mental_traveller Posted January 19, 2008 Share Posted January 19, 2008 Is it just me or is this not really a big deal? You got some free sex, which you admit was great, and now some other guy has to deal with her sh*t while you are free to move on. Sorry but I don't see the problem here! Link to post Share on other sites
Author budd98 Posted January 28, 2008 Author Share Posted January 28, 2008 Just to let everyone know that I did move to Texas a week ago. Things have been great here and I don't really think of the ex anymore. As I said previously, I had found out she went on a trip to see her ex 4 a week and tried to hade it from me. Well, i found out and sent my last text to her almost 2 weeks ago telling her all the best and such and that I am done. I have no desire to text or contact her anymore, bust she had sent me a text this past tuesday that did bother me a bit. She was still on her trip with her ex when she sent this. This is what it said: I deffinitly made the right choice by coming out here. It is something I should have done years ago. It is so nice 2 be with someone who genuinly cares about me. I have never been happier! I wish you the best. Now why would she say such hurtful things like this to me? I did hang out with a girl a couple of days that she didn't like and I am sure her friends told her so that could be why. If she was still with her ex on this trip, why would she take the time to send this message to me if she was really that happy? I don't want her back ever again, but I just want to hear anyones opinion if you really believe she means what she said or not. I just don't understand how you can date someone for 3 years and then get this? She dated her ex for only a year before me. I never responded and never will. Just give me your thoughts, thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
underpants Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 Hi Budd, I am so glad you posted again. I wondered what happened with you. I am relieved that you had to courage to move away from such a negative experience. She sounds like someone who needs to be validated by others. How long was she without her ex before she dated you? Now she immediately goes back to him and texts you. That is just crazy. She does not even know herself out of the context of a relationship. Heck, she seems not to know herself outside of hurtful drama creating. That is not stable. She has lied to you numerous times so this could just be another lie. You have got to have some sense of relief to be away from that. Good for you for not responding. If you do it will go on and on for as long as you contribute to it. Maybe you could change your number so she can't even text you. A fresh start. When you feel ready to date again. I might advise that you seek a girl that has had some time on her own. That might be refreshing for you. Good luck in your new locale. New year, new beginnings. Link to post Share on other sites
Author budd98 Posted January 28, 2008 Author Share Posted January 28, 2008 Hey underpants, thanks for your response. She was broke up with him for like 5 months I believe and changed her number shortly before dating me. I ran into her guy friends before I left and apparently she lied to all of them to where she was going and such. I told them about it a bit and they said that the guy she went to see, was the only guy that broke her heart. They said he was the only one that was mean to her and thats the kind of guy she needs. They also said they pittied any guy that ever dated her cause she makes most people go crazy. They had nothing nice to say about her at all, which was kind of sad since their her friends. I do hope that my ex appreciated the relationship we had and didn't mean what she said. I do think she said it to get a reaction from me since I was with that other girl and all her g/f's seen me. On the other hand, I have met some really cool ladies here already. It really makes me wonder why I ever put up with what I did for so long. Link to post Share on other sites
Sadcakesleo Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 hey budd, this is the longest thread i have ever read, everyone has given you good advice but I know sometimes its hard to follow. I have been in a situation like yours where I was attached to someone the was nothing but negative problems for me. you have to understand her pattern here, she'll leave you alone for awhile then she will text you good or bad because she knows it will screw you all up and have you tripping over her again in turn making her feel better by making you feel worse. Don't let what she says get to you, none of it matters. you did the right thing by moving away for awhile. Don't return home untill you can handle seeing her again with no conflicts on your part. as for the the last text message she sent, she'll text you again, the moment it doesn't work with the dude in boston she will come back. If she doesn't and she truly is happy then thats great news. you wanted to save her right? well save her by letting go, u need no contact NO MATTER WHAT! i know nc is hard and feelings get in the way, im dealing with my own break up right now but every bad thing you feel right now will go away if you never hear from her or about her. Link to post Share on other sites
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