Author Lizzie60 Posted December 16, 2007 Author Share Posted December 16, 2007 So if she's so inferior to you as a woman then why are you so obviously jealous of her? that made me smile.. I am sooooo not jealous of her.. you have no idea... I have 0 jealousy fiber in my body... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted December 16, 2007 Author Share Posted December 16, 2007 One question though - If that ever does happen and you find that one man to get old with - How would you feel if you were exclusive with him and found out he wasn't exclusive with you and had OW on the side. And let's say that the kind of relationship you had with him was supposed to just be the two of you, no outsider helpers allowed... I know you don't believe in marriages, I guess I don't understand why you can't respect those who are in them. If I ever find that man to grow old with.. and he cheats on me.. I just don't want to know about it... I think that, most probably, I will not be as sexual as I am right now.. so it won't bother me as much. But to be honest, I wouldn't want to know .. and I wouldn't try to find out either. I would think that as people get older they don't cheat as much LOL. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted December 16, 2007 Author Share Posted December 16, 2007 Ok I am sick of that line... "if the men cheat they cheat"...LOL..like the women have NO brains to think with. MAYBE..just MAYBE if the women these men cheat with closed their legs and said.."go home to your wife you cheating jerk"....less affairs would happen??? I am sorry but this type of thread...with women like Lizzie who BRAG about sleeping with MARRIED men gets under my skin. She does not HIDE the fact that she enjoys it....THAT is the kind of woman I am talking about. Not the woman who was kept in the dark or LIED to. That is what I am talking about. So please stop using that line. MANY MANY MANY women who stay in affairs should be held accountable as well. you my be sick of this phrase but it's true... I didn't force them to have sex with me.. I am not married...they are... and if this kind of thread or my posts get under your skin... please by all means... stay away from it. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted December 16, 2007 Share Posted December 16, 2007 But would it hurt your feelings if he did have an OW on the side? See, I know what you're doing and you can't hide that from me...I know you abit better now, eh...You know what I'm asking. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted December 16, 2007 Author Share Posted December 16, 2007 But would it hurt your feelings if he did have an OW on the side? See, I know what you're doing and you can't hide that from me...I know you abit better now, eh...You know what I'm asking. WWIU... I honestly can't say it would hurt me or not... I don't know.. I have never lived this situation.. I can only speculate.. to be honest, with you.. no bull.. I think the older men get the less they cheat... would it hurt me... I have absolutely no idea... maybe it would.. maybe not... maybe I would only want someone to grow old with, a kind of companion, a best friend... not necessarily a sexual partner anymore... With all the men I've had in my life (well the last 10 years) I can say that whenever I retire... I will deserve a nice, peaceful, comfy retreat... lol Link to post Share on other sites
bestadvisor Posted December 16, 2007 Share Posted December 16, 2007 Lizzie, where and how did you meet all these married men? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted December 16, 2007 Author Share Posted December 16, 2007 Lizzie, where and how did you meet all these married men? some at work.. mostly on the Internet and Phone dating lines... Link to post Share on other sites
PLAYBRAT Posted December 16, 2007 Share Posted December 16, 2007 GEL...I was never an OW in the true sense of the word. I had a friend who I am STILL friends with..who I had feelings for LONG before he was married. I never crossed that line with him and never would BECAuse HE WAS MARRIED. So yes...I AM entitled to say what I am saying because just because you FEEL something, doesn't mean you have to ACT on it...and guess what?? No one got hurt, no one got betrayed, we are STILL friends and he has a HELL of a lot more respect for me....but more so I have more respect for MYSELF. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted December 16, 2007 Author Share Posted December 16, 2007 GEL...I was never an OW in the true sense of the word. I had a friend who I am STILL friends with..who I had feelings for LONG before he was married. I never crossed that line with him and never would BECAuse HE WAS MARRIED. So yes...I AM entitled to say what I am saying because just because you FEEL something, doesn't mean you have to ACT on it...and guess what?? No one got hurt, no one got betrayed, we are STILL friends and he has a HELL of a lot more respect for me....but more so I have more respect for MYSELF. Does his wife knows about you and him? You had an ea with this guy.. even if you didn't act upon it... you still had feelings for him... Link to post Share on other sites
PLAYBRAT Posted December 16, 2007 Share Posted December 16, 2007 I am not throwing stones here either. I never "broke up" with the MM I am friends with...I simply decided I was better off NOT pursuing a romantic relationship with him. It was MY choice. So please don't turn this into a "bitter OW" dispute. That is NOT what this is about. Link to post Share on other sites
PLAYBRAT Posted December 16, 2007 Share Posted December 16, 2007 Yes his wife DOES know we are friends....but that is irrelevant because it never went any further than that. ..and I am not a threat to his marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
bestadvisor Posted December 16, 2007 Share Posted December 16, 2007 GEL...I was never an OW in the true sense of the word. I had a friend who I am STILL friends with..who I had feelings for LONG before he was married. I never crossed that line with him and never would BECAuse HE WAS MARRIED. So yes...I AM entitled to say what I am saying because just because you FEEL something, doesn't mean you have to ACT on it...and guess what?? No one got hurt, no one got betrayed, we are STILL friends and he has a HELL of a lot more respect for me....but more so I have more respect for MYSELF. Good for you. You deserve to be respected. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted December 16, 2007 Author Share Posted December 16, 2007 Yes his wife DOES know we are friends....but that is irrelevant because it never went any further than that. ..and I am not a threat to his marriage. Well I am not a threat either to any of my MMs' marriages.. Link to post Share on other sites
vanilla chai Posted December 16, 2007 Share Posted December 16, 2007 You know what I don't understand is why does the ow always say that the wife is ugly. I mean does it really matter in the end,mm still chooses to stay with that so-called ugly wife. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted December 16, 2007 Author Share Posted December 16, 2007 You know what I don't understand is why does the ow always say that the wife is ugly. I mean does it really matter in the end,mm still chooses to stay with that so-called ugly wife. I never said that all the W are ugly... in this case, she really is... I was kind of 'surprised' that he was with such an ugly woman... She probably is a very nice woman.. but she is ugly... what can I say. If the SO is beautiful.. I have no problem saying she is beautiful... Does it matter... no.. not at all.. I am not sleeping with her... I can just imagine her when she gets up in the morning.. ewwww... LOL... One thing which is good for him... he doesn't have to worry about anyone stealing her.. LOL Link to post Share on other sites
vanilla chai Posted December 16, 2007 Share Posted December 16, 2007 YIKES.... Lizzie...no offense but you sound pretty heartless. There IS a lot to be said for being married to someone who IS your 'best friend". What if you were disabled or paralyzed and could no longer HAVE sex? What would you have to rely on then?? If it's your compassion or personality I think you'd be ONE lonely woman. ITA PB, I'm pretty sure lizzie is going to find fault with all her mm's bw's. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted December 16, 2007 Share Posted December 16, 2007 Yes his wife DOES know we are friends....but that is irrelevant because it never went any further than that. ..and I am not a threat to his marriage. But are you having an emotional affair with him? His wife knows about you, but she isn't aware of the feelings between you and her husband. Now, I don't know if you two spend alone time together, talk on the phone and how close you are (in the sense, do you speak to him daily, email with him and are a big part of his life) because if you are, that is unfair to his wife. Just like what Lizzie is doing with her MM by sleeping with them, the husbands attention and energy are being put into someone else instead of their own wives... Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted December 16, 2007 Share Posted December 16, 2007 I never said that all the W are ugly... in this case, she really is... I was kind of 'surprised' that he was with such an ugly woman... She probably is a very nice woman.. but she is ugly... what can I say. If the SO is beautiful.. I have no problem saying she is beautiful... Does it matter... no.. not at all.. I am not sleeping with her... I can just imagine her when she gets up in the morning.. ewwww... LOL... One thing which is good for him... he doesn't have to worry about anyone stealing her.. LOL Ok, that made me laugh. Hope you don't mind my going off-topic for a second but that reminded me of this song. Has anyone heard this song? Here are the lyrics: If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life, Never make a pretty woman your wife. So from my personal point of view, Get an ugly girl to marry you. Chorus A pretty woman makes her husband look small, And very often causes his downfall. As soon as he marries her, then she starts, To do the things that will break his heart. But if you make an ugly woman your wife, You'll be happy for the rest of your life. An ugly woman cooks meals all the time, She'll always give you peace of mind. Chorus Don't let your friends say you have no taste, Go ahead and marry anyway. Her face is ugly, her eyes don't match. Take it from me, she's a better catch. Chorus Say, man? Hey baby! I saw your wife the other day. Yeah? Yeah, and she's sure is ugly. Ha! Yeah, she's ugly, but she sure can cook, baby! Of course, I don't agree with all of that, but it's still funny and your remark reminded me of that song. Yeah, alright. Unfortunately, she has acne. That's a shame, baby. Yeah, baby. Link to post Share on other sites
Storyrider Posted December 17, 2007 Share Posted December 17, 2007 These threads get Lizzie a lot of attention. There is a huge payoff for her every time she posts something outrageous, even when the feedback is negative. Just pointing that out. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted December 17, 2007 Author Share Posted December 17, 2007 These threads get Lizzie a lot of attention. There is a huge payoff for her every time she posts something outrageous, even when the feedback is negative. Just pointing that out. Outrageous? Outrageous for you maybe.. but I don't think it's worst than many other posters who talk about their SO or their MM or whatnot. what is the payoff... Am I suppose to get some kind of prize... Link to post Share on other sites
Impudent Oyster Posted December 17, 2007 Share Posted December 17, 2007 that made me smile.. I am sooooo not jealous of her.. you have no idea... I have 0 jealousy fiber in my body... Your constant put-downs of his wife is evidence to the contrary. Link to post Share on other sites
Storyrider Posted December 17, 2007 Share Posted December 17, 2007 I'm talking about the emotional payoff from the attention you get here. You don't want advice, clearly. I'm not saying you should stop posting, I am just pointing out one of your motivations. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted December 17, 2007 Author Share Posted December 17, 2007 Your constant put-downs of his wife is evidence to the contrary. WOW 'constant' that's a big word... I think I talked about her 2 or 3 times.. I rarely talk about their Ws... unless I see them or hear from them... other than that I couldn't care less. Link to post Share on other sites
mopar crazy Posted December 17, 2007 Share Posted December 17, 2007 WOW 'constant' that's a big word... I think I talked about her 2 or 3 times.. I rarely talk about their Ws... unless I see them or hear from them... other than that I couldn't care less. I was that way too, when I was the OW. I seen his GF once and honestly, I couldn't understand why he was cheating on her. She was cute and petite. She was nice but yet really quiet. I don't think she knew who I was though and if she did, maybe that is why she was so quiet. She didn't cross my mind unless it was the rare occasion he brought her up and that was only one time in our 2 yr A. I did bring her up one time, and we talked about her a little bit. He never had anything bad to say about her, he just wasn't ready to settle down w/ one woman. He was a man whore, big time! I just feel so sorry for those who have no morals about cheating w/ a MM. It honestly saddens me ppl are like that. Link to post Share on other sites
PLAYBRAT Posted December 17, 2007 Share Posted December 17, 2007 To WWIU: The guy in question and I are friends....but we do not talk as often as we used to BEFORE he got married. Before that...yes I was pretty constant in his life.We talked very often...but it was my choice AFTER he got married to put an end to it. I also thought it was not healthy.....for us to continue pursuing things as we were. Hope that answered your Q. Link to post Share on other sites
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