What do you think?

[Peter123]

Here is the thing....

 

I am a 21 year old university student, still living with my parent because I don't make enough money to live on my own.

 

The situation at home however is starting to reach a point where me and the rest of the family really cant stand each other anymore.

 

The first thing is church, my parents are somewhat religious (not very as they often forget to pray and if they do its always the same memorized couple of lines), I am not religious I've never felt anything for any religion and I have made an informed decision that I dont believe. However my parents keep incisting I go to church with them. If I tell them I dont want to, they threaten to kick me out of the house, or other times it just turns into a big fight (in which they dont act very Christian).

 

Now if it was just that I could probably suck it up for a year or 2 more and just move out ASAP, however more things are going on namely.

 

I am currently studying Economics and am now doing an unpaid internship for 40 hours a week, on top of that I work on saturday for another 8 or 9. My parent despite this are always complaining that I am costing them too much money and that I should work more. (This is the first thing I hear when I wake up to go the work and the first thing when I get back)

And its not just them saying it, but by the tone I can hear they are really meaning it its like its filled with loathing.

 

I dont spend a lot of there money at all, in my opinion in fact I pay for my education myself partially with government loans and partially with my parttime work. The only things they pay for is the normal stuff like food and rent (for the family house).

 

I really wish I could afford moving out because as of the last few years I really have the feeling my parents dont care for me. They only need me to go to church to keep up the appearance of a happy family. At home they ignore me or worse... However I also dont want to give up on my studies as I've already done 2.5 years of uni.

 

The mood at my place is so bad that often I stay at my internship untill the building closes so I am not at home, and it appears its only getting worse.

 

This post was mostly just a rant, but my question is, is this normal behaviour for parents? None of my friends seem to have the problems I do at home......

 

Has anyone else experienced this?

[amaysngrace]

My parents have a house a block from the beach. They invite us to stay there anytime as long as we make it to mass on Sunday. That's their only stipulation.

 

It's important for parents I guess that their kids go to mass. And when you mock their religion you are mocking them because it's what they have chosen for you. You are coming into your own identity. You are growing up. And you can make these choices for yourself for the rest of your life.

 

But while you are under their roof you should suck it up. It'll make things a lot more pleasant at home. Go to church and do it willingly. It's not forever...it's just for now.