I don't know what he wants from me

[Kiahleigh]

My ex left me Thursday when I asked him why he said he couldn't stand to argue anymore which I didn't think the arguing was excessive. He left home we lived together since September. I have been devasted since then to the point of just being sick. Every minute that passes I miss him so much.. I kept calling him, texting him only for him to turn his phone off or to shut me down again. So last night I told myself I had enough I told him I was done and I was letting go. Now today he keeps texting me I he doesn't want me then why won't he let me let go of him. the last 3 text said

252 PM "Really gonna miss you sucks it didn't work out"

410 PM (talking about last night) "I dont understand what I did so bad for you to say that I told you I wasn't comming over is it just cause you didn't get your way"

415 PM "its just bothering me. we were on ok terms. why do you have to make this such a hateful thing now"

423 PM"ok I see, I just take it as it is. you really do turn into a b**ch when you don't get your way"

 

 

I havent text back even though I really want to I miss him so much and would do anything for him back but why all of sudden is who doing this what does it mean. I thought I was giving him what he wanted by leaving him alone.. Does this mean there is hope for us or what or does he just like to watch me grovel please help guys thanks

[JustinWolf]

Hmm, well I'm not really that good in those things but considering what he sent you as txts. I do believe that he is confused and he's not too sure what he truly wants.You can continue ignoring him and get into strict NC and honnestly it's gonnna help you forget him and move on.

 

423 PM"ok I see, I just take it as it is. you really do turn into a b**ch when you don't get your way"

 

That's no way to talk to a woman anyways. Sometimes, when you just start being sad over someone leaving and try to get in touch with them, they know they are in control and feel superior, the moment you let go (just like you did), they can feel that and then they feel they aren't in control anymore and try to get back in touch and want answers. So my suggestion to you is this, think about YOUR happiness first, about YOUR priorities, about YOUR life, everything that deals with YOU. And you'll feel much better. When he sees you are much happier and all perhaps, he's gonna decide to tell you how much he misses you and how much he cares for you, then you can decide if you want him back. Good luck

[Ronni_W]

"you really do turn into a b**ch when you don't get your way"

 

Hhmmm...it seems that he is a little *unhappy* now that you have found your backbone -- good for you, so sad for him!

 

If he wants to call it "being a b!tch" because you're taking care of yourself and going NC for a while or forever...do you really care?

 

To me, people who name-call are just trying to control the situation by goading and manipulating the other person to do (or not do) something.

 

YOU know you're not what he says, and the people who love and care about you also know it.

 

Have some fun...stay strong and on the high road that you've chosen for your self, and just keep letting him do whatever comes to his feeble mind to do.

 

I know it's hard to ignore, especially if there's also that part that would love a happier, more harmonious relationship.

Hang in there, and lean on your 'Shack pals when it gets too much. Best of luck.

[JustinWolf]

By the way, you're really beautiful and you have a wonderful smile, just keep smiling like that

[Love_Stoned94]

yeah i know how you feel by wanting to do whatever it takes to get ahold of him.

 

I do the same. im still depressed and i still hope its her when she calls me or like i still go towards her house when i shouldnt. im just so use to doing that. but now. she doesnt talk to me anymore and it kills me to death. all i want is to be happy and only way to do that is make myself happy first.

 

But ignore him to your best ability. me and you both are going through the same feelings right now. i know how you feel. but eventually they will come back if they really care so much about us!!