shady2pac Posted December 15, 2007 Share Posted December 15, 2007 My friend has been married for 15 years. have 2 kids. after a trip from her native country, my friend found out that she has been talking to another married man (he is working on building contract with her property) - beyond just business e.g. about her life, husband, kids etc..twice or thrice at odd hours behind her husbands back. She even set separate bank account and had her telephone bill to this person (international) on auto-withdrawl. this went on for 2 months+ and she was finally confronted by my friend. She said she did nothing to break fidelity and it was just pure friendship. However, it was discovered that she and this man (married with kids) did exchange words like I love you etc. which she claims was casual with no feelings behind it. My friend is devastated. Wife says she is very sorry but she had no ill will behind what she did. She says she loves my friend to death and will NEVER do anything to break their marriage. Need help and comments as to what my friend should do and what really happened or could have happened if my friend didnt discover. The man claims everything said or discussed was just like friends...although I dont agree as this man was never a friend to begin with, a pure business related acquaintance. Really need help asap to save their marriage. Did she commit sin? Was she cheating? Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted December 15, 2007 Share Posted December 15, 2007 However, it was discovered that she and this man (married with kids) did exchange words like I love you etc. which she claims was casual with no feelings behind Saying I love you to someone else other than your spouse is inappropriate. If she allowed herself to become emotionally involved with someone else, that is called an emotional affair. Also, this woman is not going to 'confess' or 'admit' that she did anything wrong to you, to your friend if she feels she did nothing wrong. You can try to help but it's up to your friend and her husband to try to fix their marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
Author shady2pac Posted December 15, 2007 Author Share Posted December 15, 2007 But she says that the "i love you" was not anything emotional at all. She has no feelings for this man and never had. It was just a casual figure of speech. Is that possible? Link to post Share on other sites
Frances Posted December 15, 2007 Share Posted December 15, 2007 But she says that the "i love you" was not anything emotional at all. She has no feelings for this man and never had. It was just a casual figure of speech. Is that possible? It is always possible. For instant, someone does something you like or gives you something you want and you could say "Oh I love you" but not mean it in the sense that you say it to a romantic partner. Perhaps we are too casual with the words. Some people close their emails, cards and letters with love !!!!! and this can cause trouble to their SO if they see it and do not realise that they say that to a few people. Does she use the I love you to others in a funny way sometimes? Link to post Share on other sites
Author shady2pac Posted December 15, 2007 Author Share Posted December 15, 2007 Not that i know of. Link to post Share on other sites
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