xenonsrt10 Posted December 27, 2007 Share Posted December 27, 2007 I have to face the music here: I am 20, fairly shy towards women, insecure, yet have been on a date or two the past year or so, those being unsuccessful but good practice for what no to do the next time. All my friends and people who know we well enough always tell me I have one thing that most others guys don't: money. I try not to boast, but being considered fairly rich for my age in net worth, my friends think that I can use this to my advantage. In fact, I go out to eat with friends at restaurants every single day. As a start, my car is one thing. I am on my second car, the first being a two-year old BMW at age 18 and now a brand new $35,000 Lexus sport sedan at age 20. (Not meaning to boast here, just stating the facts). Honestly, should I try to go the "I have more money than everyone else" route just to try and see what happens. I am not so desperate, but the desire to have someone is there and lingering. Thanks for the advice. Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted December 27, 2007 Share Posted December 27, 2007 It depends on what sort of woman you want to attract. If you brag about your possessions and money on dates, chances are you will put off the women who are likely to be genuine and get stuck with the ones who aren't. Link to post Share on other sites
lindya Posted December 27, 2007 Share Posted December 27, 2007 As a start, my car is one thing. I am on my second car, the first being a two-year old BMW at age 18 and now a brand new $35,000 Lexus sport sedan at age 20. (Not meaning to boast here, just stating the facts). Honestly, should I try to go the "I have more money than everyone else" route just to try and see what happens. I am not so desperate, but the desire to have someone is there and lingering. Thanks for the advice. Rather than using your money as a means to impressing women, you could use it to broaden your horizons a bit. Could you, for instance, take some time out to go travelling? That might increase your confidence and make you a bit more outgoing. Or you could join some sports club that's likely to attract a high female membership (eg tennis, horse-riding or just a really nice health club). Personally I wince when men start boasting about their net worth. It shows a total lack of taste and decorum, and I get very embarrassed for anyone who feels the need to stoop to that. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted December 27, 2007 Share Posted December 27, 2007 Personally I wince when men start boasting about their net worth. It shows a total lack of taste and decorum, and I get very embarrassed for anyone who feels the need to stoop to that. Agreed. Don't go that route unless you want to attract the lower end ofthe spectrum of what is desireable. Try to focus on enriching your own life. Make yourself interesting. Find fascinating hobbies, travel the world, do exciting things. This will give you fodder for fascinating conversations and world views that will naturally attract a high caliber of person to you, both with friends and lovers. You're only 20, which is very young. You have a long road to travel. Don't be so eager to partner up with someone. Enjoy your youth, money, and freedom. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted December 27, 2007 Share Posted December 27, 2007 If a girl is attracted when you flash dinero, how do you know she really likes, respects and trusts you? Are these three latter items important to you, in a relationship? Link to post Share on other sites
tommyr Posted December 28, 2007 Share Posted December 28, 2007 I generally don't pry into other people's finances, but hey you posted about $$$ so here goes - 1. A) you have both vehicles paid off, or B) making payments for 7 years? 2. A) you own your house, or B) paying rent? 3. A) you have zero credit card debt, or B) several thousand balance due? 4. A) you max out your 401K each year or B) no retirement fund If you answered B) to any of above, my advice is that you go to the public library and read a book or 3 on personal finance. Pay close attention to the chapter on vehicle depreciation. Link to post Share on other sites
Author xenonsrt10 Posted December 28, 2007 Author Share Posted December 28, 2007 to answer your question: i am a special case. my whole extended family was blessed with an extremely large amount of stock (in the millions). and we are used to receiving large presents like these every once and a while. i did not pay for it myself and am going to college and working for a living. the money doesnt discourage me from going to school, in fact it encourages me to make even more. how can i present myself this way? Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted December 28, 2007 Share Posted December 28, 2007 Are you only looking for arm-candy, where you're only valued for your money? Link to post Share on other sites
Author xenonsrt10 Posted December 28, 2007 Author Share Posted December 28, 2007 no honestly i am looking for a relationship, a solid one. but i have no special strengths i can play to other than money it seems. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted December 28, 2007 Share Posted December 28, 2007 As a number of other members have suggested, why not expand your interests? Take a comedy course, to buff up on your timing. If you like cars, get into racing, either drag or auto-X. Expand your knowledge on current events or politics. Create your own strengths. Link to post Share on other sites
Author xenonsrt10 Posted December 28, 2007 Author Share Posted December 28, 2007 well i am pretty smart with cars and politics and current events. but how can that interest a girl? Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted December 28, 2007 Share Posted December 28, 2007 Xenon = HIDs SRT10 = Viper Who is Hugo Chavez and what does he stand for? Who was assassinated today? Link to post Share on other sites
Author xenonsrt10 Posted December 28, 2007 Author Share Posted December 28, 2007 The President/Leader of Venezuela and he views socialism as a good thing and stands everything is country is against. he and iranian president ahmadinejad are essentially in bed together and both have it out to get the US. Also, Venezuela could block their oil from us former Pakistani prime minister benazir bhutto was assassinated today. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted December 28, 2007 Share Posted December 28, 2007 I'm guessing that your Lexus is an IS250, although it might be an IS350. Right? Which 3 series bimmer did you get, maybe a 330i or was it an M3, although dollar bracket, maybe not? Hmmm...two years old? Link to post Share on other sites
Author xenonsrt10 Posted December 28, 2007 Author Share Posted December 28, 2007 Sure is. But i am not complaining. I am 20 freaking years old! And the car I had before that was a 2003 325i. I like the handling of the 3 better but the look of the Link to post Share on other sites
Author xenonsrt10 Posted December 28, 2007 Author Share Posted December 28, 2007 ..but the look of the IS is superior Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted December 28, 2007 Share Posted December 28, 2007 Okay, I'm a chick and this stuff is interesting to me. I'm also not alone the only female out there with these interests. What are your other interests? Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted December 28, 2007 Share Posted December 28, 2007 ..but the look of the IS is superior Wait for the Audi A4 and S5, if you want real looks. As for real performance, wait for the 135i. It's going to raise the bar above and beyond... Link to post Share on other sites
Author xenonsrt10 Posted December 28, 2007 Author Share Posted December 28, 2007 I love politics and discussing them with friends, love basketball (and know quite alot about it as well as other sports), love movies and actually review them for the school paper, love eating and going to different restaurants and critiquing them.........there is probably more. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted December 28, 2007 Share Posted December 28, 2007 Play to your strengths, xenon. Link to post Share on other sites
Author xenonsrt10 Posted December 28, 2007 Author Share Posted December 28, 2007 I like the A4 and S4, but the new S5 looks stunning and is blazing fast as well. that makes for the perfect combination: beauty and performance. but you are right, the 135i is the best blend of performance (the I-6 twin turbo from BMW) for the money (around $34k). And it looks super hot too. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted December 28, 2007 Share Posted December 28, 2007 You bet about the S5. It's very refined and aggressive looking, all in one package. Power and handling. A nice combination. As for the 135i for looks....meah. Hate the side door panels and the normal icky sideskirts that any BMW has. Aftermarket mods FTW!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author xenonsrt10 Posted December 28, 2007 Author Share Posted December 28, 2007 you have a really solid argument. i just have to be bolder and have more confidence. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted December 28, 2007 Share Posted December 28, 2007 Exactly. Forget about flashing money. It's the last thing you want to show someone, until you're in a committed relationship. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted December 28, 2007 Share Posted December 28, 2007 If you flash the cash then you are going to get women who want to spend it . Why not GIVE your money to those who really need it ? Like donating ( purchasing ) books to children who have none ? Spending the day at the Shelter helping feed the hungry. ? You were blessed with this money. You can't take it to your grave. Why not share it with people who are suffering ? There are hundreds of ways to share your fortune Link to post Share on other sites
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