When do you know it's time to end a family/friendship?

[nalbath]

I just wanted to know what other people think?

 

I'm getting ready to end my friendship/cousinhood with my cousin.

[Citizen Erased]

I wish I knew. There are quite a few people in my family I would love to not ever have in my life again. My sister and father being examples. But it is a thing you can never come back from. What has led to you wanting to end the relationship? Are you 100% sure that you NEVER want anything to do with your cousin?

[Ronni_W]

I'm struggling with a similar situation, and still trying to get clear about what it is about the relationship that isn't working for me.

 

I think it comes down to the fact that I'm not comfortable "being me" with this person, and there's also not a lot of space in the relationship to grow into who I want to be.

 

The person's image of me and what she needs me to be does NOT match with who I am today, or with my vision of who I want to be 'tomorrow'.

 

Not sure if this makes sense...like I said, still trying to make total sense of it myself.

 

EDITED TO ADD: I'm not planning to NEVER speak with this person again...just that I'll be changing (lowering) my expectations, and will not treat this as a supportive, encouraging, nurturing environment for myself -- the emotional intimacy level will change.

Edited December 26, 2007 by Ronni_W

[SayItRight001]

Go with your gut feeling. I learned the hard way about making excuses for friends and family that do not respect you or others. Move on and reduce the amount of hurt and drama in your life.

[JHS]

I just wanted to know what other people think?

 

I'm getting ready to end my friendship/cousinhood with my cousin.

 

Well, this is somewhat of a monumental question and not enough details to really respond thoughtfully, so my response would be: Do what you gotta do. If you want opinions on whether you should end it or something else, let us know (because that's what I am about to do).