R2litefan Posted June 7, 2003 Share Posted June 7, 2003 Hi all! I am writing more or less to get this off of my chest. I really don't know what I can do about it, maybe one of you can help me if at all possible. Here's the situation: My friend, who I will call Joan, lives 350 miles from me now and when she and her husband and kids lived near me my husband and kids spent many hours together as friends. Well, she got divorced and moved away with her children, I got divorced and stayed here and although we kept in touch we just weren't able to stay all that close. Since she has moved she hasn't been able to keep a job, she drinks all the time and is hooked on chat rooms and has gotten herself into scary situations with men she's met online when they show up on her door step. When these things happen to her, she calls me for advise and we talk and talk and talk. But she always ends up going back to doing the same thing. She has just lost another good job and is about to lose her home and all that she has worked for. She is willing to give up her home, but not the internet, not the drinking, and I don't know what I can do to help her. It is breaking my heart to see my good friend, who is such a wonderful and beautiful person do this to her life. I feel so helpless but I just can't seem to get her to see that there is more to life than chatting with men on the net. Thank God her children are adults now and are not suffering from this. Any suggestions anyone? Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted June 7, 2003 Share Posted June 7, 2003 It's nice for you to be concerned about your friend but it's her life to waste. A lot of people get addicted to Internet chatrooms and totally neglect other important aspects of their lives. You are not responsible for your friend...or for bailing her out when she becomes homeless. Say a few prayers for her and let her make her own destiny. Perhaps these are lessons she must learn. It is not in your power to live another person's life for them so let go of that idea and send only love and nice thoughts her way. She's going to need them. If she has grown children, it would be their place to intervene in their mom's life if it's not too late. Do they know about what she's doing to herself. If not, give them a call if you know how to contact them...and then back off. Link to post Share on other sites
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