Confused81 Posted December 25, 2007 Share Posted December 25, 2007 Well basicall let me cut this short I was with my 1st love at the tender age of 17 I waqs with her till I was 23 and we both went our seperate ways. EVery Xmas I always go to her parents house to give them parents because I still see them as my own parents.... sad i know every year has been fine till today. I called her parents house and arrange to go around which her mum was very happy to see me. But then My ex called me up and told me not to come around> this was the 1st time i heard hear voice since we broke up, dnt get me wrong it hurt. I still went against it and went around her parents house knowing that she was there, I didnt want her to she me so I was running across plp gardens just to drop the present off, I left the gifts at her parents front door and ran like a little boy. Plp were shouting at me to get off there garden at that point i felt stupid. Can u guys/girls tell me why is she being like this to me. I've been nothing but good to her, why wont she let me see her parents. does she still have feelings for me or something or is it a sign by her to tell me to leave her family alone? Link to post Share on other sites
AnotherGirl Posted December 26, 2007 Share Posted December 26, 2007 I don't know why she may be acting like this, but I can think of a few possible reasons. 1) She may still feel awkward seeing you after being with you for so long. 2) She may not want certain memories to resurface if she sees you. 3) She may not feel comfortable with you still visiting ever Christmas despite the break up. Whatever the reason is, I think a lot of it has to do with discomfort. Even if you have always treated her well, oftentimes after a lengthy relationship, people seem like they are unable to have a normal relationship even as friends again. It doesn't necessarily mean you were bad to her...it may just mean that after all you two have been through, it may be awkward for each of you to see each other. There are people who manage to be somewhat normal and close friends again after a break up though...it depends. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confused81 Posted December 26, 2007 Author Share Posted December 26, 2007 awkward meaning there is no more point of going to see her parents againn right? Link to post Share on other sites
AnotherGirl Posted December 26, 2007 Share Posted December 26, 2007 Hum...if her parents still want you over, perhaps arrange a time at which you can drop off the presents without her presence. If you are only interested in continuing your relationship with her parents, they want that as well, and doing so won't make you feel sad for any reason, I would usually say, "Why not?" I am not sure though...situations where the ex's parents are involved are oftentimes tough. As for whether she still has feelings for you, that may not be the case. Unless she shows clearer signs of wanting you back, I would suggest that you take her reaction not as a sign of having feelings for you, but as a sign that she just doesn't really know how to act around you right now, doesn't want you involved with her family, or doesn't feel comfortable with your presence. I know of several people who no longer have feelings for their exes but don't want to be involved in any way with their exes anymore...even after a good long relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confused81 Posted December 26, 2007 Author Share Posted December 26, 2007 You know what babes im kinda getting the clearer picture now. All I do is to be nice and always end up treated like dirt. I will end the relationship i have with her family for good so theres no more memories of her. I Will be stronger and make a big space in my heart for the next lady that walks into my life. All i want is to find a normal girl is that so much to ask for babes? if ur on this site it means u have problems too. if u need a friend my email is [email protected] contact me anytime babes. Why am i so unlucky in love babes? Link to post Share on other sites
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