yagottahelp Posted June 7, 2003 Share Posted June 7, 2003 Hello, my gf who also happens to be my best friend and i broke up after going out for 2 1/2 years about a a month and a half ago. Thing were rought for a few weeks, but since, we've hungout a bunch (almost everyday, and initiated by her almost every time). We are still very close.......she just says it's no one else, she just doesn't want anyone. I believe this too, because it's not like she's been running around with a ton of guys, basically just a few girlfriends and me. Well I've been giving her her due space etc. etc.......I can't really figure out anything except for she's moving this summer and she's taking it really hard. Here's the thing.......she still talks about getting married someday (when I question her, I'm like why do you say that stuff, you better mean it if you say it, she's like, people don't just say stuff like that) and the connection we have, she said she'd be bothered if i was with someone else, she's still very attracted to me, wants to hangout a ton, and says when we're not together, she misses me. (like the other night i went over to give her a car key back and she's like "it was just a good excuse to see you if anything else") .......she calls every night after she gets out of work, and always suggest doing things-we hang almost everyday So i've kind of questioned a few things and been like i don't see the problem if you still always want to hangout and are attracted to me and don't want anyone else.......her excuse is "the things we do are what best friends do" But i just don't think the two of us laying on her bed together watching movies at night, or her laying on my shoulder on long car trips, giving me back massages, rubbing my arm and stuff while we'ere sitting places is just "best friends". Well yesterday we went to the beach together and we were kind of flirting and she's like, today can we be best friends that makeout.......i talked to her about i didn't want to ruin how close we were and if she was still attracted to me, that was fine, but i wasn't just going to be used for play. (she's not like that at all but i wanted it to be out in the open). It was the best kissing we've had in a lonnnnnng time, there was deinfately no question she's attracted to me. My question is, from a girls, or guys point too- Is it possible to miss someone, be so ridiculously close, be extrememly attracted, and be jealous if I was with someone else, and just decide you want to have no relationship? We are both 20, so i know it's a big time to grow up- but i'm just kind of boggled on this one. Thanks for any info! Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted June 7, 2003 Share Posted June 7, 2003 She's moving away this summer and she will pull back in stages. She's trying to minimize the pain when she leaves. However, she's going about it in a strange way, perhaps because it's very difficult for her to back off. In any case, it's all over when she moves...so she's preparing herself. Stop trying to analyze this so much. Be her friend but go find romance somewhere else. Don't allow her to keep you as an exclusive reserve if she's not interested in having a relationship with you. Don't even begin to ever try to understand women. That's an area of study at which you will NEVER be successful. Link to post Share on other sites
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