onward Posted February 5, 2008 Share Posted February 5, 2008 The Maldives are awesome. I was there in 2000, amazing diving and incredible resorts, total beauty and serenity. You'll meet many Europeans, but very few from the US seem to even know about these atols. If you're flying the sea planes you'll be a real stud, cause its the only way to get around from island to island (and there are 100's of islands there). Link to post Share on other sites
sadhubby Posted February 5, 2008 Share Posted February 5, 2008 good for you jt slap here with the 2 by four awsome i love it. reality sucks maybe her new man can finance her new life hahaha. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jtipouikidis Posted February 8, 2008 Author Share Posted February 8, 2008 Hey everyone, I was thinking about this last night and I can not figure it out. Why the hell would you cheat on someone, it is probably one of the worst things you can do. I mean I feel like I am not good enough, it kills your whole sense of self worth. This was too easy for her, here I was happy as can be and she goes and finds dingelberry at work. Next thing you know bam she is gone. Not to menchion leaving me with all of the guilt of destroying our marriage. Oh by the way she is now trying to deny that she was cheating, even though I have proof. I really do not understand this. I do know there are things I want to change about myself but I was being way to hard on myself. I was guilty of loving my wife, and trying to protect her from being hurt. Little did I know she was going to tear my heart out and stomp on it. Here she is with someone not alone. I come home to an empty bed and house every night, I keep myself busy but still have to come home at some point. I now want to meet someone but I dont want to hurt them, I mean it would be only a rebound and I dont want someone to have to go through what I am going through now, it really sucks!!!!!! where do you even meet someone. When will this pain go away? Link to post Share on other sites
Gunny376 Posted February 8, 2008 Share Posted February 8, 2008 You need but be honest with yourself and them? Link to post Share on other sites
Chrome Barracuda Posted February 8, 2008 Share Posted February 8, 2008 Hey everyone, I was thinking about this last night and I can not figure it out. Why the hell would you cheat on someone, it is probably one of the worst things you can do. I mean I feel like I am not good enough, it kills your whole sense of self worth. This was too easy for her, here I was happy as can be and she goes and finds dingelberry at work. Next thing you know bam she is gone. Not to menchion leaving me with all of the guilt of destroying our marriage. Oh by the way she is now trying to deny that she was cheating, even though I have proof. I really do not understand this. I do know there are things I want to change about myself but I was being way to hard on myself. I was guilty of loving my wife, and trying to protect her from being hurt. Little did I know she was going to tear my heart out and stomp on it. Here she is with someone not alone. I come home to an empty bed and house every night, I keep myself busy but still have to come home at some point. I now want to meet someone but I dont want to hurt them, I mean it would be only a rebound and I dont want someone to have to go through what I am going through now, it really sucks!!!!!! where do you even meet someone. When will this pain go away? I read what you did with that car!!! KICK ASS!!!! Good for you. You did what you needed to do, keep it up! Now if you want to meet someone just be real with them. Tell them the truth, if they turn you down,then dont sweat it. Be cool and find another single woman who's willing to chill with you. Dont even think about your ex. Oh but get those legal papers finalized first! Link to post Share on other sites
Author jtipouikidis Posted February 13, 2008 Author Share Posted February 13, 2008 well it doesnt seem to end, she called me today to get the stuff out of the car. I did not answer at first but she left me a message. well she called again and i answered, she wanted to come by and pick up the stuff so being stupid I said yes, under one condition no one would come with her. Well she came and sure enough her new boyfriend was in the car, she came up to the door and I said there was no way in hell I would open it. She said why. I said come on you brought your boyfriend to come and pick up your stuff. Well she started kicking at the door and I said I am going to call the police if she did not leave right then well she finally left. Well later on tonight her lawyer called and asked if what I was going to do with the car, I said he would have to talk to my lawyer but as it is concerned the car is not hers and he agreed but he asked what about the other car. I said well we are going to have to sell it, then I said well if there is nothing else I should let him go. Well he said one more thing she wants a restraining order. I laughed what are you talking about I have not called her in two months, she was the one kicking at my door today. I can not believe what she is trying to do, bringing her bf and then this. Is there really people like this in this world, wow I could not do this to someone. Link to post Share on other sites
Chrome Barracuda Posted February 13, 2008 Share Posted February 13, 2008 Dont let her push your buttons. You know what do the 180 and go NC, keep it moving. She made her choice to be with someone else. She should have thought about the consequnces before she did it! If anything have your lawyer talk to hers. Bottom line. Dont sweat her anymore she isnt worth it! Link to post Share on other sites
Author jtipouikidis Posted February 29, 2008 Author Share Posted February 29, 2008 Well things are almost done, ironically the seperation agreement came through on Feb 14, (it just fits on how my life is going now) I have now worked 63 days straight. Work is what is keeping me going right now. I am getting tired though, there are still times that I miss her but things do start to get a little better. I know now that I dont want her back she really screwed up my life (for now) It is going to be hard to trust and it all. I can not wait till this is a long distant memory. I am moving on slowly and am starting to enjoy life again. I have always been a person that when something hurts me it hurts me bad, it takes me a long time to recover. It is a trait that I dont like especially since im sure this did not even bother her a bit. She is out there with her bf enjoying her life where I felt like I had failed. Whatever though life goes on. Link to post Share on other sites
DavidB Posted March 1, 2008 Share Posted March 1, 2008 From what I read burying yourself in work isn't such a bad thing. There will come a time where you'll need to balance your life, sorry that it's been so messy for you. Link to post Share on other sites
emotionally_barren Posted March 3, 2008 Share Posted March 3, 2008 (edited) god is there somthing in the air read my story its the same thing !! same day mine left wtf is going on. she actually told me im to controling to!! i told her tonight i didnt want to be friends with her anymore and she flipped out .she has another man visiting her on the weekends so good ridance. Mine is leaving me because I'm not controlling enough! Granted I'm not easy to talk to sometimes and I have my personal failings but I thought letting her go and do almost whatever she wanted was admirable, was what she would want! Now the things she hates about me outweigh the things she loves about me. Turns out letting her do what she wanted backfired because now she has a lover who expresses himself better than I do & she's leaving me for him. Edited March 3, 2008 by emotionally_barren misspell Link to post Share on other sites
sadhubby Posted March 4, 2008 Share Posted March 4, 2008 ive come to relize now that when they drop that hammer on you barren its what ever they see in you that is wrong will be the cuase of there own stupidity. they have to have a reason an excuse for not being able to smell there own ass. justification in there own minds makes it easier for them to handle it. you have fualts so does your wife. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jtipouikidis Posted March 25, 2008 Author Share Posted March 25, 2008 Hey everyone it has been a while since I posted but I have just been keeping myself very busy. Well I have been working very hard lately, and it looks like I will be leaving for my new job at the end of April. I have not talked my w for almost two months now and things have been going a lot better for me. That being true until the last few days, for some reason I cannot get her out of my mind. I dont know why but I am finding myself missing her again. Yes it is very stupid especially what she did to me but I cant help it. Any advice on how to get through this part, I mean it has been 4 months since she left, I thought I would be getting over it by now, dont get me wrong I am trying but I am still having setbacks. Link to post Share on other sites
onmyownagain Posted March 25, 2008 Share Posted March 25, 2008 Hey everyone it has been a while since I posted but I have just been keeping myself very busy. Well I have been working very hard lately, and it looks like I will be leaving for my new job at the end of April. I have not talked my w for almost two months now and things have been going a lot better for me. That being true until the last few days, for some reason I cannot get her out of my mind. I dont know why but I am finding myself missing her again. Yes it is very stupid especially what she did to me but I cant help it. Any advice on how to get through this part, I mean it has been 4 months since she left, I thought I would be getting over it by now, dont get me wrong I am trying but I am still having setbacks. Hi Mate, I don't think you can get over it that quickly. I am only in my third month and like you feel better most of the time, but think it will take years to get over it. She was a big part of your life and you are bound to miss her sometimes, I do with my ex. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jtipouikidis Posted March 26, 2008 Author Share Posted March 26, 2008 The past few days I have been scared that I will not meet someone again. I know that I am young 26 but everyone I know is either getting married or dating someone seriously. I feel like I am running out of time to meet someone yet I dont know if I am ready for a relationship. I really miss the companionship of my wife and I hope that I will get it again soon. I hope that I can give my heart to someone again. I really loved my wife!! Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 26, 2008 Share Posted March 26, 2008 Everyone thinks that after a marriage ending or a relationship ending...All this means is, you're definately not ready to even think about being with someone else. You'll bounce back, when your heart heals. Trust me, you'll know when you're ready to date again and get serious with someone else.. It's okay to miss her and what you had. It's not only the loss of her, it's your whole marriage, a life planned out and sadly she bailed, left you with a broken heart. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jtipouikidis Posted August 19, 2008 Author Share Posted August 19, 2008 Well it has now been 9 months and time for a update. I am now in a job that is exactly halfway around the world from my home. It feels good to be so far away but it also is kind of hard being so far away from any sort of support system. I am here for at least a year, not regretting my decision but thought it would make things much easier. The problem is my new job involves me taking people to their honeymoons. It is pretty hard to see all the happy couples. I also stay at the resorts 3 times a week so that even makes it worse. The new job is awesome though, it defiantly is an experience that I will never regret. Just before I left I started seeing a girl, she seems very sweet and caring. She knows my story and has been really supportive. It really helped me in the fact that I realized that I will end up with someone again. With me being gone for a year though, I am not really expecting things last. I really do not want to invest to much emotionally, I am not ready to be hurt again. Plus I still find myself thinking a lot about my ex. I hope that will go away soon, it doesn't hurt near as much as it did, but it is still there. A dull ache that is in the pit of my stomach. In the last 9 months I have done a lot though. I have been to Vancouver twice, Toronto, South Korea, Singapore, and the Maldives. I have furthered my career to the point that I will not have to worry about money. I just have to learn to be happy alone. I think that is the hardest thing that I have to deal with now. It is coming though, I actually planned a trip for October that will take me to the base camp of Mt. Everest. I am going to do that alone, something that I would never have done before. Link to post Share on other sites
angryyoungman70 Posted August 19, 2008 Share Posted August 19, 2008 In the last 9 months I have done a lot though. I have been to Vancouver twice, Toronto, South Korea, Singapore, and the Maldives. I have furthered my career to the point that I will not have to worry about money. I just have to learn to be happy alone. I think that is the hardest thing that I have to deal with now. It is coming though, I actually planned a trip for October that will take me to the base camp of Mt. Everest. I am going to do that alone, something that I would never have done before. Bravo! I just read this entire thread for the first time and simply wish to congratulate you. Your story is a source for inspiration. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jtipouikidis Posted February 12, 2009 Author Share Posted February 12, 2009 I am now back in my home city and the one year waiting period is over. I am only back for three weeks and then back to work. Being back has brought some memories up but I am much happier now. There will always be guilt that I could have done some things different. That will be something that probably will not ever go away. I do know that I am feeling much better now, sure there are still moments I miss my old life, but I would have never had the opportunity to do the job I have now. Link to post Share on other sites
pelicanpreacher Posted February 12, 2009 Share Posted February 12, 2009 Well it is now Sunday morning and I still cannot believe that she called last night like she did. Now all she is doing is trying to hurt me, that is the only explanation that I can think of. Well this answers my question of if I should give her what she wants. Until now I still cared about her, when someone starts trying to hurt you purposly that care really goes away quickly. I though do not want to go for revenge, just what is fair for me. I just still cannot believe that she would call out of nowhere late on a Saterday night!!!! I swear women can smell when we are having fun. I've just completed reading your thread and I have to say yours is the best one I've ever read. The emboldended part had me ROFLMAO! I would advise that you make sure all inheritance that was granted you was well documented and hope any money parceled therein wasn't comingled in a joint checking or savings account so that you those benefits can be legally construed as assets in tow instead of marital property before assets are divided. Although filing on grounds due to infidelity and abandonment won't impact the division of assets (maybe abandonment will) you'll still achieve the minor victory in knowing that her behavior will be made public knowledge until the end of her days! Let her put that in her pipe and smoke it! Link to post Share on other sites
Chrome Barracuda Posted February 19, 2009 Share Posted February 19, 2009 Yo JT it is awesome to see that the big d was finalized. more importantly it is good to see that you are moving on and are doing better for yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
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