Lizzie60 Posted December 15, 2007 Share Posted December 15, 2007 my MM from work... In a store I came face to face with him and his wife... Ouch.. now this one is NOT good looking... she looks like a 'horse' LOL He then looked for me in the store and we chatted for a few minutes... he just texted me.. saying he felt like frenchkissing me right there in the aisle. yeah right.. 'chicken 'sh*t'' Now this is the second time in a short while that I meet my MMs with their partner... (last time I didn't get to see her face though)... Feels kinda bizarre... but it's nice to put a face to the SO... I hope he won't ask me what I thought of her... I can't lie... Link to post Share on other sites
bestadvisor Posted December 15, 2007 Share Posted December 15, 2007 I bet she's more beautiful on the inside than you are. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted December 15, 2007 Author Share Posted December 15, 2007 I bet she's more beautiful on the inside than you are. I bet she's not.. Link to post Share on other sites
PLAYBRAT Posted December 16, 2007 Share Posted December 16, 2007 I guess in real LOVE looks must not mean much then.........lust or sex..yes. Looks fade...dumb is forever Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted December 16, 2007 Share Posted December 16, 2007 Ewwww. why do you get off on these low life men who just see you as pussy on the side? Where's your dignity? Ugh. Link to post Share on other sites
AriaIncognito Posted December 16, 2007 Share Posted December 16, 2007 Ewwww. why do you get off on these low life men who just see you as pussy on the side? Where's your dignity? Ugh. I've got to say I'm with Touché on this one. You say this with such pride. I suppose it's not our positions to judge you, but I personally can't fathom having such an outlook towards someone elses vows. Link to post Share on other sites
KenzieAbsolutely Posted December 16, 2007 Share Posted December 16, 2007 Ewwww. why do you get off on these low life men who just see you as pussy on the side? Where's your dignity? Ugh. obviously, i don't have personal problem with you lizzie, as i don't know you. but i have to say, i couldn't possibly have said this better than touche. sometimes i am forced to wonder if you are a just a slightly imaginative person who likes to play games on the internet and rile up bunch of anonymous strangers just for fun. i know there are completely heartless people out there who have little to no respect for humanity/themselves, but the way you come off, it just seems so...smug and fake. i like your posts with the jokes in them, though. Link to post Share on other sites
nextel Posted December 16, 2007 Share Posted December 16, 2007 my MM from work... In a store I came face to face with him and his wife... Ouch.. now this one is NOT good looking... she looks like a 'horse' LOL He then looked for me in the store and we chatted for a few minutes... he just texted me.. saying he felt like frenchkissing me right there in the aisle. yeah right.. 'chicken 'sh*t'' Now this is the second time in a short while that I meet my MMs with their partner... (last time I didn't get to see her face though)... Feels kinda bizarre... but it's nice to put a face to the SO... I hope he won't ask me what I thought of her... I can't lie... One of the most important lessons I have learned in life about partners is this.....Its not about what you see, its what you dont see. Link to post Share on other sites
JamieA Posted December 16, 2007 Share Posted December 16, 2007 If these wife's would take care of their husbands at home they wouldn't be straying to Lizzie or be lonely on the computer at night to talk & flirt with me. Link to post Share on other sites
OWoman Posted December 16, 2007 Share Posted December 16, 2007 And just how to you propose they do that? And if it is only about the wife, why do they cheat on the family as well, you know kids, in-laws. Some do, some don't. Sometimes it's only the wife that doesn't know. Link to post Share on other sites
TheSilentType Posted December 16, 2007 Share Posted December 16, 2007 That is some twisted thinking there. Link to post Share on other sites
justice Posted December 16, 2007 Share Posted December 16, 2007 And the point of posting this was to......? Gloat, brag? What? Sorry, I don't see the point other than that. Link to post Share on other sites
Meaplus3 Posted December 16, 2007 Share Posted December 16, 2007 And the point of posting this was to......? Gloat, brag? What? Sorry, I don't see the point other than that. I'm with Justice here! AP:) Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted December 16, 2007 Author Share Posted December 16, 2007 If these wife's would take care of their husbands at home they wouldn't be straying to Lizzie or be lonely on the computer at night to talk & flirt with me. Exactly... I know, in this case, that they have sex about once a month, cause she has her periods 3 weeks/month and refuses to do anything about it. They had arguments over arguments about this. She is just not sexual... (now I can see that). She gave him oral maybe once or twice in 28 years. She never wears lingerie, she thinks it looks stupid on her (I can see that LOL)... He has to hide to masturbate. She wouldn't understand. When I saw her, it all came to my mind.. she looks soooo frigid... in fact I thought she looks like a man dressed up with women's clothes... They soooo don't match together. This is a real mis-matched couple. Link to post Share on other sites
Gwyneth Posted December 16, 2007 Share Posted December 16, 2007 my MM from work... In a store I came face to face with him and his wife... Ouch.. now this one is NOT good looking... she looks like a 'horse' LOL He then looked for me in the store and we chatted for a few minutes... he just texted me.. saying he felt like frenchkissing me right there in the aisle. yeah right.. 'chicken 'sh*t'' Now this is the second time in a short while that I meet my MMs with their partner... (last time I didn't get to see her face though)... Feels kinda bizarre... but it's nice to put a face to the SO... I hope he won't ask me what I thought of her... I can't lie... I'm sure she does look like a horse. I have only seen a photo of my MM's wife and I do not think she's the most attractive woman. I hope I never have to see her face to face. Lizzie, ignore some of these posts and concentrate on how that made you feel--to actually see the wife face to face. Does it give you more insight on your affair, such as--do you feel it's still worth being the OW with this man, or has it made you realize he Is married and that is who he chose to marry? Many people marry the wrong person for the wrong reason. My parents are a perfect example of that. It could be possible your MM married his wife for the wrong reasons, and looks aren't always a reason why someone marries. If a man only marries a woman based on her looks, it doesn't say much for the kind of person he is. Shallow if anything. Ever see the movie Shallow Hal? Link to post Share on other sites
EnigmaXOXO Posted December 16, 2007 Share Posted December 16, 2007 Why are you always comparing yourself to other women, Lizzie? Especially to the women these clients are married too?? The last one you said was “beautiful” ... but criticized her for being “jealous and insecure.” This one you claim looks like a frigid horse-faced man. After seeing some of your older photos on your avatar, you were once a stunningly beautiful woman. No doubt. And I'm sure your looks carried you very far in life. But I’m wondering if since entering your fifties and becoming a grandmother you’re having some difficulties accepting the aging process gracefully. And your hidden insecurities are just spilling out in all sorts of bizarre ways. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted December 16, 2007 Share Posted December 16, 2007 obviously, i don't have personal problem with you lizzie, as i don't know you. but i have to say, i couldn't possibly have said this better than touche. sometimes i am forced to wonder if you are a just a slightly imaginative person who likes to play games on the internet and rile up bunch of anonymous strangers just for fun. i know there are completely heartless people out there who have little to no respect for humanity/themselves, but the way you come off, it just seems so...smug and fake. i like your posts with the jokes in them, though. I am with Kenzie and Touche. I used to think that your posts were quite refreshing Lizzie, but lately I wonder if you are just out to wind people up. This is the second thread with the same subject (but different MM)... What kind of reactions do you really expect? And to all the OW replying to this thread, Lizzie has more than one MM, this isn't the first time that it has happened, and she is different to most of you in the fact that she is under no illusion that the MM are ever going to leave their Ws to be with her, I think thats the last thing she wants, because if they do, she has some damned confusing times ahead! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted December 16, 2007 Author Share Posted December 16, 2007 Why are you always comparing yourself to other women, Lizzie? Especially to the women these clients are married too?? The last one you said was “beautiful” ... but criticized her for being “jealous and insecure.” This one you claim looks like a frigid horse-faced man. After seeing some of your older photos on your avatar, you were once a stunningly beautiful woman. No doubt. And I'm sure your looks carried you very far in life. But I’m wondering if since entering your fifties and becoming a grandmother you’re having some difficulties accepting the aging process gracefully. And your hidden insecurities are just spilling out in all sorts of bizarre ways. I am not comparing myself to any other women per say... I think that any OW on here would be curious to see what the W looks like and would 'unconsciously' compare themselves to her. I would never go out of my way to see one of them.. but if I come face to face, yes... I will compare myself to her... and if she would be more beautiful, I would say so.. I have no problem with that. ps: this MM is not a client.. he's a lover. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted December 16, 2007 Share Posted December 16, 2007 ps: this MM is not a client.. he's a lover. You must admit Lizzie, it is a little hard to keep track. No offense. Link to post Share on other sites
mopar crazy Posted December 16, 2007 Share Posted December 16, 2007 Exactly... I know, in this case, that they have sex about once a month, cause she has her periods 3 weeks/month and refuses to do anything about it. They had arguments over arguments about this. She is just not sexual... (now I can see that). She gave him oral maybe once or twice in 28 years. She never wears lingerie, she thinks it looks stupid on her (I can see that LOL)... He has to hide to masturbate. She wouldn't understand. When I saw her, it all came to my mind.. she looks soooo frigid... in fact I thought she looks like a man dressed up with women's clothes... They soooo don't match together. This is a real mis-matched couple. Ya know, this just pisses me off. So, b/c of the reasons you explained above Lizzie makes it OK for him to cheat on her? WTF? What happened to for better for worse, in sickness and in health? I guess that doesn't mean ***** anymore in a M does it. If he is that unhappy the f@cking prick should get a D instead of stepping out on her. My cousin's W has female problems too and doesn't have sex w/ him that often. He had an A w/ the secretary and his W found out. His own mother (my aunt) went to her and said if she was taking care of his sexual needs he wouldn't have stepped out on her. He doesn't want to work on the M, he wants to end it so they are going through a D. All this from a very strong Christian family, makes me ill! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted December 16, 2007 Author Share Posted December 16, 2007 Ya know, this just pisses me off. So, b/c of the reasons you explained above Lizzie makes it OK for him to cheat on her? WTF? What happened to for better for worse, in sickness and in health? I guess that doesn't mean ***** anymore in a M does it. If he is that unhappy the f@cking prick should get a D instead of stepping out on her. My cousin's W has female problems too and doesn't have sex w/ him that often. He had an A w/ the secretary and his W found out. His own mother (my aunt) went to her and said if she was taking care of his sexual needs he wouldn't have stepped out on her. He doesn't want to work on the M, he wants to end it so they are going through a D. All this from a very strong Christian family, makes me ill! Of course it makes it OK for him to cheat on her... I can see his point... he adores his kids, he has a financially comfortable life with his family... why should he get a D.. and put his children through stress. I know what she has, I had the same problems... and I seeked medical help. she won't because it suits her to just ignore his sexual needs. she is not sexual so she expects him to just live with it. In this case, I totally understand him, I would do the same thing. I have no patience with women who give their husbands sex once a month and think that they will be faithful and act as if nothing is wrong... it is just ridiculous to think a man/woman can live with sex 10-12 times a year. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted December 16, 2007 Share Posted December 16, 2007 While I agree that a healthy sex life is an important part of a good marriage (although there are posters on here who are happily married and have NO sex, and no infidelity either) I don't think that lack of sex makes it instantly OK for one partner to be unfaithful. Link to post Share on other sites
mopar crazy Posted December 16, 2007 Share Posted December 16, 2007 Of course it makes it OK for him to cheat on her... I can see his point... he adores his kids, he has a financially comfortable life with his family... why should he get a D.. and put his children through stress. I know what she has, I had the same problems... and I seeked medical help. she won't because it suits her to just ignore his sexual needs. she is not sexual so she expects him to just live with it. In this case, I totally understand him, I would do the same thing. I have no patience with women who give their husbands sex once a month and think that they will be faithful and act as if nothing is wrong... it is just ridiculous to think a man/woman can live with sex 10-12 times a year. No, it's not ok Lizzie. He made vows to her and he is breaking them. Sex is an important part in a M. I couldn't handle being in a sexless M, but it still doesn't make it right to be unfaithful. Does she know he is cheating? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted December 16, 2007 Author Share Posted December 16, 2007 No, it's not ok Lizzie. He made vows to her and he is breaking them. Sex is an important part in a M. I couldn't handle being in a sexless M, but it still doesn't make it right to be unfaithful. Does she know he is cheating? Well it might not be OK for a lot of people who believe in M.. but, personally, I do not believe in marriage... I think it is unrealistic to think that, because you 'vow' when you were 18-20 year old (as if you know then that you have the right person for you LOL), you are condemned to sleep with that same person for the rest of your life.. it doesn't make sense to me. It's insane IMO. I had periods too, and when it wasn't heavy, I would have sex... but in her case, she string him in with her periods to avoid sex... it is quite obvious. No, she doesn't know... I don't want her to know... I don't want him full time, and he knows that. She calls him 10-15 times a day.. for nonsense. She's a SAHM and very dependant on him. She once called him cause the coffee pot had broken... geezzzz Maybe he feels sorry for her.. Since I've seen her, I just can't chase that 'image' in my head... they are soooo different. Really bizarre... I've seen other couple before and they have something in common.. in this case, I can't see anything. Not that it matters really, but I just find it strange that they are matched. He once told me that he doesn't love her anymore but she's his best friend. After 28 years I would think that they have to be good friends... LOL Link to post Share on other sites
PLAYBRAT Posted December 16, 2007 Share Posted December 16, 2007 YIKES.... Lizzie...no offense but you sound pretty heartless. There IS a lot to be said for being married to someone who IS your 'best friend". What if you were disabled or paralyzed and could no longer HAVE sex? What would you have to rely on then?? If it's your compassion or personality I think you'd be ONE lonely woman. Link to post Share on other sites
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