.. what to say? How to do it?

[Rowen]

Hey it's me again.. sorry. Anyway, I continue to find myself in a delicate and precarious situation.

 

Background for those who don't know.

 

1.She broke up with me in september

2.it's been 3 months

3.WEnt NC a couple times, each time she came back

4.I found out she had a bf in november.. she tried to hide it from me

5.She said she moved part way in with him and still stays at her moms

6. Two weeks ago she came back to me and told me she missed me, she reminissed, said we really know each other well etc..

7.She nervously asked me out for coffee.. I accepted

8.Went for coffee, it was good, she flirted a bit, asked for a hug

9.Two days later she came online to tell me her bf is an alchoholic and drank a 2/6 before coming to her house.. and taht this is his first break down since shes been with him.

 

10.She sends me texts every couple days, asking me whats up, and saying she has lots of free time etc.

 

11.Last night she texts "whats new friend?"

 

I have not responded

 

Note: at coffee, she said things like "you'r a forgiving person" and when talking about my other friend she said "maybe he wants you back...... you should make the first move"

 

garbage like that.

 

What do you think she wants?

I think there may be interest left in her.. and she is scared to come out and tell me. The whole "friend" thing she said last night is weird... but understandable beucase she has a bf and also at coffee I told her My ex ex wanted to get back together with me and I said "hell no" to her because i despise cheaters.

 

So .. is she pulling the friend card out for an excuse to keep in contact with me so she makes me think shes not cheating on her bf?

 

I duno................

 

I think il respond but be more vague than I have been.

 

Note: She always wanted to live with me, the plan was to live in her basement at her moms place this year. My roomate is getting married and she keeps asking about that. Note: she was getting closer to me again after she found out my roomate was getting married and i would need a new roomy or place.

 

She told me at coffee as well that shes not doing well in lamen terms and that her cat is the only thing that makes her happy. And this was before her "BF" reverted to drinking again.

[sedgwick]

Sounds to me like she's testing the waters to find out if you'd be available to her if she did want to get back together. I'd imagine she's ashamed of how she treated you and that's why she's not being more forward, especially since you've broken up and gotten back together before. Whatever the case, i don't think things are going to last much longer with this new bf.

 

I'm confused about the part where you used the pronoun "he" in regard to (another) ex? You're male and you have both male and female exes? Or you're female with male and female exes?

[s_n_d]

To me, It sounds like her current "bf" is really a rebound. I think she definitely wants you back. Its simply obvious to see that.

I think that maybe she moved in with this new bf of hers to show off and let you know that she COULD move in with someone other than you. Thats really twisted but its what i got out of what you just explained above.

[brothermartin]

I agree with SEDGEWICK. Sounds like she found out the hard way the grass is NOT greener, and now she's gazing at familiar pastures. Don't fall for it man.

[Rowen]

Sounds to me like she's testing the waters to find out if you'd be available to her if she did want to get back together. I'd imagine she's ashamed of how she treated you and that's why she's not being more forward, especially since you've broken up and gotten back together before. Whatever the case, i don't think things are going to last much longer with this new bf.

 

I'm confused about the part where you used the pronoun "he" in regard to (another) ex? You're male and you have both male and female exes? Or you're female with male and female exes?

 

No no that was a mistake. Well sort of.

 

I'm a male.. no male ex's haha. She on the other hand, has had one .. female ex. She tried that beucase of curiosity for 2 months and she ran.. said it was weird.

[Rowen]

Alright well she came online just now..... having a small chit chat.

 

Now whenever I ask her how she is.. she just says "about the same"

 

Same as what..s ince you'rebf drank a 2/6 and you were crying for 2 hours?

 

When is she ever going to get to the meat of us......... im not touching it.