Opposite sides of the world

[Bathwater]

Hi everyone! I am new here and wanted to share my situation.

 

I started talking to this guy on an internet forum about 7 months ago. We basically started talking innocently through private messages about things and issues we have in common. Over the course of a month or two we started texting and calling each other every couple of weeks. What really sucks is that I live in the US and he lives in Australia.

 

We also decided about 2 months ago not to see other people until we meet each other. Then last month he confessed that he thinks he is in love with me. It was a great relief to hear because I am feeling the same way about him. It's getting pretty serious too.

 

We decided he was going to come here for about a month in June and that I would go back to Australia with him and we would go from there deciding where we would live and who would move. We are hoping to be together by next Christmas. He is even looking into if my college credits would transfer if I was to continue schooling there and I am looking into jobs that he could do here.

 

But now the distance is starting to get to me. More of a frustration really. I wish it was June already and he was here with me. He is equally as frustrated. How do you cope with not being able to see someone you desperately want to be with? How do you make the time pass?

[Els]

Hello. I know this isn't the answer to your question, but please do hear me out. Don't plan school/job moves, etc yet. It may be hard otherwise, but it really is a bad idea to think about changing school/jobs before you've even met IRL, much less known each other for long in person.

 

I don't say this because I'm an online love skeptic. I did it myself, a couple of years back, and failed after an 8 month relationship. And I can tell you partly what our mistake was. It was planning and committing too much, too fast, based purely on IM/voice/cam contact. We worried and fretted over what we could do to get together after graduation, families, etc etc without having even gone through the first phase of a relationship together yet. For you cannot really know a person FULLY through online contact. I'm not talking about scammers, liars, etc... I trust that you know he isn't one of that.

 

So meet, have a vacation together, stuff like that. Take it easy and don't start planning moves that'll have such a huge impact on your life (remember, the person moving to be with the other will be leaving family, friends, familiar environment etc and will be making a huge sacrifice) until you've vacationed with each other several times, not just once. Many LDR communities would advise you the same.

 

In response to your original question now , well, I haven't quite found the answer to that myself yet (my current relationship has gone into LDR as well, but this time I knew the guy for half a yr IRL first). Many people recommend going out and making more friends, or finding a hobby that you're passionate for.

 

I wish you all the best.

[taiko]

You cope by continueing to live as normally as possible. He should be staying up late while you are up long before dawn so you can have time together yet still take care of life.

 

At least wait until you meet before making plans to move. Sometimes stuff happens. In the meantime start to learn what Australia requires for you to immigrate. It is almost certainly easier then what America requires.

[ffxwife]

Hi everyone! I am new here and wanted to share my situation.

 

I started talking to this guy on an internet forum about 7 months ago. We basically started talking innocently through private messages about things and issues we have in common. Over the course of a month or two we started texting and calling each other every couple of weeks. What really sucks is that I live in the US and he lives in Australia.

 

We also decided about 2 months ago not to see other people until we meet each other. Then last month he confessed that he thinks he is in love with me. It was a great relief to hear because I am feeling the same way about him. It's getting pretty serious too.

 

We decided he was going to come here for about a month in June and that I would go back to Australia with him and we would go from there deciding where we would live and who would move. We are hoping to be together by next Christmas. He is even looking into if my college credits would transfer if I was to continue schooling there and I am looking into jobs that he could do here.

 

But now the distance is starting to get to me. More of a frustration really. I wish it was June already and he was here with me. He is equally as frustrated. How do you cope with not being able to see someone you desperately want to be with? How do you make the time pass?

 

I guess I really don't understand how you could "love someone you have not even met" It just does not make any sense. I lost my husband of 17 years to a woman he met over the Internet and she came here from England She came here to meet him and was here for a couple of weeks and then came back a couple of months later and now they are married. And, before they even met he said he loved her and she loved him really did not understand that. But good luck to you:)