AugustLane Posted December 28, 2007 Share Posted December 28, 2007 Well now I really feel switched... Turns out his girlfriend is the ONLY girl he has ever slept with. To me that is off limits. But... I have a certain game console and when he heard he got a certain game for x-mas he was all 'I'm coming to your house' I laughed it off and made a joke about needing to clean before having company. He later asked when I would have my house clean. He said to clean tonight so he could come over tomorrow. I said I have a date tomorrow and we agreed on Saturday (he made me shake his hand as a promise that I would get my house clean so he could come over). Then he made the comment that we should get hammered and play. Now I feel like Michael Jackson. I can't promise that if I get to drinking that nothing will happen. But I can promise that I will NOT make the first move. What the hell. I will not cancel. He could and it would be fine, but what if he doesn't. I can't put the moves on a guy for the purpose of sex if he has only slept with one woman. It won't be worth it. But if he makes any sort of move on me- to be honest- I won't resist (I don't think I would sleep with him, but some making out would be fun). Do I need to worry? Is he just going to come over and it's going to be a fun night of drinking and playing video games- or would a guy like this try anything? Like I said- I will NOT try anything- but I won't resist if he does. What do you all think will happen? Anyone care to make a wager ...jk Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted December 28, 2007 Share Posted December 28, 2007 wiiiiii!!!!!! :bunny: Honestly, good luck but I still have reservations. Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted December 28, 2007 Share Posted December 28, 2007 Well this all depends ... Do you have the hots for him ? Does he have the hots for you ? You realize being alone with him that most men take it as a booty call invite if you ask him over to your place. I would not be able to promise anything or keep my hands off him if it were me and I were attracted to him. If he makes a move ( just make sure he's legal , lol ) then you make one back and see if you like it. Does he like older women ? Are you a TRUE Cougar ? Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted December 28, 2007 Share Posted December 28, 2007 Umm... I hope he does a move on you.. but ...but... promise you'll post all the juicy details... I can't wait... Link to post Share on other sites
Author AugustLane Posted December 28, 2007 Author Share Posted December 28, 2007 You realize being alone with him that most men take it as a booty call invite if you ask him over to your place. He invited himself over! Yeah, he is a hottie (and he is legal:)). I just really feel badly even thinking about it now since he has only ever been with his current gf. I have no idea if he is attracted to me. Signs point to yes (he has told me how gorgeous he thinks I am, makes jokes about how he thinks I'm hot, blah, blah, blah- maybe he is just nice)- I can't shake the feeling of MJ. Maybe he will forget he wanted to come over... Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted December 28, 2007 Share Posted December 28, 2007 You should jump his bones Promptly ! Thats some young hot USDA choice cut ! I can't resist the hotties either Link to post Share on other sites
Author AugustLane Posted December 28, 2007 Author Share Posted December 28, 2007 I have a certain game console and when he heard he got a certain game for x-mas he was all 'I'm coming to your house' I laughed it off and made a joke about needing to clean before having company. That should have read: when he heard I got a certain game... Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted December 28, 2007 Share Posted December 28, 2007 That should have read: when he heard I got a certain game... I'm sure it is a positive halo :bunny: Link to post Share on other sites
Author AugustLane Posted December 28, 2007 Author Share Posted December 28, 2007 I'm sure it is a positive halo :bunny: It's not Halo... it's out of this world Link to post Share on other sites
Author AugustLane Posted December 28, 2007 Author Share Posted December 28, 2007 So do we think he will make a move or is he really just a happy-go-lucky-guy coming over to play video games? Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted December 28, 2007 Share Posted December 28, 2007 It's hard to say... it really depends on your 'attitude' if he guess that he has a chance... I bet he'll take it. He will probably try to 'read' you... I think it's up to you...really. Link to post Share on other sites
wookinpanub Posted December 30, 2007 Share Posted December 30, 2007 As a 20 yr old guy myself, I must say, don't feel like MJ. What this dude has going here (or could possibly) is just about every 20 yr old guys dream come true. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted December 30, 2007 Share Posted December 30, 2007 Umm... I wonder how it went tonite with her young hunk... Link to post Share on other sites
Author AugustLane Posted December 30, 2007 Author Share Posted December 30, 2007 It didn't happen. He said he was coming over all day and then at the end of the day he said he was hungry. That's it. Case closed. It wasn't like a big awkward deal or anything. We worked together today and it was no different than usual. I have always thought he might be gay, but now my boss is starting to agree with me (knowing nothing about my little crush). I know he has had sex with his girlfriend (at least that is was he said), but he told my boss yesterday that they are abstinent. I'm sorry, but what 20 year old guy is abstinent with his girlfriend who he lives with. I remember 20 and abstinent wasn't even in my or any guy's I knew vocabulary. This isn't the only indicator, I have noticed things since he started working there and it has always been in the back of my mind that he might be gay and not yet willing/ scared to admit it to either himself or anyone else. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted December 30, 2007 Share Posted December 30, 2007 aaahhhh sorry nothing happened... geezzz I was hoping for juicy details.. moooouuuhahahahaha... but hey... you'll find another one if you really look... young guys are everywhere and more than ever they want older experienced females.. I find it hard to believe that he is abstinent AT 20 and living with his gf... it could be a front for his homosexuality.. he might still be in the closet... OK now you got to help him get out of there... or NOT.. Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted December 31, 2007 Share Posted December 31, 2007 Maybe he wants to come over and get you drunk so he can go through your closet and try on shoes. Link to post Share on other sites
Author AugustLane Posted December 31, 2007 Author Share Posted December 31, 2007 I feel sorry for him if this is the case. From what he has said about his family it sounds like it would be hard for him to come out. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted December 31, 2007 Share Posted December 31, 2007 How did he manage to go from hot, young, previously-committed stud you were lusting for, to a gay man? Is it because he wasn't interested? Link to post Share on other sites
Author AugustLane Posted December 31, 2007 Author Share Posted December 31, 2007 I knew someone would chime in and say this. No, he is still a hot young stud. But I have always had a sneeking suspision about him- and since my boss brought it up on his own, I am thinking about it again. Trust me, I'm a big girl, I can handle rejection without resorting to call a man gay just because he isn't interested. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted December 31, 2007 Share Posted December 31, 2007 I knew someone would chime in and say this. No, he is still a hot young stud. But I have always had a sneeking suspision about him- and since my boss brought it up on his own, I am thinking about it again. Trust me, I'm a big girl, I can handle rejection without resorting to call a man gay just because he isn't interested. It's weird to be living with your gf and abstaining from sex. Unless it's been her call- and not his.... which is why he might be looking for a side game. No, a 20 year old guy doesn't want to come over to a hot older woman's house and NOT get it on. I'd wait and see what happens. He's in retail right?? hmm. lol. Link to post Share on other sites
mikeraw Posted January 2, 2008 Share Posted January 2, 2008 Oh, AugustLane! That sucks that this guy won't put the moves on you. I'm 27 and I find that hooking up with older women is way more satisfying than with girls my age. When I was 23 I had an affair with the comptroller at the company I used to work for. She was 32 and we had to keep it quiet from everyone, especially because my direct boss was having an affair with her, too. I didn't know about this until later, though. But I digress... So I like older chicks and I was looking forward to hearing about those kinds of relationships from the older woman's perspective. Oh, and my 2 cents: Back when I thought I was capable of love I would've adviced you not to do anything with the guy, think of his girlfriend, it's not right, etc, etc... But truthfully speaking, the heck with morality... if you want to do something with someone, just do it. Especially at that guy's age, he should take advantage of every situation he encounters, if even as a learning experience. He can always say no. It'll be hard, but he can always say no. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted January 2, 2008 Share Posted January 2, 2008 Oh, AugustLane! That sucks that this guy won't put the moves on you. I'm 27 and I find that hooking up with older women is way more satisfying than with girls my age. When I was 23 I had an affair with the comptroller at the company I used to work for. She was 32 and we had to keep it quiet from everyone, especially because my direct boss was having an affair with her, too. I didn't know about this until later, though. But I digress... So I like older chicks and I was looking forward to hearing about those kinds of relationships from the older woman's perspective. Oh, and my 2 cents: Back when I thought I was capable of love I would've adviced you not to do anything with the guy, think of his girlfriend, it's not right, etc, etc... But truthfully speaking, the heck with morality... if you want to do something with someone, just do it. Especially at that guy's age, he should take advantage of every situation he encounters, if even as a learning experience. He can always say no. It'll be hard, but he can always say no. Humm.... I like you... You are sooo right... I just had a morning delight with my young lover... he is soooo sweet. Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted January 3, 2008 Share Posted January 3, 2008 If he's really religious trust me they don't want to get laid ( well they do but they don't~ you know what I mean , lol ) Is he really Gay ? Sorry to hear what happened....There are plenty of young guys that love older women Keep trying ! Link to post Share on other sites
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