupid, sometimes) Does he have internet. Maybe write him an e-mail once in a while, just telling what you did and how glad you are that he is coming back. And after christmas, talk again. And ask him in the face. Good luck! I def. think thats why he hasn't called me as much because he misses me too much. No he doesn't have a computer or a cell phone I have to call him on their hotel phone. I did write him by snail mail though. Thanks for the help. I am def. going to talk to him face to face once he gets back. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ilovehoney2005 Posted December 18, 2007 Author Share Posted December 18, 2007 Nevermind hit it right on the head. I was away from my fiance for a month at a time and I found that if we talked every night I would end up feeling even more lonely than before. When he is home during Christmas tell him what you are feeling and try to work something out Thats how I felt too when we talked to each other every other night. Link to post Share on other sites
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