what to do?!?!?

[confused777]

ok to start i'm a guy and a while ago i started to hang out with another group who really messed up my life as i found out recently. but i met this girl who was with one of the guys in the group, she was in 1 of my clases which was a blowoff so i would just talk to her ALL the time every day. we started off as friends. she started to go out with that guy, as me and him began to hang out a lot.

 

he started geting emotional to me one day and told me he was going to break up with her, he said he really can't talk to her. now as time when on i began to b better friends with the girl and not the guy. this guy ended up being a bad guy. cheating on her all the time and only stoped once she caught him like the 4th time. i always covered for him b/c it was friends before girls with us.... one day came when she came over to hang out and it pretty much sparked a relationship. the next day the guy broke up with her, i didn't tell him to or say anything he did it out of the blue so he could hook up with another girl.

 

well i really learned how to pick friends b/c this guy screwed me over. so now it was just me and the girl in the picture and we began to grow on each other. i feel wierd telling her my real feeling about her b/c she knows i like her and she told me she liked me also, but i have more than those feeling for her. she didn't care much about this guy after they broke up she was actually kinda glad. but the summer began once all this happened and she didn't want a relationship. i told her i understood.

 

well i still talk to her but not as much as i did during school but she tells me that the dude (her x-boyfriend) has been calling her and been nice and actally been trying to c if she would hang out.

 

this pretty much bring yall to where i'm at. i don't know if she would get back with this guy and be blinded by his words, and i don't know if i should tell her that i think i love her, or if she still has her feeling for me, or if she just said that so things between us wouldn't get complicated at that moment, though it is now =(!

 

what should i do with her, i don't want to lose a friendship that i had with her but then again i think it would b worth it to take a chance at a relationship with her.

[Tony T]

Don't tell her you love her right now...don't do that at all. Right now, keep your life simple by backing off and seeing what she does with this ex who's trying to get back in her life. He was a jerk to her and if she decides to date him again, that says a lot about her.

 

When you back off, you will become more interesting to her, more of a mystery. If you tell her you love her, it will mean absolutely nothing to her and it will take all the fun and mystery out of being around you. It would be the kiss of death.

 

This girl is going to go for the guy who can provide her with the biggest challenge and the most interesting experience. With that in mind, make yourself scarce in her life and do your own thing. That will get her curiosity going. It may even convince her she wants to try to figure you out and have nothing to do with this ex who's playing all his cards right out in the open.

 

Hasn't anybody every talked to you about this sort of stuff?