I stopped liking this girl, but....

[andysw]

I still carry some emotional desires for her every time I see her. What's going on?

[JCD]

It's probably your animal instincts coming out Don't see her and it'll pass.

[andysw]

It's probably your animal instincts coming out Don't see her and it'll pass.

 

Animal instincts?

[LikesMeNot]

Unless she's in some of your classes, avoid her. It's happened before to me. If you actually like her again, (if it persists for more than 3 mnths) it's OK to talk to her. if she knew you liked her, don't go crawling back to her unless if she is nice or she sorta liked you back, you'll look like a wimp:eek::eek::lmao::mad:

[andysw]

Unless she's in some of your classes, avoid her. It's happened before to me. If you actually like her again, (if it persists for more than 3 mnths) it's OK to talk to her. if she knew you liked her, don't go crawling back to her unless if she is nice or she sorta liked you back, you'll look like a wimp:eek::eek::lmao::mad:

 

I tried not to like her, but my emotions just erupt whenever I see her, even when I look outside the classroom window as she walks past!

 

We never had proper conversations, but in few occasions we said "you alright?" as we walked past each other. There's this one time when it was just me and her in the hallway and when I walked past her she unexpectingly said "hi, andy!" to me, and I responded back. We could've have a proper conversation from there but I was late for my class and had to be there before I got told.

 

I seriously need to stop liking her, and I believe that I'm not her type (and vice versa).

[Lucasarts]

i dont get it. . . you like her because of her looks or something?

 

do you guys have a past history?

 

if not, i don't see whats so hard about just ignoring her completely. Just ice her. Don't say hi to her, don't acknowledge her existence, and don't even talk about her. And if you don't have a history with her, then why not try to talk to her. . . how do you know shes not your type to begin with? And why are you assuming she doesn't like you either? She seems to be friendly enough to know that you exist and she knows your name.

 

If you do have a past history (rejection, failure, relationship, friendship) then just ignore her and make her think your a complete *******. That way you'll never have to worry about her liking you or you liking her b/c she'll treat you the same way you treat her. You guys won't exist in each others world.

[andysw]

i dont get it. . . you like her because of her looks or something?

 

do you guys have a past history?

 

if not, i don't see whats so hard about just ignoring her completely. Just ice her. Don't say hi to her, don't acknowledge her existence, and don't even talk about her. And if you don't have a history with her, then why not try to talk to her. . . how do you know shes not your type to begin with? And why are you assuming she doesn't like you either? She seems to be friendly enough to know that you exist and she knows your name.

 

If you do have a past history (rejection, failure, relationship, friendship) then just ignore her and make her think your a complete *******. That way you'll never have to worry about her liking you or you liking her b/c she'll treat you the same way you treat her. You guys won't exist in each others world.

 

We went to primary and secondary school together, and now we go to the same college.

 

I first liked her because one of her friends started to spread rumours about me and her in year 6, because we both have similiar backgrounds (I'm asian and she's 1/4 asian).

 

This is totally embarrassing, but her father used to come around and tutor me every week when I was 11 because I was quite a slacker and didn't take school seriously and I believe she percieves me for that. That's part of the reason why I don't want to like her.

[Lucasarts]

so you guys really don't know each other then. . . I don't see why you don't want to like her, if she's on your mind every time you see her.

 

And who cares how you are first perceived, if you can make a good impression when you actually let her know you, than I'm sure she'll change her mind about you (plus, you're assuming that she thinks that way, but how do you really know? plus a lot of people change their ways and attitudes towards things since they were 11 years old. . . )

 

Using the asian background as a reason for liking a girl is alright, but not necessarily a good one to be the main reason of attraction. Get to know her before judging her; you might be pleasantly surprised.

[pisces fish]

You don't really know for sure that she even "likes" you. When you run into someone at college from your hometown, you say "Hi" probably more enthusiastically. She may just like you as an acquaintance she grew up with in her hometown!

Maybe you need to ask her for coffee. A friend never hurt anyone!

[andysw]

You don't really know for sure that she even "likes" you. When you run into someone at college from your hometown, you say "Hi" probably more enthusiastically. She may just like you as an acquaintance she grew up with in her hometown!

Maybe you need to ask her for coffee. A friend never hurt anyone!

 

Ask her for coffee? With our current relationship status (which is not high) it would be awkward to ask her that way. And also we don't often see each other, even if we go to the same college. So why should I?

[pisces fish]

You basically admitted there is something there for you, she gets you going, just admit it.

Also what's wrong with a friendship? That could be more? I agree with the poster who stated don't judge her until you get to know her.

[andysw]

You basically admitted there is something there for you, she gets you going, just admit it.

Also what's wrong with a friendship? That could be more? I agree with the poster who stated don't judge her until you get to know her.

 

I never said that being friends with her was wrong; I even thought about this before.

 

And I have never judged her, either. It's how she judged me instead.

[andysw]

So, if I ever bumped into her again in the hallway, how do I begin and start the conversation (even if it may be shortlived)?

 

One small annoyance about her is that when she says hi to me she walks off without giving me time to respond.

[pisces fish]

Oh, okay, I get it now. She doesn't sound worth your time. I hope you meet a lovely girl who will treat you nicely.

[andysw]

Oh, okay, I get it now. She doesn't sound worth your time. I hope you meet a lovely girl who will treat you nicely.

 

What are you talking about? I never said she's not worth my time. Where did you get this idea?

[Rise Against]

Just say "Hi, how is your day?". It's just an act of kindness.

[andysw]

Okay, I'll try and act casual and be my every true self (if I won't have a bad day that is).

[Replicant]

What are you talking about? I never said she's not worth my time. Where did you get this idea?

 

I believe that would be the fact she walks right by you when you acknowledge her......

 

Your time is better spent on a girl whom will take the time to politely stop when you greet her. Quit wasting time on twits like the girl who you are dwelling on here.

[andysw]

I believe that would be the fact she walks right by you when you acknowledge her......

 

Your time is better spent on a girl whom will take the time to politely stop when you greet her. Quit wasting time on twits like the girl who you are dwelling on here.

 

I don't often see her and nor often does she see me. For 6 1/2 months we only saw each other twice. So, whenever I see her/she sees me again when we walk past I tend to be quite oblivious and the only thing I can think of is she's looking. Not good enough, I know.