hardtobeastepmom Posted December 18, 2007 Share Posted December 18, 2007 My husband's ex get married, quit job and now is trying to get more money from my husband by child support based on her unemployement. One more thing is she gets me involve into this picture. She said that her daughter depressed every weekend she comes over her dad's house because of her step-mom. Can you image what kind of person she is. She tries to destroy my family, my relationship with family-in-law and now...what can I do to stop her? She doesn't let my family alone. Before then, when they divorce my husband paid child support and paid debt for her but she told everybody that she didn't get anything. What a woman?????????? Please give me ideas to stop that woman. Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted December 18, 2007 Share Posted December 18, 2007 Seek legal aid so that when this goes to court he'll know his rights. And she sounds like the type of woman who would benefit from parenting courses offered at family court. In fact I think all three of you could benefit from it. But it may only be offered to them as the parents. Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted December 18, 2007 Share Posted December 18, 2007 You won't be able to deal rationally with her as she sounds like she has real issues. I doubt you (or anyone) could "stop" her or influence her behaviour in any meaningful, positive way. What you can do is just be the best possible mom to your step-daughter, and allow your knowledge that this woman is just talking lies and nonsense to give you peace of mind. Personally, I'm glad your step-daughter has you in her life, to show that people can be happy without drama and hostility. Your relationships with your in-laws will also thrive if you just stay positive and upbeat with them, and don't get into the same antics as the ex. Yes, your husband does need to continue to ensure that he has good legal counsel to deal with issues that arise due to his prior marriage. Best of luck - hope you have a happy and peaceful Holiday. Link to post Share on other sites
alterego1234 Posted December 18, 2007 Share Posted December 18, 2007 My husband's ex get married, quit job and now is trying to get more money from my husband by child support based on her unemployement. Can't help you with the rest, but in my state this wouldn't fly with the court...the court would say that if she was making $X before she quit, then child support from your hubby would be based on $X, not $0. In fact, the court would get rather testy about it because they don't care about the parents, just the kids. Also, I pay my child support, but the amount I pay is ordered by the court in an official decree. I wouldn't pay a different amount to my ex unless she went to court and got the court to change the CS amount. Your hubby's ex can ask for more from him, but unless she goes to court and gets the court to agree, I'd listen to her like the sound of one hand clapping. And courts will listen to both sides and make a reasonable decision most of the time. ae Link to post Share on other sites
Author hardtobeastepmom Posted December 19, 2007 Author Share Posted December 19, 2007 The ex filed about more money on child support based on her unemployment. Beside child support, she wants more from other field, vacation and even request my husband share her attorney fee with a reason and only one is she currently unemployment. She also teaches her daughter misbehave and unrespect us everytime she comes over to make us angry and loose the case. She brained wash her daughter. Link to post Share on other sites
alterego1234 Posted December 19, 2007 Share Posted December 19, 2007 The ex filed about more money on child support based on her unemployment. Beside child support, she wants more from other field, vacation and even request my husband share her attorney fee with a reason and only one is she currently unemployment. She also teaches her daughter misbehave and unrespect us everytime she comes over to make us angry and loose the case. She brained wash her daughter. Well, it'll be up to the court to decide, then. Again, what she wants doesn't matter unless/until she can get the court to agree. In my state, she would be responsible for her own attorney fees, but things may be different where you are. ae Link to post Share on other sites
Author hardtobeastepmom Posted December 24, 2007 Author Share Posted December 24, 2007 Thank you for all of your help and sharing. I have to wait for the judge decision. Lately, she challenges us by telling everyone in my family-in-law that she will take 50 thousand dollars from her new husband to make our life like hell by suing and court and lawyer and whatever it takes. We are not rich like her husband. We also don't want any challenge or a war with her. She creates everything. Link to post Share on other sites
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